My Brother's Kids

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I'll start this out by saying that I have no kids but I have other brothers with kids as well and get along fine with them. I even watch their kids and plan fun activities and take them to the movies, etc.

But my one brother has two kids that (in my opinion) are completely out of control. His 10 year-old son is just constantly kicking and punching at me, and not for play, he's trying to hurt me. The other day he literally came up to me when I was sitting on a couch and started kicking me as hard as he could right in my stomach. His father was sitting right beside me and never even said a word. I asked him if he thought I liked that and he said "I don't care" and then I politely asked him to stop (he did it two more times and then stopped). His thing is that there is NO WAY he will ever listed to anybody, if he is asked to stop doing something he just keeps doing it for spite. At one point my father (his grandfather) just started yelling at him to sit down and be quiet because he was running around in circles making a bunch of noise while he was watching a football game. Again, his father was right there and never said a word. In the rare times his father (or anybody else) he tells them that he hates them. I mean, if he doesn't get his way 24/7 he completely loses his shit.

Another time I was at a party and he started taking down the balloons and jumping on them to make noise. His father said "Please stop doing that" and he immediately grabbed another balloon, walked over to his father, put it on the ground and jumped on it just to prove that his father can't tell him what to do. There was never any punishment. Later on he took a ball and fired it at his cousin's nuts from point blank range and hit him square which really hurt him. When my other brother told his father what he did to his son his response was "Yeah, so?".

They also have a daughter that is pretty much the same way but without the violence. She completely ignores anything you tell her and if you are the least bit forceful she becomes indignant.

At this point, I am completely fed up and can't take it anymore. I don't want this kid kicking and punching me (not that it hurts but it is fucking annoying). When I said something to his father he said "He's playing, that's what kids do". Maybe he thinks this way because he was the same way as a kid, a sneaky little bastard who always took a cheap shot. The difference was that when we were kids I'd beat his ass.

Most of the time I just stay away from them but with the holidays looming I'm going to be subject to this idiocy again. Any tips on how to handle this? I know I'll get some comedic replies and some serious suggestions and I'm looking forward to both.
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I should also mention that we have already cancelled out usual holiday party and are instead having an abbreviated less fun party because of these two. It's a real shame since we started this tradition about 30 years ago when I was 10 and now it's over because of two spoiled kids whose parents never once tried to manage them.
 
Not sure if this is a parody thread or not?

Anyway, your brother here is the issue. Tell him to sort his kids out as they are little shits. Just imagine had bad they will be in 5/10 years time? Also tell him the truth about your family holiday together. Sounds like a right lazy ****.
 
rickmcfc said:
Not sure if this is a parody thread or not?

Anyway, your brother here is the issue. Tell him to sort his kids out as they are little shits. Just imagine had bad they will be in 5/10 years time? Also tell him the truth about your family holiday together. Sounds like a right lazy c**t.

Not a parody thread at all, I just found out our celebration was cancelled and am extremely pissed. I do agree that the parents are 100% to blame. Kids will get away with as much as they can. The problem is that their parents get offended when anybody says anything about their kids. They are completely jealous of my other brother's son who is smarter and much better behaved so they are always trying to compete with him, they also constantly put him down and I'm pretty sure they told their son to hurt him because they knew he wouldn't fight back.
 
Do the rest of the family feel the same as you do?

If so there needs to be some sort of family summit where you all are prepared to be honest with your brother.

You can put it in supportive terms and explain that local health centres can offer behavioural support to children and their parents.

Best of luck.

Other people's children are always a challenge.
 
If your brother has such an apathetic attitude to discipline then presumably he wouldnt kick up a fuss if you take it upon yourself to teach this kid whats right and wrong.

Sounds like he is far beyond the point of taking on board simply being told whats not acceptable behaviour so maybe getting a bit crafty might work instead.
The next time he is kicking out laugh at him and tell him only girls do that.
If he then switches to punches it might be time to get a punchbag for Xmas and focus his mind on taking out his aggression in a proper manner rather than on relatives.
 
Lucky Toma said:
If your brother has such an apathetic attitude to discipline then presumably he wouldnt kick up a fuss if you take it upon yourself to teach this kid whats right and wrong.

Sounds like he is far beyond the point of taking on board simply being told whats not acceptable behaviour so maybe getting a bit crafty might work instead.
The next time he is kicking out laugh at him and tell him only girls do that.
If he then switches to punches it might be time to get a punchbag for Xmas and focus his mind on taking out his aggression in a proper manner rather than on relatives.

Good ideas. I was kind of thinking of knocking him over and acting like he really hurt me. It might give him the message that when you hurt somebody there's a good chance you'll end up on your ass and maybe being a little scared.

Oddly enough though, he's very protective with his kids. He thinks that everybody is unfair to them and that they are little angels who everybody else picks on. As I said, there is a big rift between him and my other brother over how their kids were treated by our parents. They resent that my parents spent more time with my other brother's kid. The reason they did is that his wife left him with a one year-old kid and he was pretty much on his own. My parents stepped up and played a large part in raising his little guy (who is 11 now). The 11 year-old is also extremely gifted in school and is constantly winning accolades and may even be skipped ahead and graduate early. While their son is average academically but is pretty good at sports. But that's not enough because my other brother's daughter is some kind of freak when it comes to gymnastics. She is being scouted by top local programs and is winning all-around competitions against kids three years older than her (she is 7). So they feel like their kids are once again being shown up because somebody is better than them.

It is some pathetic, petty bullshit if you ask me but he has been like that ever since he was a kid. One funny story was the time he paid a kid to hurt me in gym class. You see, my brother was a bit of a nerd and while I was no superstar I was pretty decent at sports and did fairly well with the ladies so he was jealous. Anyway, one day he gave a guy who was a little bigger than me money to injure me in gym and I ended up breaking the guy's nose and giving him a black eye.
 
IF this is a serious thread, then it sounds like you and your brother have got some unresolved issues from your childhood. Pretty sick using kids to carry it on though, but that's families for you.

It is some pathetic, petty bullshit if you ask me but he has been like that ever since he was a kid. One funny story was the time he paid a kid to hurt me in gym class.

Man up and sort it out with your brother - paying someone to beat up your sibling is not normal behaviour. Have you considered it might be petty for you but not for him.
 
Sounds like really poor parenting by your brother.

Could be worse by brother allowed his son to become a rag - now that is bad parenting.

The son was a glory hunter (it was in the 90s) - he said he wanted to follow a successful team and that CITY were not winning anything - I enjoy conversations at family get togethers nowadays.
 

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