Lost my mum today.

[crublue1]

@crublue1 my deepest heartfelt sympathies are with you at this strangest of times.

I lost my mum in the summer - I'm a 55 year old man, but she's still my mum.

It sounds like you had the best relationship and although that won't mean anything to you today or over the next few days.......it will in time.

There's no rights or wrongs in these situations, you need to do what you have to do to get through it - and you will, you honestly will.

If it's amy comfort, the day of my mums funeral was one of the nicest days of my life - seeing so many people come together to pay tribute, really comforted me on what I thought was going to be the worst day ever - hopefully you will get a similar feeling too.

I question life now - there really is no point to the whole thing we put ourselves through, you may be feeling the same way too - but, you will get through it all, we are more resilient than we realise.

If posting on here helps, then post every day - we'll help you through

Thank you for your kind words and thoughts Carl.
So sorry for your loss, deepest sympathy mate.
I'm struggling a bit at the moment, but all the fantastic messages on here are helping me immensely.
I'll get there.
Thanks for taking the time out fella, really appreciated.

 

[ballbag]

Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia

I'm so sorry for your loss. Rest well, Sylvia.

 

[ctidcarl]

No problem
Of course you are struggling.......she was your mum!

Don't blame yourself for anything - blame is irrelevant and as corny as it sounds, your mum wouldn't want you to blame yourself.

Take comfort in anything and everything, the smallest signs, if you think she's the brightest star in the sky at night - then she is.

If you think the song on the radio being played was from her - then it is

It's all a bit surreal - and there's a reason for that
I'm not spiritual by any stretch of the imagination........but I feel different now to what I did before and I think (hope) you will too

They watch over us mate........they are always with you

 

[crublue1]

You lot are just fucking brilliant. I can't thank you enough.
I'm so lucky to have such great people genuinely reaching out.
I'd like to think mum would be so touched by all your kindness, as am I.
Tell your loved ones you love them. Do it now.
You never know when the time comes that you can't.
Thank you all x

 

[HypnoticBlue]

Sorry to hear of your loss Sylvia, a sad story, but you’ll always have the memories.
My parents are both 84 and dad has Alzheimer’s, he’s currently in respite care and it’s a struggle.
They started my love of the Blues so for that I’ll always be eternally grateful.
Night god bless Sylvia, keep strong xx

 

[crublue1]

Sorry to hear of your loss Sylvia, a sad story, but you’ll always have the memories.
My parents are both 84 and dad has Alzheimer’s, he’s currently in respite care and it’s a struggle.
They started my love of the Blues so for that I’ll always be eternally grateful.
Night god bless Sylvia, keep strong xx

Thank you blue.
Best wishes to you and your family.
X

 

[bluemullet]

Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia

A truly beautiful tribute Crublue. So sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories mate. Hope you can find some comfort in them over Christmas.

 

[crublue1]

A truly beautiful tribute Crublue. So sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories mate. Hope you can find some comfort in them over Christmas.

Thank you blue.
Kind words. Xmas will be tough, I'd planned to go round and cook and share a baileys or 2 with her.
It won't be easy, but I'll get through it, thanks in no small part to the lovely people on here.
Best wishes to you and your family my friend.

 

[Blue Boy 63]

So very sorry for the sad loss of your dear mum Crublue . Condolences to you and your family .

 

[crublue1]

So very sorry for the sad loss of your dear mum Crublue . Condolences to you and your family .

Thank you blue.