Emotional detachment.

[Tricky Dickys Right Foot Shot]

Okay I'm going to make this brief as I can, as it's a pretty embrassing subject for me to talk about.

Ever since I went back to uni (part time) 2 years ago I found myself under a lot of stress worrying about failing, getting work done, revising, studying ect... as well as juggling my full time 42 hour a week job (that I've been doing for 13 years and hate) as well.
The perks of the uni course is that it's all done in my own time, at home.

Now at first I never really thought much about it until about 10 month ago when I took a day off work after an anxiety attack, that's when I knew the stress was getting to me.

The main concern of mine though is over the last year my father passed, my friend got married and a few mates have had kids.
All these things have happened and I've felt nothing, when I was told by the nurse that there was nothing they could do for my dad my mum burst into tears yet I reacted calmly, his funeral I cried for about 10 seconds before I pulled myself together again.. My best mate had a kid and I was like "okay", and another mate wants me to be his kids godfather and I didn't react in a way I would normally.

I have odd times when I feel some sort of emotional connection to something, but it's very rare. Last time I remember was about 4 years ago when my mate got married and asked me to be best man.

I know people on here have had their personal issues so I was just wondering what's the best course of action? I don't really like talking about my feeling with my best of friends, so find it alot easier to mention it hidden behind an internet persona on a forum, especially one I've been involved with for a number of years. Even now I'm contemplating hitting the "create thread" button....

 

[denislawsbackheel]

I was largely unmoved at the death of both my parents.
Why do you think you are unusual?

 

[Tricky Dickys Right Foot Shot]

I was largely unmoved at the death of both my parents.
Why do you think you are unusual?

It's everything around it though, like stuff with my mates weddings and birth of their kids, stuff I generally feel I should feel something for but yet, nothing!
Like I said about being asked to be a godfather, I feel like I should be happy yet I didn't have that reaction.
I'm probably being harsh on myself regarding my father, but at one point I tried to force myself to let my emotion out, but still couldn't. But like I said it isn't just my dads death, it's pretty much everything.

 

[dronefromsector7G]

Depression maybe? Do you enjoy stuff the same way you always have? Music, TV, walking etc?

 

[Why Always Ste]

Please watch this...



How did you feel?
Please describe the thoughts which ram through your head whilst watching

 

[mcfc1996]

Everyone treats death differently. My old fella died last September and apart from around 20 mins after watching him die I was pretty unmoved until NYE. I was in a boozer when I bumped into an old friend of mine who had lost his dad around the same time. At that point I just went to pieces and spent around the next hour in the car park in bits. I've had a couple of wobbly lip moments since then. Do you feel your behaviour since your dads passing is wrong in some way? If you do then perhaps don't. Apart from that mate it looks like you have a lot on with work and uni. Try to talk it through with someone outside of your close circle of mates if you aren't comfortable. Be it a professional or even some goon on here or whoever.

 

[Tricky Dickys Right Foot Shot]

Depression maybe? Do you enjoy stuff the same way you always have? Music, TV, walking etc?

I don't really enjoy football as much tbh, got to the point where I missed loads of city games last season, think I only turned up to about 7 home games, after going about 9 seasons missing only 1 game with a broken arm! Music I don't really listen to as much any more either
I don't really socialise with friends much any more as well, some years ago I use to chase mates up and get them out, now I find myself looking for excuses to not go out or just cancel, I try my best to not do as I don't want to risk losing my mates. Just find myself genuinely losing motivation to do a lot of stuff.

 

[mosssideblue]

I don't really enjoy football as much tbh, got to the point where I missed loads of city games last season, think I only turned up to about 7 home games, after going about 9 seasons missing only 1 game with a broken arm! Music I don't really listen to as much any more either
I don't really socialise with friends much any more as well, some years ago I use to chase mates up and get them out, now I find myself looking for excuses to not go out or just cancel, I try my best to not do as I don't want to risk losing my mates. Just find myself genuinely losing motivation to do a lot of stuff.

Well, I am no expert but I think you have done something really positive in sharing your issues on here. Hopefully, someone well qualified will pm you and start you back on a journey to where you want to be. Good luck blue

 

[malg]

You probably feel your reactions might not be right due to the amount of ridiculous overreaction to anyone who fucking dies now. I read your post and immediately wondered what you were on about, as that's how I am and is what I view as normal. I see everyone else as having problems when they break down in tears at any opportunity. We're all different.

 

[Uncle Wally One Ball]

Dont judge emotions and reactions according to what other people do, just be yourself. We arent all the same, and thank goodness for that. A lot of people are fake, striving to conform or please, or even just be noticed - for anything. Nothing wrong with being on the level mate, Im exactly the same.