Thanks to you all. As well as the guilt we both feel for us being here and not him, the biggest feeling we have is of being robbed of what could and should have been the best years of his life. I have to say the club were fantastic as well. We wrote to them asking if we could bring some of his ashes over to put in the memorial garden and we arranged a date and time. When we got there, the club padre was there and said a few words before we put some down...we had no idea they had set it up, but it was a lovely touch which they didn’t have to do...a while later, we noticed that they were remodelling the garden, so we brought some more over. He’s certainly laid in a few places that he loved or wanted to go including Central Park in NYC...we also got a shirt from the club with the birth and death dates on it...I would put it on here, but haven’t got a webpage I could link I to but if anyone could tell me how, I would be happy to put it on here...his favourite player was, unbelievably, Sun Jihai!!!