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Marriage/happiness/longevity.
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jim tolmies perm
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Watching this thread carefully as I'm about to get hitched for the first time....at 61...lol..
I've needed to prioritise my emotional needs as I know it's led to feeling of emptiness now that material things are no longer a concern. Think it might be very beneficial for my mental health...
...but we'll see...I don't look at it as too much of a risk...more like an adventure and an opportunity to understand myself better
I've needed to prioritise my emotional needs as I know it's led to feeling of emptiness now that material things are no longer a concern. Think it might be very beneficial for my mental health...
...but we'll see...I don't look at it as too much of a risk...more like an adventure and an opportunity to understand myself better
superwatsonwatson
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40 years married in July. Being loyal to your wife and City go hand in hand.
BridgyDids
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Been together 13 years and married 7.
Just had our first child after numerous “false starts” recently, and couldn’t be happier.
I always think being a good husband/wife is akin to being a good housemate. Just be respectful - think of the ‘we’ rather than the ‘me’. If you see a problem and you can sort it - do! If not flag it with one another and put a plan in place to sort it. Communicate what you are doing.
I’m on here a lot more at present as winding a newborn is massively boring!
Just had our first child after numerous “false starts” recently, and couldn’t be happier.
I always think being a good husband/wife is akin to being a good housemate. Just be respectful - think of the ‘we’ rather than the ‘me’. If you see a problem and you can sort it - do! If not flag it with one another and put a plan in place to sort it. Communicate what you are doing.
I’m on here a lot more at present as winding a newborn is massively boring!
Manchester_lalala
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Never really understood the fascination of getting married, or the having to have a partner for the pure sake of having one. You should never be unhappy in a relationship, if you’re then get yourself out of it and be independent. You only live once.
I never really wanted to get married but that was more the cost of the wedding. Needless to say my opinions on that were duly noted and dismissed! (The secret to a happy marriage is to accept that your opinion carries no weight). Subsequently we've been married 15 years this year, together for 21.
JOGAMIGMOG
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A message to anybody who isn’t happy 100% in their relationship: Makes me laugh how some people can’t stand being on their own, can’t bear the thought of going on holiday on their own or just being free. Sure, being in a relationship has its benefits but the freedom of being YOU far outweighs anything. Never be tied down to anybody’s whims or desires - it’s not you. Imagine going to your grave knowing you’ve not done half the things you wanted to do in life because the computer says no? Time to ditch the computer and begin living.
melrose40yarder
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Ive been with mrs melrose for 31 yrs.Ground rules at the start if you ever stop me watching City,playing golf or seeing my mates we will be done.Hers were if you ever cheat or stop me fron seeing my mates the same.You have to work at problems and talk,most of all you need to be friends as well.Have joint and single interests.Just waiting to be grandparents now.Relationships are not like the rest of society disposable.
Tuearts right boot
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61 !!!!!!, First time !!!!!!!..... I wouldn't fucking bother mate, seriously, it aint worth it.Watching this thread carefully as I'm about to get hitched for the first time....at 61...lol..
I've needed to prioritise my emotional needs as I know it's led to feeling of emptiness now that material things are no longer a concern. Think it might be very beneficial for my mental health...
...but we'll see...I don't look at it as too much of a risk...more like an adventure and an opportunity to understand myself better
bluegirl74
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In answer to the OP, I wish I knew.
My marriage collapsed after 10 years. Just grew up and grew apart. Minimal animosity, still in contact most days but predominantly around the children and logistics.
12 months later, I met someone else who I adored and would have married at the drop of a hat, but he didn't want to, and then somewhat inconveniently died before I could convince him otherwise.
No idea what the future will hold.
My marriage collapsed after 10 years. Just grew up and grew apart. Minimal animosity, still in contact most days but predominantly around the children and logistics.
12 months later, I met someone else who I adored and would have married at the drop of a hat, but he didn't want to, and then somewhat inconveniently died before I could convince him otherwise.
No idea what the future will hold.