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My head is in bits
- Thread starter Lucky Toma
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Challenger1978
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Griff93 said:Was she a swallower? If not then you're better off out of it mate.
lol i just want to know is this the bird he shaved his knackers for the other day. If shes left him with an itchy crotch and a broken heart she wants punching never mind the bloke.
1_barry_conlon
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He's an abuser, end of. Doesn't have to be physical it can be mental, which is what he's doing.
If she spends the rest of her life with him he'll decide everything for her, she won't have a mind of her own. If you do end up winning her over he has to be well out of the picture...or report him for harassment if he continued. A restraining order would do the trick.
If she spends the rest of her life with him he'll decide everything for her, she won't have a mind of her own. If you do end up winning her over he has to be well out of the picture...or report him for harassment if he continued. A restraining order would do the trick.
If he is a control freak as you say then the time she has spent away from him will only bring that behaviour into sharper focus this time round.
And he will not let her forget about the time she has spent with you.
I expect there will be a break up again within months, but the thing you have to decide LT is whether you want to wait and pick up the pieces.
I know it is easier said than done but I'd suggest no contact and let them get on with it, whilst you do the same. Distance can only mean healing and perspective in a situation like this.
Good luck x
And he will not let her forget about the time she has spent with you.
I expect there will be a break up again within months, but the thing you have to decide LT is whether you want to wait and pick up the pieces.
I know it is easier said than done but I'd suggest no contact and let them get on with it, whilst you do the same. Distance can only mean healing and perspective in a situation like this.
Good luck x
glen quagmire
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LT, i would go down there, i wouldn't (i can't believe i'm saying this, as i would) hit him. He will play the sympathy card, while trying to make you look the big bad person! Go to her, tell her your true feelings, and that you can make it work. Then fuck off and let her sort her head out. If she want's a future with you, tell her to come up to YOU!
If this works, can i come over for some of your famous home made burgers?
If this works, can i come over for some of your famous home made burgers?
m7mcfc
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After showing this thread to the mrs I think she will be giving up facebook. Laughing out loud she was couldn't believe us fellas could come out with what she had read. LT the wife say's Jane wants to have the cake and eat it.
JoeMercer'sWay
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having only read the OP she doesn't sound like a strong character and will only mess you about even more in the future. It doesn't sound like her fault other than she can't control her ex and her feelings for him, and I know plenty of guys like that.
My 2 theories are you walk away and save yourself the aggro, or you really absolutely fight your corner to the death over her and hope she eventually sees more in you than him and gets over it, that's a very big if and may not ever happen and you could end yourself up in a lot of bother if she continues to play you off against him instead of making her mind up on what SHE wants to do and is honest with everybody, rather than just try and keep everyone happy. She seems weak and vulnerable but that can happen when there's a long relationship and a dependancy occurs, and it takes a very strong character to break that and achieve a good result. If you have that, good luck, if you don't, I honestly don't think it would be worth it.
My 2 theories are you walk away and save yourself the aggro, or you really absolutely fight your corner to the death over her and hope she eventually sees more in you than him and gets over it, that's a very big if and may not ever happen and you could end yourself up in a lot of bother if she continues to play you off against him instead of making her mind up on what SHE wants to do and is honest with everybody, rather than just try and keep everyone happy. She seems weak and vulnerable but that can happen when there's a long relationship and a dependancy occurs, and it takes a very strong character to break that and achieve a good result. If you have that, good luck, if you don't, I honestly don't think it would be worth it.