I think it's over *UPDATE* It's not over.

[pee dubya]

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The old you'd be better off without me line sounds like a typical, clumsy teenage attempt to bin someone without actually saying it.

Anyway good luck and hope it works out the way you wish it to.

I agree, a couple of my mates broke with GF's around that age in a similar way with similar bullshit reasons, both times there was another guy edging onto the scene.

Tactic employed - confusion to deflect the real issue and 'it's not you it's me' to reduce the guilt.

Result - one giant mind fuck.

 

[york away to this!]

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some people are on the pitch, they think it's all over.....












it is now!

 

[kippaxwarrior]

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Simple answer

You are going to be happier without her

Move on

Nail on the head
BOB the first relationship break-up is always the hardest, you will feel shit now but i bet you any money in 5 years time you will look back at this and think "what was all the fuss about?"
Your only 16 and you have a full life ahead of you,forget about the past and enjoy the rest of your life
Im old enough to be your dad and if i was your dad this would be the advice i would give you

 

[Gaylord du Bois]

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I think the news here Bob is that she's trying to dump you and doesn't know how to go about it. Thus all the deep and meaningless shit that shes spewing. From what you've posted in the past it sounds like her head has been turned and enjoying the attention she's getting. There's a fair chance she's had a little dalliance and is on a real guilt trip. Just an opinion though.

 

[BlueDean]

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Old cynical miserable bastards 1
Young romantic 0

We told you it was coming bob these things never last at least you got a decent City side to cheer you up, when most of is where your age we had girl problems and city were generally dog shit, when I was 16 we were in the old division 2 (the even older division 3)

 

[Lucky Toma]

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I think the news here Bob is that she's trying to dump you and doesn't know how to go about it. Thus all the deep and meaningless shit that shes spewing. From what you've posted in the past it sounds like her head has been turned and enjoying the attention she's getting. There's a fair chance she's had a little dalliance and is on a real guilt trip. Just an opinion though.

^^this^^

Cold hard truth of it Bob....she is dumping you mate and wants out. She is basically spinning you convuluted versions of 'It's not you, it's me'.

Bob, you're cool as fuck mate. You're 16, into decent music, follow City, and hold you own (as it were) on a footy forum amongst adults. I obviously dont know your missus but she's probably not cool as fuck.

It's gonna hurt. In fact, its gonna really really hurt. But you'll be reet mate.

If you're reading this on the train up just remember one thing - don't beg. Don't do anything even in the vicinity of begging. Accept what she says, nod and say she will always mean a lot to you. Then be a man, come home and stick the Mary Chain on. Loud.

 

[Blue Smarties]

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And I'm thinking:
Where has all the love gone?
Where's the love gone to?
Don't leave,
You got me hurting,
Don't leave

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsAYDjo-R5I[/youtube]

 

[lee-mcfc]

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i think it's a bit soon to be making jokes, lee. but thanks for your fucking hilarious input.

Fucking hell Bob. What did you expect posting on here. You're what - 16 and have been together 2 years so you started at 14. Did you really expect to grow old together?

As painful as it is now we have all been through it and you should look upon it as a learning process. There will be lots more women and probably better ones than this. It's no comfort now but life has a way of one door closing and another opening.

beat me to it, perfectly put :)

anyways bob i hope you sort it out

 

[gaudinho's stolen car]

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And I'm thinking:
Where has all the love gone?
Where's the love gone to?
Don't leave,
You got me hurting,
Don't leave

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsAYDjo-R5I[/youtube]

Great shout Blue Smarties, hits the nail on the head that tune.

 

[Bigga]

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It sounds to me as though you are more bothered about never finding another bird who is as fit as this one, than you are about actually losing this one. You can't know that mate, as someone else said there's plenty more fish in the sea.

She has told you she will find this weekend awkward? Fuck that, don't go.

to be honest, i never let people know the good things she does for me.

it's what we've built up that i'm scared to let go of. weve built up trust, love ad passion for eachother over two years and a bit. there are more fish in the sea, but i was dangling my hook in there for fourteen years until she finally bit the bait.

we've managed to form ourselves into a real couple. everyone i know says that me and her are the best relationship they'd ever seen. we see eachother once a month, and she lives more than 3 hours away on a train. you can see what we mean to eachother just by that fact alone.

Wait, so you've oogled after the square peg for a portion of your adolescent life and squeezed the edges into the same shape you are, but are now complaining now the square peg has returned to its shape?? You knew the potential problems with distance and her persona and still pursued the relationship.

After such a time together, you either have a decent clue of her character or you're simply outgrowing her as you grow up, but are trying to relive your beginnings. Each year you are together, your tastes actually change. Some people grow together, some grow apart. Both are natural processes.

It sounds like she's testing the boundaries of her angst, with you and, perhaps, YOU are growing out of whatever brought you together, in the first place. What you 'hold on to' are the physicals of her being, whilst emotionally you are miles apart.

You already know the right thing to do, but even if you stay together now you will see the problem exacerbate in the future, leaving you with the problem you have now.

And possibly resentment.

It's a tough one for you, at your age, cos it requires a grown up and logical decision. There are not always the same.

However, it's better to control your own destiny, regrets or not, than have it forced upon you.