Close relatives you no longer speak to?

karen7 said:
I can't travel for a 14hr round trip so the answer will be no and i will be very upset about that
She doesn't believe i am too ill and disabled to get home even though i would love to go home,i adore cornwall,she told me if you can't be bothered to come and see me when i'm alive don't bother when i'm dead,about sums her up that comment
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Awww well atleast you tried babes.
 
Haven't spoke to my dad in almost 2 years. Only spoke to him once or twice a year before that anyway so decided its not worth the hassle anymore
 
The women who brought me up died - my mum I don't speak to and haven't done for a few years and doubt I will ever again.

My family is my kids, Mrs and my dad and that's all I need. Speak to my brother on the phone and he is sound enough but we are different and his wife is a bit hard work.
 
I don't speak to my sister. We've not fallen out, we just don't have anything in common apart from a father. She's a few years older than me and although we were brought up together she left home when I was only 9 or 10. I see her occasionally, usually on Dad's birthday when he likes us all to go out for lunch. When we see each other we're civil but I'd never phone her in a moment of crisis (unless it was my Dad) nor in a moment of celebration.
 
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bluegirl74 said:
I don't speak to my sister. We've not fallen out, we just don't have anything in common apart from a father. She's a few years older than me and altiough we were brought up to gather she left home when I was only 9 or 10. I see her occasionally, usually on Dad's birthday when he likes us all to go out for lunch. When we see each other we're civil but I'd never phone her in a moment of crisis (unless it was my Dad) nor in a moment of celebration.
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My mother hasnt spoken to her brother for almost 30yrs. Im an only child so have no point of reference on siblings, but the ones I know either love eachother to bits or hate eachother. Seems to be a complicated relationship dynamic
 
Uncle Wally One Ball said:
My mother hasnt spoken to her brother for almost 30yrs. Im an only child so have no point of reference on siblings, but the ones I know either love eachother to bits or hate eachother. Seems to be a complicated relationship dynamic
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I don't hate her, more ambivalent tbh. I'm reasonably close to my baby brother. I think it can be complicated by many factors but overall I'm pleased I have siblings, never fancied being nor raising an only child.
 
bluegirl74 said:
I don't speak to my sister. We've not fallen out, we just don't have anything in common apart from a father. She's a few years older than me and although we were brought up together she left home when I was only 9 or 10. I see her occasionally, usually on Dad's birthday when he likes us all to go out for lunch. When we see each other we're civil but I'd never phone her in a moment of crisis (unless it was my Dad) nor in a moment of celebration.
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I know what you mean about nothing in common,it's only a few years ago one of my brothers discoverd my love of football,he is the +1 for one of the officials and he sends me city stuff when he goes to our games.He lives a long way away so we keep in touch on e-mail
My other brother and i have love of tattoo's in common but thats it,he lives near mum and is terminally ill and we keep in touch by text,more with his wife now he can't do it but for about 20yrs i had no contact with either,we weren't brought up to be a close family
 
I've never met one of my mum's brothers, her sister (my auntie) is a whopper and her other brother is nice enough just a bit of a dead beat. I don't speak to any of them or their children (cousins).

I am however blessed with 3 parents who have always been there for me and done their best for me with my mum, dad and step mum. I don't see my brother as much because I live away and he's at Uni but we've always been like best mates.
 
Been on iffy terms with my paternal grandmother since she divorced my grandad a few years back. She did quite well out of it and was backed up by my wealthy aunt and a good solicitor. My brother and I stuck close to him as his health was poor and he hit the sauce in a big way, living alone. As a result we stopped being invited to her birthday parties and I received a few nasty letters from her. All over money, very sad.
 
This is so common, especially among siblings. My gran according to my Ma was inseparable from her sister for 60 years, when my gran married a Welsh man and moved to Wales her sister even moved with them from London. However, when I was born according my Ma my gran became very obsessed with her grandchildren and her spinster sister became quite jealous and thus made a comment which resulted in them not talking to eachother for the last 20 years. I'm 23 now and can't see myself talking to my sister after my parents pass on, we are just completely different and rarely talk even when we are both home for Christmas.
 
I fell out with my brother for a few months over a petty row and it was fucking horrible. We'd both been cunts but both refused to back down. Pig-headed, stupid nonsense. In the end I turned up at his door with a bottle of good scotch, we called each other all the stupid bastards under the sun and drank and got extremely fucked on MDMA. I know that's not everyone's cup of tea, but it worked for us.
 
My dad, died 30 years ago, hadn't spoken to his sister for many years. She left uk to live in Canada when she was 19. She called us up saying she was in Manchester not knowing he had died about 15 years ago. I went to meet her and we get on so well and have had regular contact since. She now lives in Texas and I love her to bits. Although she was surprised my dad was no longer alive, I don't think she was really too upset!
 
Every single member of my dad's family. Several turned on my mum after he passed away and some awful things happened involving the will. They never forgave her for divorcing him despite the fact he was dishonest, selfish and a lousy father. I'd began to give up on him when I was 11.

I last saw that side in 1997. I've no intention of speaking to one of them again regardless.
 
I still speak with my Brother, we share similar views/interests, only difference really is he's a Rag (yet HIS father was a Blue) lol...
See my Mother most days, she's been fully supportive of me and has been a superb Mother - everything a boy could ask for.

Rarely see anyone on my Mothers side, people have mainly moved away from Greater Manchester. Family living up and down the country.
On my Fathers side, again most people have moved away from the area, with my own Father moving over to Spain 15yrs ago, so I only ever see him like once a year?
and he might phone me for around a minute (if that?) at Christmas.

Even some family who still live around nearby they have rarely made any effort to contact me.
I added Family on websites such as Facebook but a few have eventually removed me, for no apparent reason other than possibly because we didn't converse??

I fell out with my Mothers mother and her Husband a few years back when I ranted about the physical/sexual abuse stories I had been told by my Mother and her Sisters.
I went to my cousins wedding a few years ago and was invited, but upon arriving I wasn't given a place at the wedding so that relationship was ended.

I've learnt to just cut my ties with Family. altogether.. I somewhat hate it when some Family (such as my Father) just randomly contacts me like he's my best buddy or something, even though he hasn't bothered with me for however many years.
You're either in or you're out.
 
Since my mums funeral when I was 18 I have only seen my step bother a few times out of the whole family. That was back in 2001, fuck them all no one gave a shit that an 18 year old lad was suddenly left on his own - but I made it, I'm in a happy place and now have a wonderful family of my own.
 
Celeste said:
My dad, died 30 years ago, hadn't spoken to his sister for many years. She left uk to live in Canada when she was 19. She called us up saying she was in Manchester not knowing he had died about 15 years ago. I went to meet her and we get on so well and have had regular contact since. She now lives in Texas and I love her to bits. Although she was surprised my dad was no longer alive, I don't think she was really too upset!
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LOL ! a positive came from it tho.. so look at it that way, it brought you two closer together.
 
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