Without wanting to drag this off-topic, I will admit that I may have over-generalised based on my experiences with the people I have lived and worked with. I, too, have met many people in many places who, in that particular environment, have seemed to be friendly, welcoming and hardworking, family oriented and law-abiding.
The thing is this. Most people know it's not OK to kick a cat, unless they play for West Ham. How much money would it take for someone, nevertheless, to kick a cat? Here in Thailand, $10 should do it. In the UK, a thousand? How many would turn down 10 thousand if they kicked a cat? That makes everyone who doesn't turn down the money a self-serving ****. Hypocritical?Maybe. But to me, its more a reflection that their anti-cat-kicking views just weren't held strongly enough to counter the self-benefitting instinct. And that is where Henderson fits in. He doesn't like to kick cats, but he just sent one into orbit for money. Perfectly normal behaviour.
Is there nothing in this world that you wouldn't turn down to kick a cat?
This is a common thought experiment to explore the nature of morality and self-motivated behaviour in humans. There is obviously truth to the exercise.
But it is not in contradiction to my assertion that most people are just trying to make it through the day the best they can, whilst taking care of those that rely on them (or that they perceive rely on them).
Again, these concepts are not mutually exclusive. People often want to reduce things down to binary states: true or false, this or that, us or them.
But the world very rarely works that way. Almost nothing is absolute. Each person is a multitude—sometimes on balance for the good, sometimes for the bad, but most often firmly in between.
As I said in my previous post, everyone has moments that test their ideals, and moments where they compromise them for their own (or their loved ones’) gain. But that doesn’t mean such self-interested behaviour consumes their every waking moment. Or even most of them.
I think you and I see the world differently, which is why we clash so much on so many topics. You tend to see things in absolutist terms, with only rare instances of nuance. Whereas I tend to see things in relativist terms, with only rare instances of absolutes.
And that transfers over to how we see people. It seems, based on your statements, that if a person has ever kicked a cat for £10,000, then they are inherently a self-interested person. Whereas, for me, a person having kicked a cat for £10,000 is not enough evidence of their self-serving nature.
Because we have all been tested and failed. Some of us many times. But we have also been tested and passed. Often, again, many times.
We are not merely the sum total of our mistakes and moments of weakness. And I would hate to walk through the world with that mindset.
At any rate, Henderson is a ****, for many reasons. But he isn’t an evil ****. And perhaps he’ll surprise us all and continue his advocacy whilst playing in Saudi Arabia.
Though, if I am honest, I sincerely doubt it, for the same reason that most members of the LGBTQ+ community there don’t, even if he has far, far more protection and power.
Which is really where my disappointment lies: not in him being a ****, just him being one that wastes a position few of us will ever realise.