I think it's over *UPDATE* It's not over.

[Citizen52]

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Fucking hell Bob. What did you expect posting on here. You're what - 16 and have been together 2 years so you started at 14. Did you really expect to grow old together?

As painful as it is now we have all been through it and you should look upon it as a learning process. There will be lots more women and probably better ones than this. It's no comfort now but life has a way of one door closing and another opening.

i'm sorry for snapping at lee, but the joke was made a bit too soon for me.

honestly, i thought we could actually build on something. i don't know whether we'd grow old together or anything like that, but last week, i couldn't see us breaking up. i don't actually understand. she just sort of sprung this on me last night.

i'm going to get a better picture of what exactly is going on because being "different people" is not a legitimate reason to break up. it's a shame i fell for the most stubborn person in the universe.

do you know what... fuck it. i'm giving it a month or two to see if things pick up and if it doesn't, i'm kicking her out of my life with every part of my body. i deserve better than this. not better than her, but better than this current situation we find ourselves in.

she's doing my head in more than ever on this. we have fights like every other couple in the world. but this thing going on now is ridiculous. i have to catch a train in four hours to see her. in seven hours, we'll be together. i don't understand what's going on. so far, her reasons for breaking up with me are:

- i'm bringing you down
- i always ruin everything
- we are totally different people (when we're not)
- only one person understands me
- you'd be happy without me
- i'm just that spare part to your day; you don't need me

what kind of reasons are those? there's something underlying here and i need to find out what it is.

either that, or she's trying to get me to have rough make-up sex.

Sounds like my ex that. She was a nightmare for about 6 months before we split up. She ended up with clinical depression. Obviously it crossed my mind that I was partly to blame at the time but I did read that depression is a self generated phenomenon and so didn't think too much more of it.

I used to see signs of depression but a lot of things happened that never made sense - they still don't but when I think of it in terms of her self-esteem then some of it does. I got accused of having an affair when I was working all the hours God sent at the time.

I'm not saying that's the case here btw, just that there are some parallels, she's younger than my ex was as well no doubt. There's not really anything I can say that hasn't already been said but if it is not working out then as hard as it is as the time you're better off out of it - you've got the whole of your life ahead of you.

You used to hear about the odd couples on the news who were together for like 80 years but in this society I think it's sure to die out.

 

[Gaylord du Bois]

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As far as I can tell there isn't anyone laughing at Bob. I think its just a case of 'gallows humour' being applied as an antidote.

 

[peoffrey]

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her reasons for breaking up with me are:

- i'm bringing you down
- i always ruin everything
- we are totally different people (when we're not)
- only one person understands me
- you'd be happy without me
- i'm just that spare part to your day; you don't need me

what kind of reasons are those? there's something underlying here and i need to find out what it is.

She lacks self confidence, self esteem and a willingess to accept others. I'm sure you've tried everything to make things good but when she keeps putting barriers up then you'll eventually get tired of tearing them down. When someone is determined to self destruct then there's very little you can realistically do to help.

One thing you don't want to happen is that you spend some time together as friends and she begins to get unpleasant towards you. You'll get treated like something she scraped off the bottom of her shoe in a bid to make you hate her. She'll know full well what she's done and feel incredibly guilty for it - but behave in an unacceptable way to make herself feel better.

You seem a decent Lad, Bob. Mature above your 16 years and deserving of someone who doesn't destroy things for no apparent reason.

 

[Scottyboi]

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Fucking emo's get right on my tits never lived haha :D

 

[Cellarite]

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it's what we've built up that i'm scared to let go of. weve built up trust, love ad passion for eachother over two years and a bit. there are more fish in the sea, but i was dangling my hook in there for fourteen years until she finally bit the bait.

we've managed to form ourselves into a real couple. everyone i know says that me and her are the best relationship they'd ever seen. we see eachother once a month, and she lives more than 3 hours away on a train. you can see what we mean to eachother just by that fact alone.

bob mate, you haven't been dangling your hook for 14 years, your only 16 now. my eldest lad is 10 on tuesday (6 and a half years yonger than you) and he certainly isn't "dangling his hook".

you've not managed to form yourselves into a real couple, you see each other once a month.

get out with some mates, get pissed, get laid and bollocks to the two faced wench. oh and try to keep a lid on your passion for crystal castles until you're sure people feel the same.

 

[BlueDean]

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Has anyone seen bob? Not seen a post for a few minutes and he usually lives on here, moody emo teen city fan just dumped by his bird? We should have some bluemoon mcfcbob watch make sure he doesn't try anything stupid

 

[Gaylord du Bois]

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Has anyone seen bob? Not seen a post for a few minutes and he usually lives on here, moody emo teen city fan just dumped by his bird? We should have some bluemoon mcfcbob watch make sure he doesn't try anything stupid

He's maintaining radio silence whilst visiting gf. While we're on the the subject what the fuck happened to the Gate update Ono ?

 

[benCTID]

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Has anyone seen bob? Not seen a post for a few minutes and he usually lives on here, moody emo teen city fan just dumped by his bird? We should have some bluemoon mcfcbob watch make sure he doesn't try anything stupid

I hope he is ok.

Is that anything stupid watch Man City... sorry could not resist.

 

[lostmyhouseski]

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your 16 mate jesus get out there and get your thing wet

 

[JoeMercer'sWay]

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sorry to hear that bob.

seeing as you've gone up there just talk to her, tell her to just tell you the truth and listen even if it kills you inside. If she says she's cheating on you, say "ok", dump her and go home. If she's just been a wanker, then tell her you're not putting up with it because she needs to get back in the real world and treat you a lot better and stop messing you around.

If you do end up splitting, sever absolutely all contact with her, and no matter what you feel do not even attempt to contact her, completely blank her out of your life and just get on with it and give it time.

I've done everything in completely the wrong way for the last 4 years regarding women, and I'd encourage everyone else not to go down my path lol, just see how it goes this weekend but don't lose your rag and go off on one, it doesn't help you. If you need to talk to anyone you can PM me or whatever, but just good luck with it and see what happens, I hope it sorts itself out.