Freaky "reborn" dolls and women who have them...

[TCIB]

Ok if you don't know what im on about...

Basically some women for reasons ill go into, basically buy these analogues of baby's, i mean these things look real as real gets.
I just talked about this with a female friend and the two trains of thought are thus.

1, It's harmless and we should just leave these women be, its not weird.

2, (my thought) It's not natural to say get one to grieve over a lost infant this way, it won't help you grieve it will do the opposite infact and make you fixate more on your loss.

Some women get these things just because they are well to put it nicely, not all their i think. Personally it would be get rid of it before you go nuts or im of for my money.

Would you let your missus have one of these and treat it as a real baby complete with birthday party's and real guests and changing nappies etc. Or would you draw the line and say it freaks you the hell out.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reborn_doll

 

[Damocles]

My first thought:

AAAAAAaaAAAaaaaaaaaaAaaaaaaHhhhhhHHHHHHhhhHHHhhahhhhhhhhHHHhhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! KILL IT! KILL IT WITH FIRE!

 

[talkativesprout]

Bit weird, but if it helps grieving mums in the short term while the mind heals the loss, fair do's

luckily never having been grieving parent or a women (apart from that misunderstanding in new york new york) ive no idea if this could help or not.

Studies suggest blokes block out the loss by throwing themselves into other things, repressing the grief, which by all accounts is worse than facing it and using coping stratergies.

Understanding the fairer sex should not be attempted, but whatever they do works for them

 

[PJMCC1UK]

They freak me out. In fact any talking moving doll freaks me out. But these are just not right in any way.
I saw a girl once who's mum had one of those children in the corner things. Basically a doll of a child that you stick in the corner of a room that looks like it has been naughty and is leaning on the wall crying. That freaked me out too.

 

[SkyBlueFlux]

I think everybody copes with loss differently. Some people are extrovert and let their feelings show, whilst others tend to lock up their emotions and never talk about them.

Some losses you might never get over and if this helps take that pain away, then that's entirely personal. I wouldn't begrudge anybody or think they were weird for coping with trauma in a different way which I think of as unusual. Let's face it, you'd be more worried if they were completely unaffected by it. That kind of repressed emotion could end up being a lot more dangerous.

 

[johnny on the spot]

My first thought:

AAAAAAaaAAAaaaaaaaaaAaaaaaaHhhhhhHHHHHHhhhHHHhhahhhhhhhhHHHhhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! KILL IT! KILL IT WITH FIRE!

Exactly. To Quote Apone from Aliens: 'FLAMETHROWER! MOVE!'

 

[kalouk]

I think everybody copes with loss differently. Some people are extrovert and let their feelings show, whilst others tend to lock up their emotions and never talk about them.

Some losses you might never get over and if this helps take that pain away, then that's entirely personal. I wouldn't begrudge anybody or think they were weird for coping with trauma in a different way which I think of as unusual. Let's face it, you'd be more worried if they were completely unaffected by it. That kind of repressed emotion could end up being a lot more dangerous.

Good post, 100% agree.

 

[crizack]

if it brings a bit of closure to those who have them then good.

 

[Armitage]

I think a couple I deliver to have one. I myself think it's a bit creepy but these might explain why they chose to get one:

http://jessiegraham.gonetoosoon.org/ and http://jennifer-graham.gonetoosoon.org/

 

[Gelsons Dad]

It's very very wrong and should not be condoned. Death is part of life. It happens all the time. If you cannot separate yourself from the loss then you yourself are lost. We encourage some ridiculous practices these days and many are not at all healthy.