Life as a single

[Scottyboi]

Have you tried asking Elon Musk or Andrew Tate for advice?

 

[Barcon]

36 now , feels really tough to find woman with whom I am confident I will be able to be for rest of my life . At crossroads of thinking even I should keep looking for marriage options or stay single. Any singles in our group and how’s life been in your 40s , 50s and above ? Any regrets, any advices ? Do you feel lonely sometimes and how do you cope with it ?

I was a professional shagger until I met the wife at 40. Married at 45, 16 years ago.
Great cure for blowjobs.

 

[M23 Citizen]

36 now , feels really tough to find woman with whom I am confident I will be able to be for rest of my life . At crossroads of thinking even I should keep looking for marriage options or stay single. Any singles in our group and how’s life been in your 40s , 50s and above ? Any regrets, any advices ? Do you feel lonely sometimes and how do you cope with it ?

Been single more than I’ve been in relationships throughout my adult life.

I prefer being single.

I don’t actively look for relationships. I don’t even actively look for meeting girls. I just leave it to chance and if I meet someone on the off chance and we click, then great. If not, never mind, I still get to do everything I want all the time without ever having to answer to anyone and life is very peaceful.

I might get to the stage when it’s too late and I’m an old man and possibly look back in regret at not having kids, but I don’t think I’ll ever get old and regret not having got married.

Maybe a couple of times a year I feel a bit lonely. But, say, out of 365 days of the year, I’m perfectly content being on my own for 355 of them. I’ve never been in a relationship and been content for that much of a high percentage of the time!

I was seeing someone earlier this year, but she was always eventually moving to another country for work, so it was ideal for me and it lasted about four months before she left. Perfect!

Although I do have a blind date in the pipeline. Who knows where that will end? But I’ll tell you what, it would have to be extraordinarily exceptionally good to drag me out of my single life long term. I will never just settle for someone just because I’ve got to this point and not met a long term partner.

 

[Bigga]

36 now , feels really tough to find woman with whom I am confident I will be able to be for rest of my life . At crossroads of thinking even I should keep looking for marriage options or stay single. Any singles in our group and how’s life been in your 40s , 50s and above ? Any regrets, any advices ? Do you feel lonely sometimes and how do you cope with it ?

When you get one, just remember this and you'll accept whatever fate befalls you...

"Being handsome doesn’t keep a woman.
Being honest doesn’t keep a woman.
Being loyal doesn’t keep a woman.
Treating a woman well doesn’t keep a woman.
Being there for a woman doesn’t keep a woman.
Caring about a woman doesn’t keep a woman.
Making an effort with a woman doesn't keep a woman.
Paying attention to a woman doesn't keep a woman.
Spending time a woman doesn’t keep a woman.

You could have the best intentions, you could have the most sincere feelings and you could be a good man and you still couldn't keep a woman solely based on these qualities.

The only way to keep a woman is if she wants to be kept by you.

You can't force a woman to be with you. You can't beg a woman to stay with you and you can't love a woman into loving you. A woman will only fight for you if she wants to be kept by you" and these gems are rare in this moment in time.

Just because others have found theirs, doesn't mean the right one for you is easy to find.

The hard thing for you is that you're competing in the digital age. If you can find a woman that doesn't have a phone/ social media that drives her life, you've got a very good chance at being happy. But you have to have that quality too.

In my opinion, of course.

 

[117 M34]

When you get one, just remember this and you'll accept whatever fate befalls you...

"Being handsome doesn’t keep a woman.
Being honest doesn’t keep a woman.
Being loyal doesn’t keep a woman.
Treating a woman well doesn’t keep a woman.
Being there for a woman doesn’t keep a woman.
Caring about a woman doesn’t keep a woman.
Making an effort with a woman doesn't keep a woman.
Paying attention to a woman doesn't keep a woman.
Spending time a woman doesn’t keep a woman.

You could have the best intentions, you could have the most sincere feelings and you could be a good man and you still couldn't keep a woman solely based on these qualities.

The only way to keep a woman is if she wants to be kept by you.

You can't force a woman to be with you. You can't beg a woman to stay with you and you can't love a woman into loving you. A woman will only fight for you if she wants to be kept by you" and these gems are rare in this moment in time.

Just because others have found theirs, doesn't mean the right one for you is easy to find.

The hard thing for you is that you're competing in the digital age. If you can find a woman that doesn't have a phone/ social media that drives her life, you've got a very good chance at being happy. But you have to have that quality too.

In my opinion, of course.

Have you thought about a career writing romance novels?

 

[Sky Blue]

I know the feeling , and felt like everyone around me was having kids or getting married etc, honestly it will come, don’t dwell on it and keep trying. You’ll find the right one.

I wish you and Gareth a long and happy marriage.

 

[BlueHammer85]

I wish you and Gareth a long and happy marriage.

Just glad to have him home more often x

 

[heslops barnet]

Get married, get divorced and end up in a poky flat with Tupperware and paper plates…..talking from experience

 

[M16 citeh]

I know the feeling , and felt like everyone around me was having kids or getting married etc, honestly it will come, don’t dwell on it and keep trying. You’ll find the right one.

Definitely! Have faith you will find her. I was exactly the same as you even more cynical about marriage probably until she walked into my life! And a year later were engaged and pregnant... I feel like I'm an advocate for love these days - I actually believe true love exists now!

 

[Tuearts right boot]

Just be yourself, enjoy it and dont be lead by any preconcieved ideas, at 36 you've still got it all in front of you. Me and the first Mrs split up when I was 38, and to be fair, the following 2 years were brilliant, did what I wanted when I wanted, went where I wanted with who I wanted, got on Ok with the ex mrs and we did have 2 brilliant daughters. Lonelyness didn't really bother me as I was far too engrossed in work, one of the reasons we split in the first place I think..........then I met the present mrs trb. That's just me as an example, but you'll be different so just roll with it, most of us have been there and worn the T shirt.