Is it okay if your spouse hangs out with his/her ex?

[willipp]

It might be the case. Sometimes she tells me that mine gets really hard and deep inside so maybe she doesn’t enjoy that. Also our shag goes on for quite long and maybe she gets tired. But either way she should tell me otherwise how would I know.

Maybe she would tell you if she wasn't too busy sucking her ex off.

 

[SWPISHOME]

 

[mexico1970]

The bottom half of that woman makes her look like a weeble.

 

[SWPISHOME]

The bottom half of that woman makes her look like a weeble.

Hahaha it actually does!!

 

[BlueMoonday]

Extremely weird thing to do of her to hang about with her ex, you need to run a million miles pal.

If the shoe was on the other foot then she wouldn't be happy.

Only circumstance where your spouse should have a healthy relationship with the ex is when they have kids.

 

[SamBlue]

Few days back she kept on telling me how she is going to cut off ties with her ex completely as he is not nice but then yesterday when I was coming back from work, I saw them talking on the phone for hours. So I did have a thorough conversation with her last night about this. She kept on saying the same thing and when I asked why she still talks to her ex when she has told me multiple times that he is a ****, she finally admitted that maybe she still cares about him.
I understood and told her basically that the relationship is not going to work out eventually since she is so confused about her feelings herself.

My issue here is not her talking to her ex. But her talking to someone she has nothing good to say about. But maybe I am in the wrong here. Time will tell.

You'll thank me later.

 

[GornikDaze]

This thread needs @Thorin Oakenshield

Strange how Thorin and Roy are never seen in the same thread together….

 

[Thorin Oakenshield]

Strange how Thorin and Roy are never seen in the same thread together….

Dont start that shit again! He aint me.

That comment about the very long shag was very funny

 

[Nebuchadnezzar]

It might be the case. Sometimes she tells me that mine gets really hard and deep inside so maybe she doesn’t enjoy that. Also our shag goes on for quite long and maybe she gets tired. But either way she should tell me otherwise how would I know.

1) you must be the first bloke in the history of mankind to be getting sidelined for this criteria. Too hard and too long, like a concrete submarine.

2) You are not Pele and I claim my £5.

 

[kaz7]

Don't think of it as "controlling". All you are doing is drawing a very reasonable line. If you are getting married the vows contain the words "foresaking all others" i.e., you are number one. Not her friends. Not her ex. You. All you are doing is saying that if those vows are to mean anything she should not be hanging out with an ex.

With my ex I think the issue was an obsessive desire for attention/validation from others. One man (i.e. me) could not provide the level of round the clock attention, so she got her exes to help. Frankly that was unacceptable to me so I eventually split up. Some women have this desire for attention and unfortunately it never seems to be something women like that can let go of.

For other women, having exes around is because they still find them attractive and/or want to keep them around so they can go back to them. That is more a case-by-case issue, and there are ways around that. The easiest and fairest way is to ask "is it really foresaking ALL others", or do you make exceptions for your ex?

The wedding ceremony takes place at the altar for a reason; an altar is a place where sacrifices are offered. You are making a sacrifice, she should too. Asking her to not contact an ex is not asking for one of her kidneys, it is reasonably asking her to cut an ex out.

What an old fashioned view