My head is in bits

Been meaning to post on this thread all weekend, but only been on BM via my mobile.
A sad story this, one which I can relate to in terms of feeling shit. A few have commented you, (OP), should go and knock a few tons of shit out of thee bloke in question. Whilst i'm sure you don't need me to tell you its a ridiculous idea, I will anyway. Its a ridiculous idea! My ex, who I have 2 kids with and who I was with for 7 years, got into a relationship more or less straight away after she left me, and it was with someone she works with and someone who she used to go on about alot. Very convenient, I thought. Anyway one Sunday I had a shit load to drink and discovered they were playing happy families with my kids at a christening. Monday morning I go round there about 7am, all guns blazing and try to attack this bloke, who locks himself in a bedroom. My kids witness this and I recall my son calling me, 'an idiot'. I was an idiot, a complete fucking twat of an idiot, I don't mind admitting. Violence is NOT the option, it solves nothing.
I have read that you have been texting, emailing, facebooking her? Another bad move. If I could turn the amount of emails and texts I bombarded my ex with, into pounds, i'd be sending this from my new home in the Seychelles! I sometimes wonder if I had been more cool about it and not shown my cards, whether she would have come running back once she realised I wasn't 'bothered'. Its fucking hard, not showing how you feel, but if this happened again, which i won't let it happen, I would be cool and let the woman do all the running. I am actually embarrassed about how much I pined for her and emailed her etc, I must have looked very desperate, which I was. Don't do anymore communicating with her. She will realise if she has made a mistake, and she will do the running then. 'chasing your tail', one BMer referred to it as... I can't think of a more apt description to be honest.
Finally, life is not over. It was a different situation for me, as we had kids and so contact was, and still is, a regular occurance. It took me 2 years to fully get over what happened, but time is a fucking great healer. In 3 weeks time I am going to propose to my new mrs, who I have been with for a while now. My ex is married, the kids share us 50/50 and all is rosy. :-) Right now you will feel that is a million miles away, but, and I don't mind admitting this, i'm soft, emotionally I mean, and I let what should have taken 2 months take 2 years, (to get over her). We live and learn though. My advice is, no contact, get out as much as you can and put this one down to experience. Hope all goes well, Blue.
 
Unfortunately, even though you are in bits, and are probably the best person for her, she has made her decision. A warped one true but it's her decision.

Just tell her how you feel. Tell her you respect her decision. Tell her she's wrong but as you are a mature adult you will do anything to make her happy. And then let them get on with it.

Pounding the fuck out of him might sound like fun but it will be the wrong thing to do. It sounds like she wants things to go back to the way things were before. The mad woman.
 
Lucky Toma said:
Nah mate. There's no way that fit milf would dump Adam for her ex. He's never got time to talk to his kid properly on the phone and has an inferior broadband.
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Haha now that was funny! At least you haven't lost your sense of humour mate, get out there I reckon you won't stay single for long. Just don't make the mistake of regaling your new bird with the John and Jane story on the first date!
 
im sorry mate, hope your ok .

'john' is bang out of order , its janes life and she can do what she wants but because shes weak , its easy for him to guilt her into anything.


keep strong blue :(
 
Bump.

Just an update on whats gone on.

A few days ago I received a Facebook message from 'Jane' pouring her heart out saying how sorry she was for everything. She came to her senses and saw things exactly how they were. She then told her ex (the knob) that he had blackmailed her into losing the greatest thing in her life (me) and he turned abusive and aggressive again.
They are now through and she says he is finally out of her life for good.

'Jane' is now trying to win me back but - after what she's put me through - I dont want to know. We ended it before with me saying (this is all via e-mail, not spoken to her yet since it all happened) goodbye to her and her replying that she could never say goodbye to me. Instead she will leave me in peace for awhile.

The reason I've put this up is because so many of you called this correctly.
So many of you basically said all this would happen and that I should hang tight.

There are some smart people on Bluemoon.

Thanks again everyone for your words and support. Top top people.
I didnt think it was possible for me to love City more than I did. But after putting up this tread I found a whole new level.
 
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