Lost my mum today.

[Maintainin]

Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia

Condolences to you and your family at this time, the memories will never be lost!

May Sylvia Ascend and Rest In Peace.

 

[N1985]

Sincere condolences @crublue1

 

[Eccles Blue]

So sorry to read this @crublue1 RIP Sylvia.
You did your best and I’m sure she knew and appreciated it.
Take care and remember the good times when you’re ready. It might take time to think that way. I hope you don’t mind a virtual hug. :-)

 

[Packrat]

So sorry for loss mate. RIP Sylvia

 

[crublue1]

I thank you all for your kind words.
What a lovely community we have. Best wishes to you all you absolutely fantastic people.
You don't know how you've helped me, I'm so, so grateful.
Thank you. X

 

[Kakhaber The Great]

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum, crublue1. Please don’t feel guilty; I was there when my mum went but there was nothing I could do. Sometimes it’s just their time. It gets easier, it does, and one day instead of crying you’ll smile when you think of her.

RIP, Sylvia.

 

[deano ou812]

Sorry for your loss,any family passing away is hard but for it being your mum which makes it even more so going by your post..
The thing is if any comfort,is think of the good times and those precious memories and moments you had over the years with her,I lost my mum 11 years ago but still think of her loads especially this time of year,stay strong mate and don’t blame yourself maybe it was just unfortunately meant to be ..R.I.P Sylvia ..

 

[Coatigan]

Really sorry for your loss blue. Condolences pal.

 

[r.soleofsalford]

Sorry for your loss mate.

Never a good time but it always seem extra hard at this time of the year. Hope your family stay close over the holidays.

 

[ctidcarl]

@crublue1 my deepest heartfelt sympathies are with you at this strangest of times.

I lost my mum in the summer - I'm a 55 year old man, but she's still my mum.

It sounds like you had the best relationship and although that won't mean anything to you today or over the next few days.......it will in time.

There's no rights or wrongs in these situations, you need to do what you have to do to get through it - and you will, you honestly will.

If it's amy comfort, the day of my mums funeral was one of the nicest days of my life - seeing so many people come together to pay tribute, really comforted me on what I thought was going to be the worst day ever - hopefully you will get a similar feeling too.

I question life now - there really is no point to the whole thing we put ourselves through, you may be feeling the same way too - but, you will get through it all, we are more resilient than we realise.

If posting on here helps, then post every day - we'll help you through