Never thought I would find myself doing this but....

You are asking the wrong person you will not get the answers on here you are looking for no matter how well intentioned and probably correct some of them are.

Don't think what she might say or what she might be thinking you will go around in circles,after just 2 months you probably don't know her well enough

You are 37 she is 41 just ask her for gods sake and not by text or by phone.
 
It might not feel like it now mate but you are best off out of it. I know it's difficult when you're in your 30s/40s to find a woman who hasn't got any "baggage" but from the things that you outlined, it sounded way too complicated.
 
Re: Ner thought I would find myself doing this but....

Blue Streak said:
prairiemoon said:
How long and how often have you been spending time together?
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This is a good question and I'm glad someone has asked because it's been most weekends from Friday through to Sun/Mon and often involved me staying at her's the night midweek as well. So quite a bit if I'm honest, she even said herself yesterday.

The I need space though has been played today when I've phoned her a few times and had no response so I've also sent a text or two. Basically all I wanted to do was say 'Hi' have a five minute chat and then get on with my day. Is that so wrong?
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I wouldn't want to see someone I was married to that often.
 
Blue Streak said:
Followed the advice on here, and believe me it's been difficult.

Pretty sure it's the end now anyway.
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Football season as started mate you don't need a woman, get yourself to as many games as possible. Champions league draw tomorrow get yourself on a euro away session you'll soon forget about her.
 
andyhinch said:
Blue Streak said:
Followed the advice on here, and believe me it's been difficult.

Pretty sure it's the end now anyway.
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You followed advice on here? My fucking puppy's got more sence than anything I post, follow your hart and your head, in what ever order you want. No one can know all the byplay. Good look to you, come across as a sound lad
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When I say I followed advice on here I meant that I've not bombarded her with texts etc.
 
Tell me if I'm clutching at straws here, or trying to find comfort?

I was supposed to go with her to the MRI this morning as she was having a scan (camera on ladies bits), but given what had happened I text her yesterday asking her if she still wanted me to come? She thanked me but said she'd be okay on her own. I left it but text her this morning wishing her well, she replied with thanks and told me she had just arrived. A couple of hours later I recieved a text saying she was home and feeling dizzy and wanted to go to sleep, but she felt it was over between us and didn't want to hurt me anymore etc etc.

So several texts were sent to and fro, but I had stuff at hers and vice versa so I made my way over to her's and fair play to her she let me in and we had a chat. During this chat she put it to me that she felt I had been putting her under pressure? Now I'm still not 100% sure what she meant but she told me she cared for me but felt unhappy with the way things had progressed after less than two months. Anyway we did Kiss and Cuddle and I draw some comfort in the fact she didn't 'back off'.

I asked her if the situation between us could be resolved if I gave her the space she required? she didn't say yes or no and I explained from now on I'd do things at her own pace. Please bare in mind I've only done what I have as I've felt encouraged.

And now the breaker that I'd failed to mention (and probably the thing I'll regret for the rest of my life).

The other week I finished her via text in a drunken strop, I had reasons but on reflection it was a totally over the top reaction. I then spent ages making it up to her with Flowers etc. She has told me in her own words (since I dumped her for no valid reason) things haven't felt the same.

I'm thinking I've only myself to blame but I really like this lady and not sure now what to do? I'm hoping giving her time and space will be the answer. Either way if it's over because of me being a pissed up idiot the other week I'll be gutted. I thought we'd resolved it though but maybe she took it more to heart than I anticipated?
 
You're flogging a dead horse mate. From what you've said up to now, not one bit of information has given me any reason to think that this will have a happy ending.
 
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