Midlife crisis.

[Manchester33]

My daughter is 13 and im trying to teach her that the way to be happy is not getting the next iphone.

THIS.

I keep trying to tell my family that happiness is developed through freedom, not possessions.

You spend your whole life being miserable in work to pay for a slightly better phone that will bring you close to no satisfaction compared to a phone that costs a fraction of the price. Same with cars, clothes, houses.

My sister just bought a brand new Audi TT on finance. She's dead chuffed with herself. All I see is an extra few hundred pounds to make each month for the next few years.

 

[Helmet Cole]

We are sleepwalking into slavery. Sorry to sound all David icke, but it just seems that in two generations we have removed the 'discrimination' that 'forced' mums to stay at home and people to retire at 65 so we can support more household debt and work until our health fails. Due to the break up of the traditional close knit family, any wealth you do acrue will then be paid to a corporate care agency in your old age so some spotty nvq girl can wipe your arse and feed you until you die pennyless. That's if the 'equity release' vultures have not already pushed you into a sort of voluntary reposession of your house years ago. Happy times :-(

 

[stonerblue]

The problem with middle age isn't you, it's all the peopple around you.
Older siblings, parents, friends parents etc all reaching an age were health issues, and even death,seem to occur much more regularly. Simply a matter of mathematics.
On the flip side, kids growing up and grandkids can all make you feel much better.
Forget about the rest of the world and live you life with your loved ones.

 

[stonerblue]

We are sleepwalking into slavery. Sorry to sound all David icke, but it just seems that in two generations we have removed the 'discrimination' that 'forced' mums to stay at home and people to retire at 65 so we can support more household debt and work until our health fails. Due to the break up of the traditional close knit family, any wealth you do acrue will then be paid to a corporate care agency in your old age so some spotty nvq girl can wipe your arse and feed you until you die pennyless. That's if the 'equity release' vultures have not already pushed you into a sort of voluntary reposession of your house years ago. Happy times :-(

Sadly, bang on.

 

[paulbob]

When I was 16 I worked with a man who was in his early 60s and looking forward to his retirement. He told me one day that you reach an age when time is far more important than money. Now, I am at the age that he was then, I realise how true his statement was

 

[Lancet Fluke]

One thing i have learned the hard way with age and depression is that you cannot get down about things you can't control,no point sweating that stuff

Indeed, he needs to learn to concentrate on controlling the controllables. Either that or go to Amsterdam, get pissed/stoned and bum a whore. Either can be an effective way of getting out of a funk.

 

[The Silver Surfer]

On your last point mate, about fucking off and being selfish, do you not think that's why the world is fucked in the first place? I understand where you are coming from and it sounds like you have to deal with a hell of a lot more than the normal person but community has slowly been eradicated and what we see, fundamentally it's a capitalist trait, is everyone out for themselves, competing against one another, chasing money as if that's the only way to be happy. Small example but to highlight how it's a generation thing, neighbours used to look out for one another, if there was a fight or incident in the street someone would intervene. These days we are almost 'taught' to do the opposite by large parts of the press who scaremonger. What if they have knife. It's not worth yourself being harmed over someone's problem. Don't get me wrong I'm sure it wasn't so clean-cut back in the past and not everyone who intervene but there's definitely more of a selfish culture these days. God I sound jaded and I'm only just in my thirties.

No, not at all.
On a personal level i've pulled my finger out for enough people constantly for donkey's years usually through a combination of the the goodness of my own heart and the pleasure in doing so. I know thats what people are supposed to do anyway, especially for loved ones, but when its 24/7 for years and you realise friends have drifted away and you can't remember the last time you had a night out except for going to the pictures on the odd night and you watch the match on tv on you todd all the time. I've never had a pot to piss in, i've earn't decent money when I wasn't a carer but by then I had a family and a sick wife so there was none left for me. I didn't mind but when you get to the prospect of the kids in a few years not needing you as much i'd like to think I can disappear and claw back some of "me". The last thing i've been is selfish.
Sadly community on my street is a 50/50 thing. There's a couple of great family's I stop and chat to one's red and one's blue but on the other hand i've had one muppet calling my lad an idiot and another guy who quite obviously made up a story about rats in his house and that they must be getting in through a secret hole in the wall that the ivy on my side was covering because it was growing across his garage wall which meant it had to be choppped down to find out. There was no hole, he just didn't want it growing on his property. He only had to ask but dreamed up this ludicrous story. He and his gladrags mrs before or since never say hello, totally ignore me and my family and look down their noses when they do come into proximity. Mainly because we have an old banger and don't cover ourselves in gold and false tans. Tedious.

I do get your point though. Everything has come too easy for a lot of people in the last 30 years and responsibility be it in the work place or at home is more often than not allowed to be shirked hence a partial explanation of the ills of todays society.

 

[kinkyblue]

I had labyrinthitis this time last year mate. It's awful! Had it for 3 weeks over Xmas.

I keep getting it! Dizzy when I lie down or move my head quickly!


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[andyhinch]

Id have been happy with 3 weeks, its been 8 weeks now. Not dizzy anymore but my ear is ringing and thumping like a twat, like pressure in it. Very unpleasant business. No word from the ENT bloke either yet, I should have gone private really but Ive spent the money on Guinness now with all the time off

I got diagnosed with it, when it kept coming back and after many tests, it's something worse,looks like I stuck with it for the foreseeable, been 18 months now and I'm bloody pissed off.

 

[idahoblues]

Indeed, he needs to learn to concentrate on controlling the controllables. Either that or go to Amsterdam, get pissed/stoned and bum a whore. Either can be an effective way of getting out of a funk.

Picking corn out of your jap's eye might bring you down again