Mothering Sunday...

[dazdon]

Mums are fantastic!

I lost my Mum a few years ago and still think of her every day.

Have a great day all Mums whoever you are.

 

[bluebird113]

very much pain for me.

despite the fact that i have two amazing children who i love dearly, my mum is (like BBBs) ravaged by altzheimers and so mother's day is always a horrible reminder of what i've lost. i hate trying to find an appropriate card for my mum. but, for as long as she's around i'll spend the day with her (as i do every sunday) and be thankful for the fact that she enabled me to follow my dreams and ambitions and that i can be the mum i am to my children - cheers mum xxx

Pain and pleasure for me Mum has Altzheimers I visited her this morning and she didn't know who I was we had to put her into a home on new years eve because dad couldn't handle her anymore she was a wonderful mum and grandma highly intelligent and the kindest person you could wish to meet it is heartbreaking to see her reduced to a shell of the person she was but as I write this I am drinking coffee from the new filter machine my daughter brought me,eating Thorntons continental choccie from my son as I admire my lovely bunches of flowers
Happy mothers day to all the mums out there

 

[mad4city]

very much pain for me.

despite the fact that i have two amazing children who i love dearly, my mum is (like BBBs) ravaged by altzheimers and so mother's day is always a horrible reminder of what i've lost. i hate trying to find an appropriate card for my mum. but, for as long as she's around i'll spend the day with her (as i do every sunday) and be thankful for the fact that she enabled me to follow my dreams and ambitions and that i can be the mum i am to my children - cheers mum xxx

I feel for you.
My mother passed away just before Christmas, having suffered from senile dementia for the previous six and a half years.
It's a horrible disease. That cliche about losing them twice really is true.
The hardest thing, I found, was being there on my own during the final stages. She was pretty much just stranded in the bed, a wretched collection of skin and bone. At least when the brothers and sister were there, there would be some idle conversation or black humour to pull each other through it. On your own is the hardest thing, though. Tell you the truth, I used to just plant a kiss on her, tell her I loved her and rush away before I cracked and the tears flooded out. Sometimes, she'd rouse to kiss me back. Those moments, as you can imagine, are amongst my most cherished memories of her.
I know she went surrounded by those who loved her but she didn't deserve to leave this world in such a helpless, pathetic way.
She had more about her than that. Who does deserve it though, eh?
Anyway, I'm rambling on so I'll call a halt here. All I really wanted to say was something that might (with the world of respect) remind you to enjoy your time with your mam. As difficult a time as this is for you, make the most of things in as much as you can. It's far from a perfect situation but she's obviously well loved, she's in no pain and remember if your happy and positive when you greet and address her, she'll be the same.
And hey, if all else fails, remember my brother's black humour: Alzheimers is hereditary. So, it's something for us to look foward to!

 

[BlueBearBoots]

very much pain for me.

despite the fact that i have two amazing children who i love dearly, my mum is (like BBBs) ravaged by altzheimers and so mother's day is always a horrible reminder of what i've lost. i hate trying to find an appropriate card for my mum. but, for as long as she's around i'll spend the day with her (as i do every sunday) and be thankful for the fact that she enabled me to follow my dreams and ambitions and that i can be the mum i am to my children - cheers mum xxx

I feel for you.
My mother passed away just before Christmas, having suffered from senile dementia for the previous six and a half years.
It's a horrible disease. That cliche about losing them twice really is true.
The hardest thing, I found, was being there on my own during the final stages. She was pretty much just stranded in the bed, a wretched collection of skin and bone. At least when the brothers and sister were there, there would be some idle conversation or black humour to pull each other through it. On your own is the hardest thing, though. Tell you the truth, I used to just plant a kiss on her, tell her I loved her and rush away before I cracked and the tears flooded out. Sometimes, she'd rouse to kiss me back. Those moments, as you can imagine, are amongst my most cherished memories of her.
I know she went surrounded by those who loved her but she didn't deserve to leave this world in such a helpless, pathetic way.
She had more about her than that. Who does deserve it though, eh?
Anyway, I'm rambling on so I'll call a halt here. All I really wanted to say was something that might (with the world of respect) remind you to enjoy your time with your mam. As difficult a time as this is for you, make the most of things in as much as you can. It's far from a perfect situation but she's obviously well loved, she's in no pain and remember if your happy and positive when you greet and address her, she'll be the same.
And hey, if all else fails, remember my brother's black humour: Alzheimers is hereditary. So, it's something for us to look foward to!

That made me cry - all of us who are going through this it's feckin awful - but awful more for us than our mums, they just don't know :(

Love and hugs to all xx

 

[Bill]

it is what it is. I lost my mum in the 70's but life goes on as they say.

I took my family out this afternoon for a bite to eat. the waiter ambles over and presents a specially printed menu with "mothers day" as a headline. me being a dickhead decided to tease him. I read the title and said "I lost my mum and that menu has just reminded me off my loss" he was well embarrassed as I feigned hurt. he said oh sorry can I get you a drink I pretended to sob and told him it was drink that killed her. his face was a picture, didn't know where to look. my daughter grassed me up and revealed I'm a tosser. :)

after that as he brought the meals he left me off and shit, good on him.

will go back fathers day me thinks.

 

[bluegirl74]

thank you to all of you who have replied and quoted my post or pm'd me. the kindness of strangers is very touching.
it's awful and horrible but just like my mum was always there for me i'll be there for her too.
she did recognise me today which was great but she flipped when my children called her grandma - she still says she's too young to be a grandma even though she's well into her 70's but i suppose that in her mind she's still young.
right, enough of the maudlin stuff, where's that gratuitous pictures of men thread???

 

[BlueBearBoots]

it is what it is. I lost my mum in the 70's but life goes on as they say.

I took my family out this afternoon for a bite to eat. the waiter ambles over and presents a specially printed menu with "mothers day" as a headline. me being a dickhead decided to tease him. I read the title and said "I lost my mum and that menu has just reminded me off my loss" he was well embarrassed as I feigned hurt. he said oh sorry can I get you a drink I pretended to sob and told him it was drink that killed her. his face was a picture, didn't know where to look. my daughter grassed me up and revealed I'm a tosser. :)

after that as he brought the meals he left me off and shit, good on him.

will go back fathers day me thinks.

Bet he spat in your meals lol ( poor Jess how does she cope with you!)

 

[mcmanus]

Make the most of your mum while she's around. Trust me; you will miss her when she's gone.

I see mine near everyday and make her laugh near everyday. Often making her and me old man's tea (I get a chefs portion).

I could be arrested for a triple murder with a bloody knife, CCTV and DNA going against me and me mam would say it wasnt me. Love her.

 

[Rascal]

I put a little message in the MEN last night, my mam had tears in her eyes when she read it. Got to love your mam.

A little appreciation goes a long way.

For those who have lost your mam, remember her with love as thats what I do on fathers day.

 

[Ammy]

My mum died a while ago now and I have always hated this day. Weirdly today is the first time I didn't spend the day thinking about her. I felt like a Mum and enjoyed the day for me