Friends

I’ve got a good group of mates.
I don’t think we all appreciate each other though and realise how lucky we are to have a group the size we do at our age (35-45).

We all support different football teams, different political views and all have different values.
Some have kids and wives, some single and care free.

Seems to work though. All tend to make an effort to socialise once or twice a month. Some see each other more than others obviously.

Think having a Watts app group forum helps maintain friendships too.
 
worsleyweb said:
I am shite at it. (Having good friends) Got two long term mates but rarely see them and find that with my work hours it is hard enough to see my kids and my dad etc but I am keen to try and have a wider group of mates.

Without Piss taking is it possible to get new good mates in your 40s?

Wish I had mates from school etc but just life has led me to move apart from people.
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I bloody well hope it's still possible. I didn't really keep up my friendships for a year or two. Come back to find that I just don't have the same 'pull' I used to, or so it seems. I can talk to people for an hour or so and it's just like old days, but then I sort of get fed up of being the one who always makes the call, wait to see how long it will take for them to call me.... and I'm still waiting!

It's probably because they are used to me going off the map for months/years at a time, but in every case it makes me wonder what it's always about. There is something about growing older. I do think we spend less time with friends and more with partners. Not ideal, if you don't have one! Certainly, one guy has just had a new baby, got a new job, so I definitely know what that's about.... another one is doubling down on his relationship with his latest, again, totally understandable because time marches on, and she's lovely.

And I can't deny, the chatting is as good as it ever was. We're as open as ever. But there's just a lot less of it, and it's not like me to pin people down for drinks / visits, whatever. In fact, I look at it and know that I've turned down offers because I've gone through a stage of suffering pretty strong anxiety. So I try not to worry about it.

The odd thing is that generally I've had no problem spending loads of time by myself. There was just some crazy pressure from somewhere in me at times over the last year or two to be social for the sake of it. Which is daft. I know full well any sort of neediness doesn't bloody work for me.
 
Perhaps WW should consider moving in to a care home. Lots of company, great gal to chap ratio if flirting's his thing and someone to serve and wash up. He could also request a bed bath from time to time...
 
york away to this! said:
Perhaps WW should consider moving in to a care home. Lots of company, great gal to chap ratio if flirting's his thing and someone to serve and wash up. He could also request a bed bath from time to time...
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He could get to know Rooney quite well as he often frequents them
 
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