Honeytrap.

Doubt is regularly cast over my relationships with exes and female friends. Truth is I've never done anything wrong or tried to - it's been genuine friendly chat and no more. I couldn't do it - I'm just not like that and wouldn't want to hurt anyone. The shit I've had about some of it though has made me think I might as well go for it. The trouble I'd be in wouldn't be much more than this and at least I'd have deserved it.

Never did follow that theory up - but I may be tempted with one of the many new gorgeous ladies that keep signing up, uploading a photo and racing to a hundred posts in a matter of a couple of days ;-)
 
Interesting thread.

Is she to blame/ he to blame? A little from column A, a little column B, it seems.

Whilst she's clearly admitted to having 'issues', I think your pal wasn't feeling the emotions he expected to feel towards her 2 months in. There's obviously more to the story than what's been said. After all, why chase someone 'for ages' only to stuff it up at the first test??

I think she's quite controlling and demanding of where his whereabouts are all the time. I'd be surprised if she's not told him she doesn't like him looking at other women!!

2 months in to a relationship and tempting yourself with the company of another woman smacks of a perceived 'spark' missing from said current relationship. Perhaps he's 'acting bravado as he's convincing himself that he 'MUST be wrong' that it 'must be him'. Sort of like reverse psychology that he doubts himself whilst fronting like he's not bothered. That would be that nagging doubt in reserve; two voices battling "What have I done?"/ "It's the right thing, she's fooked in the head!"!

When she's in a better place, perhaps they should try again with no tainted goods to work off.
 
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SWP's back said:
It kinda does mate. Sorry to hear about your situation though.
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Yip it really, really does sounds like you passed on a hot girl there due to your own self doubt and have convinced yourself that you are not worthy of hot women flirting with you? Attractiveness is subjective in that particular moment she could have seen all the things in you that she finds attractive more often than not guys own insecurities deny them the holy grail that are hot women. They are normal people too.
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Or she could have been pilled/geebed up.
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OK... Well I admit to sleeping with a girl on a first date before but we'd known eachother socially for a few months (friends of friends) and some back and forth via text one night resulted in the two of us quickly getting ready to go out for a couple of drinks which became a couple more and then a Curry at 1am. I offered to walk her home and left the next morning with a grin as wide as anything. It didn't last, though.

This girl was simply too keen and it just wasn't right. Previous Girlfriends have been met, asked out, asked out again and it goes from there. I haven't explained everything either. She mentioned her ex-boyfriend several times and tried to get me to meet her the next day. She was also out with her female friend and that friend's boyf. Playing goosberry.
 
My days of stuff like this are long gone and I wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes if Mobiles had been around in my day.

Sympathies with the Lad, it was a shabby trick.
 
peoffrey said:
SWP's back said:
didactic said:
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Yip it really, really does sounds like you passed on a hot girl there due to your own self doubt and have convinced yourself that you are not worthy of hot women flirting with you? Attractiveness is subjective in that particular moment she could have seen all the things in you that she finds attractive more often than not guys own insecurities deny them the holy grail that are hot women. They are normal people too.
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Or she could have been pilled/geebed up.
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OK... Well I admit to sleeping with a girl on a first date before but we'd known eachother socially for a few months (friends of friends) and some back and forth via text one night resulted in the two of us quickly getting ready to go out for a couple of drinks which became a couple more and then a Curry at 1am. I offered to walk her home and left the next morning with a grin as wide as anything. It didn't last, though.

This girl was simply too keen and it just wasn't right. Previous Girlfriends have been met, asked out, asked out again and it goes from there. I haven't explained everything either. She mentioned her ex-boyfriend several times and tried to get me to meet her the next day. She was also out with her female friend and that friend's boyf. Playing goosberry.
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I think you dodged a bullet. Mentions of ex boyfriends is pretty much proof of severe mental issues as was the fact she was happy to tag along with her mate and her BF (I bet he was fucking happy).

I work on the premise that any girl who would want me is a fucking imbecile and/or emotionally damaged.

We should probably never go on the pull together.
 
TheMightyQuinn said:
peoffrey said:
This girl was simply too keen and it just wasn't right. Previous Girlfriends have been met, asked out, asked out again and it goes from there. I haven't explained everything either. She mentioned her ex-boyfriend several times and tried to get me to meet her the next day. She was also out with her female friend and that friend's boyf. Playing goosberry.
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I think you dodged a bullet. Mentions of ex boyfriends is pretty much proof of severe mental issues as was the fact she was happy to tag along with her mate and her BF (I bet he was fucking happy).

I work on the premise that any girl who would want me is a fucking imbecile and/or emotionally damaged.

We should probably never go on the pull together.
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Perhaps I didn't explain it properly on the first time but she was simply too keen and suggestive for what was roughly a 20 minute conversation. It started innocently enough (talking about the design on my t-shirt and then asking what music I liked etc) but then it became all compliments and asking if I was single.

I don't necessarily agree about the tagging along thing, though. I sometimes went out with my mate and his girlfriend socially but I was friends with her too so it was just like a group of friends out together. This girl was stood just on her own with the friends she pointed out deep in conversation without her. Not too fair, IMHO.

If a girl wants to hang out with me then that's fine. I've just been fucked around once too many times (the last one had me paying for almost everything - usually backhandedly on her part) and I suppose I'm used to my independence now!
 
If a girl wants to hang out with me then that's fine. I've just been fucked around once too many times (the last one had me paying for almost everything - usually backhandedly on her part) and I suppose I'm used to my independence now!


The perfect comment! most of them try to play you too many bad experiences too be bothered nice one minute and grumpy on the monthly dont need the hassle...
 
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