Lost my mum today.

So sorry for your loss pal, your mum sounds a incredible person and she knew you loved her and that’s what you take forward.
 
I'm overwhelmed, thank you so much for all the kind messages.
I can't thank you enough, I don't really know what to say.
Thank you. You'll never know how you've helped a heart broken man.
Thank you blues, thank you all
 
RIP Sylvia and @crublue1 , stay strong and it might not feel much at the moment, but you got to spend some quality time with her close to the end, maybe the win on Sunday was just for her.
 
Northerndave said:
RIP Sylvia and @crublue1 , stay strong and it might not feel much at the moment, but you got to spend some quality time with her close to the end, maybe the win on Sunday was just for her.
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Thank you Dave. Your words are a comfort and you are right.
Thank you so much mate.
 
crublue1 said:
Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia
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My sincere condolences fellow blue.

May your memories be wonderful and long cherished until you join hands once again.

Don't be hard on yourself she loved you unconditionally and no doubt it was reciprocated likewise.

Long type don't be imprudent it wasn't nearly long enough.
 
mancity111 said:
My sincere condolences fellow blue.

May your memories be wonderful and long cherished until you join hands once again.

Don't be hard on yourself she loved you unconditionally and no doubt it was reciprocated likewise.

Long type don't be imprident it wasn't nearly long enough.
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Thank you
 
crublue1 said:
Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia
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She sounded an incredible woman...R.I.P Sylvia
 
I'm still up, drinking my stock of Guinness. I can't remember the last time I cried so much.
 
blue b4 the moon said:
Have you any family close to you?

It's better to talk to them about the good times and their recollections of your mum than get hammered.
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We've talked and shared mate, we are all distraught.
One minute we're laughing about the daft things, next we are crying.
Thanks for the advice blue, but for now, I'm getting hammered.
 
Im sorry for your loss. She sounded like a lovely mother who lived a long life.

Try not to feel guilty, you did as she wished. Hindsight can feel powerful but you cant be there 24/7 to account for every situation.

Things will feel tough but know it will get better, take it day by day and look for support where you can find it, be that family, friends or online. Talking it out and allowing yourself to grieve and feel your emotions is an important step in processing things while also being a way to recollect memories and cherish her life.

Take care of yourself.
 
So sorry for your loss blue, 89 is an incredible age,she must have lived a wonderful life, remember all the happy memories you had together pal nobody can take them away from you, stay strong mate
 
Uptop said:
Im sorry for your loss. She sounded like a lovely mother who lived a long life.

Try not to feel guilty, you did as she wished. Hindsight can feel powerful but you cant be there 24/7 to account for every situation.

Things will feel tough but know it will get better, take it day by day and look for support where you can find it, be that family, friends or online. Talking it out and allowing yourself to grieve and feel your emotions is an important step in processing things while also being a way to recollect memories and cherish her life.

Take care of yourself.
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Thank you so much for your reply, it means a lot mate.
She was indeed a great mum. I'm in bits at the mo.
I really appreciate your advice, thank you
 
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