Problem is there's a lot of lads who grow up on computers and forums who lack social awareness and the rounded life experience people on hear take for granted. They genuinely believe that knowing a bit about science and the internet makes them infinitely better than anyone else. They generally only see other white, male lads doing the same thing, and have very, very limited experience of engaging with anyone outside of that group. This kind of collective narcissism is going to have a far worse effect than the feminists.
Not that the third wave feminists escape blame - in fact they are utterly complicit. They've targetted and belittled the identity of white men - laying into the identity of kids who haven't even grown up. Provoking insecurity, conflict over identity, and straightforward anger in a particular group of young people has created problems that will affect society for a generation.