General / Mental Health Support Thread

[Bettys Bell]

They've given me an appointment to see an actual psychiatrist next week.

I guess this is a "significant moment".

I've pretty much decided that I have to leave this world as my existence has just become agony.
If I don't get what I think I need or want god knows what happens next.
I've told relatives that I'm not going to be around.
I don't think they are grasping how serious this is. Perhaps they think it's an empty "threat".
It's not as if I've said it before.
The thought of not being here is the only thing that gives me peace

Good news on the appointment. Hopefully you can get some effective treatment started wishing you all the best . X

 

[jaiguruKun]

They've given me an appointment to see an actual psychiatrist next week.

I guess this is a "significant moment".

I've pretty much decided that I have to leave this world as my existence has just become agony.
If I don't get what I think I need or want god knows what happens next.
I've told relatives that I'm not going to be around.
I don't think they are grasping how serious this is. Perhaps they think it's an empty "threat".
It's not as if I've said it before.
The thought of not being here is the only thing that gives me peace

Pls don't give up. Depression is a bastard and if you can overcome it is an achievement even if it feels temporary.

Just try to think of something, anything that gives you pleasure and makes you feel differently maybe even just for a split second...and cling on to that.

 

[PinkFinal]

Pls don't give up. Depression is a bastard and if you can overcome it is an achievement even if it feels temporary.

Just try to think of something, anything that gives you pleasure and makes you feel differently maybe even just for a split second...and cling on to that.

It's not just depression it's chronic isolation that I've practically imposed on myself due to my probable autism. I think it has all caught up with me in addition to my remaining parent dying in December 2023 and someone I relied on falling seriously ill three days later who's still not recovered. It's a situation that's very difficult to change but it's certainly not a life, it's a terrible predicament that is incredibly difficult to bear day in day out year after year. Especially this time of year before the clocks change and it becomes milder.

 

[ZenHalfTimeCrock]

It's not just depression it's chronic isolation that I've practically imposed on myself due to my probable autism. I think it has all caught up with me in addition to my remaining parent dying in December 2023 and someone I relied on falling seriously ill three days later who's still not recovered. It's a situation that's very difficult to change but it's certainly not a life, it's a terrible predicament that is incredibly difficult to bear day in day out year after year. Especially this time of year before the clocks change and it becomes milder.

In a 26 year teaching career, by far the brightest, wittiest, and most imaginative pupil I ever encountered went on to become a psychiatrist.

Hope the one you have an appointment with turns out to be as good.

 

[jaiguruKun]

It's not just depression it's chronic isolation that I've practically imposed on myself due to my probable autism. I think it has all caught up with me in addition to my remaining parent dying in December 2023 and someone I relied on falling seriously ill three days later who's still not recovered. It's a situation that's very difficult to change but it's certainly not a life, it's a terrible predicament that is incredibly difficult to bear day in day out year after year. Especially this time of year before the clocks change and it becomes milder.

Sounds really painful.
It's great that you're getting help and hopefully a diagnosis soon.

In the meantime keep doing the things you love. It's not your fault you're in the position you're in so try not to punish yourself.

 

[Two Gun Bob]

Thanks so much, I'm hoping yours is not too long a wait

Dementias rated as the UK’s leading cause of death based on official data from the Office for National Statistics. In 2024, dementia and Alzheimer’s disease claimed 76,894 lives across the UK—more than heart disease, stroke, or cancer—accounting for 11.8% of all deaths.

Rip mother in law. If I have any further comment then it's a wish for funerals to ebb away from the traditional via a simple behind the scenes disposition of human remains, therebye aleviatating further suffering to the living aka my distressed wife.

Having said that a rather nice turn out with touching poems escribed to tongue and all combined with beautiful music by the bucketful. I adore music and can not begin to imagine a world that's devoid of it.

I have of course doubled up on this months order with our faithfull supplier "Nutrition Geeks" for some more Vitamin B complex (B6, B9/folate, B12) to help reduce our homocysteine levels and also reduce our chance of brain shrinkage. I have also taken the liberty of doubling our dosage of Omage 3 to 1300 EDA and DHA combined. Cucumin levels are aready eleavated to max as I further explore the benefits of ashwanganda in order to to reduce any and all stress related to cognitive decline. That is all:

 

[Fourinarow]

Dementias rated as the UK’s leading cause of death based on official data from the Office for National Statistics. In 2024, dementia and Alzheimer’s disease claimed 76,894 lives across the UK—more than heart disease, stroke, or cancer—accounting for 11.8% of all deaths.

Rip mother in law. If I have any further comment then it's a wish for funerals to ebb away from the traditional via a simple behind the scenes disposition of human remains, therebye aleviatating further suffering to the living aka my distressed wife.

Having said that a rather nice turn out with touching poems escribed to tongue and all combined with beautiful music by the bucketful. I adore music and can not begin to imagine a world that's devoid of it.

I have of course doubled up on this months order with our faithfull supplier "Nutrition Geeks" for some more Vitamin B complex (B6, B9/folate, B12) to help reduce our homocysteine levels and also reduce our chance of brain shrinkage. I have also taken the liberty of doubling our dosage of Omage 3 to 1300 EDA and DHA combined. Cucumin levels are aready eleavated to max as I further explore the benefits of ashwanganda in order to to reduce any and all stress related to cognitive decline. That is all:

Have you looked at Magnesium L-threonate? If not, might be worth your time researching its benefits on the brain. I've been taking it for a few years now and find it very useful. It's my favourite supplement.

Edit* I don't use this for sleep. I take it first thing in the morning as I find it enhances my alertness, concentration, clarity of mind and lifts my mood if I'm feeling a bit off.


After going through the horrible dementia experience with my father it was an eye opener that I needed to start looking after my brain a lot more than I was doing, especially after my pretty heavy recreational youth and how in more recent years my mental wellbeing fluctuating, so I'm always trying different things to see how they work and find it quite fascinating. There's plenty of stuff out there to try other than medication from the doctors, which I've never had by the way. None of the weak shite from the supermarkets, proper stuff that's actually going to make a difference. Some I've loved, some I've had to stop, but once you find the right 'stack' as they say, and different combinations for different days or periods of your life then they can become very useful additions indeed.

 

[Two Gun Bob]

Have you looked at Magnesium L-threonate? If not, might be worth your time researching its benefits on the brain. I've been taking it for a few years now and find it very useful. It's my favourite supplement.

After going through the horrible dementia experience with my father it was an eye opener that I needed to start looking after my brain a lot more than I was doing, especially after my pretty heavy recreational youth and how in more recent years my mental wellbeing fluctuating, so I'm always trying different things to see how they work and find it quite fascinating. There's plenty of stuff out there to try other than medication from the doctors, which I've never had by the way. None of the weak shite from the supermarkets, proper stuff that's actually going to make a difference. Some I've loved, some I've had to stop, but once you find the right 'stack' as they say, and different combinations for different days or periods of your life then they can become very useful additions indeed.

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[Two Gun Bob]

We've been using this regularly even if it does stink of fish. It makes us both gag for air but we cannot throw it away as that would be wasteful. Confident it must be keeping us alive and well combining all three magnesium attributes of glycinate citrate and malate. The next batch of magnesium will be the non fishy one whatever that one is. Unsure about the threonate you mentioned?

Oily fish is the work of the devil which is why we take Nutritional Geeks high formula edg and dha omega 3 @ 1300 . Having said that a nice piece of cod or haddock in beer batter is very much good to go.

 

[Fourinarow]

We've been using this regularly even if it does stink of fish. It makes us both gag for air but we cannot throw it away as that would be wasteful. Confident it must be keeping us alive and well combining all three magnesium attributes of glycinate citrate and malate. The next batch of magnesium will be the non fishy one whatever that one is. Unsure about the threonate you mentioned?

Oily fish is the work of the devil which is why we take Nutritional Geeks high formula edg and dha omega 3 @ 1300 . Having said that a nice piece of cod or haddock in beer batter is very much good to go.

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Nice mate. I take a triple blend regularly myself but have recently moved over to just magnesium glycinate after seeing positive feedback about how bioavailable it is and highly absorbable with its benefits alongside vitamin d & k2.

L-threonate crosses the brains blood barrier and so gets magnesium straight into your brain. Have a read up about its benefits. As I've edited on my first comment, I take it in the morning. Others thrive taking it before sleep for sleep aid. I see it as a long term thing not only improving my brain health now but in the future too. Obviously with all supplementing, some people don't need to while others do. I have to take omeprazole for a hyperactive stomach, which is known to cause people to not absorb as much magnesium from food, so I supplement it.

I like to think my 6 tins of mackerel a week are giving me suitable amounts of omega 3. I've been doing keto for years (we've spoke about this before on here) so it's not something I tend to supplement.

British Supplements are my go to supplier. Their products are very good.

 

[Two Gun Bob]

Nice mate. I take a triple blend regularly myself but have recently moved over to just magnesium glycinate after seeing positive feedback about how bioavailable it is and highly absorbable with its benefits alongside vitamin d & k2.

L-threonate crosses the brains blood barrier and so gets magnesium straight into your brain. Have a read up about its benefits. As I've edited on my first comment, I take it in the morning. Others thrive taking it before sleep for sleep aid. I see it as a long term thing not only improving my brain health now but in the future too. Obviously with all supplementing, some people don't need to while others do. I have to take omeprazole for a hyperactive stomach, which is known to cause people to not absorb as much magnesium from food, so I supplement it.

I like to think my 6 tins of mackerel a week are giving me suitable amounts of omega 3. I've been doing keto for years (we've spoke about this before on here) so it's not something I tend to supplement.

British Supplements are my go to supplier. Their products are very good.

L -threotine makes for interesting reading mate and thank you very much for the heads up. No harm done in a months course from British supplemements for under the £20 mark. I do get the importance of Vitamin D3 and K2 and were currently taking daily doses of 4000 D3 iu and 100ug K2

 

[Fourinarow]

@Two Gun Bob - I just wanna mention as well with British Supplements - I enjoy the weekly email that the owner of the company sends out to his customers, explaining the benefits of certain herbs/supplements, recent scientific research, highlighting things within the world of herbs, supplements and medicine and sharing customer reviews to show what they're benefiting from.

 

[Fourinarow]

L -threotine makes for interesting reading mate and thank you very much for the heads up. No harm done in a months course from British supplemements for under the £20 mark. I do get the importance of Vitamin D3 and K2 and were currently taking daily doses of 4000 D3 iu and 100ug K2

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Good stuff mate. As you've probably learnt yourself it seems like the UK government guidelines about supplementing vitamin D is way out of date nowadays. Poxy amount when you compare to how much your skin can absorb and process from just an hour in the sun. Sun, what sun?
But like with everything there's sooo much conflicting opinions about vitamins etc that you don't know who to believe until there's hard evidence. Or just go ahead and try things yourself and see how it pans out.

 

[ob]

My mate Colin died today, 56, heart attack. Travelled all round Europe watching Northern Ireland with him and Coleraine games home/away. Congo rest easy my oul pal, we've had some laughs that I'll never forget

 

[SMB75]

Must admit im not great.
I have my own flat in sale, good job pay ok but love on my own.
Giving a lot of thought to just selling the flat, saying im not well and living off benefits.
Just doesn't seem to be any incentive to work now, pisses me off that families can pop out 3, 4 or 5 kids and get more money than people working 60 hours a week.
What's the point anymore?

 

[oldius]

Must admit im not great.
I have my own flat in sale, good job pay ok but love on my own.
Giving a lot of thought to just selling the flat, saying im not well and living off benefits.
Just doesn't seem to be any incentive to work now, pisses me off that families can pop out 3, 4 or 5 kids and get more money than people working 60 hours a week.
What's the point anymore?

Being content or happy is never about what other people have or don't have or how they live their lives.
Good luck to you in establishing what will bring you peace and contentment.

 

[SMB75]

Being content or happy is never about what other people have or don't have or how they live their lives.
Good luck to you in establishing what will bring you peace and contentment.

Honestly mate I dont know
People say I'm have a lot that I've worked hard for but im not happy thats the problem.
I dont get any return barely for the hours and hours of work and do you know what im sick of it.
Life should be more than working and bills.

 

[oldius]

Honestly mate I dont know
People say I'm have a lot that I've worked hard for but im not happy thats the problem.
I dont get any return barely for the hours and hours of work and do you know what im sick of it.
Life should be more than working and bills.

Definitely.
And you are the best judge of where your life is at.

 

[SWPISHOME]

Honestly mate I dont know
People say I'm have a lot that I've worked hard for but im not happy thats the problem.
I dont get any return barely for the hours and hours of work and do you know what im sick of it.
Life should be more than working and bills.

Try and look at the positives, You have a roof over your head, you can eat everyday and you go to work and go home, you possibly have also people you can talk to in work, maybe even made some good friends there too.

You'll only annoy yourself if you see other families that don't work that have numerous kids going about their day without a care in the world...Would you like that lifestyle also, just sitting in the house all day living off benefits? Me personally, Absolutely not.

Maybe being on your own is a massive problem more so than what other people are doing and not earning as much as you'd like? Do you have any hobbies or anything?

I used to think the exact same as you and it does sometimes cross my mind to this day, but those people don't effect my life so I just leave them to it, I wouldn't like to be in there shoes, My kids seen me going to work everyday, bringing money in to keep us all going sets a good example in my eyes, I never went to college but I want my kids going to college so they don't have to be in a position that I'm in which is working 8-5 everyday carrying heavy shit, I want them to do as less work as possible for a big pay packet every week.

I don't know exactly as I've only read your two posts, but if it is a case of living alone maybe you've too much time to think? Get yourself out and about running or even walking, I find it really enjoyable.

 

[SMB75]

Try and look at the positives, You have a roof over your head, you can eat everyday and you go to work and go home, you possibly have also people you can talk to in work, maybe even made some good friends there too.

You'll only annoy yourself if you see other families that don't work that have numerous kids going about their day without a care in the world...Would you like that lifestyle also, just sitting in the house all day living off benefits? Me personally, Absolutely not.

Maybe being on your own is a massive problem more so than what other people are doing and not earning as much as you'd like? Do you have any hobbies or anything?

I used to think the exact same as you and it does sometimes cross my mind to this day, but those people don't effect my life so I just leave them to it, I wouldn't like to be in there shoes, My kids seen me going to work everyday, bringing money in to keep us all going sets a good example in my eyes, I never went to college but I want my kids going to college so they don't have to be in a position that I'm in which is working 8-5 everyday carrying heavy shit, I want them to do as less work as possible for a big pay packet every week.

I don't know exactly as I've only read your two posts, but if it is a case of living alone maybe you've too much time to think? Get yourself out and about running or even walking, I find it really enjoyable.

Thanks for that
I am a runner and im doing the Manchester marathon again in April.
Yes im on my own, turned 50 last year and it is a big problem. Being honest I hate living on my own whilst everyone else has someone. But it seems impossible to meet anyone and I dont think women are attracted to nice guys.