Thanks for that post Paul, the bit about crossroads and change in life sounds lovely to me.
Life is boring me and like you i keep people at arms length really, always worked better as a lone wolf as it were.
I think it has to be all in for me mate, yeah the past is i think well forgotten. The lady in question is preoccupied with what i am doing now and seems more than happy to laugh of my past as a silly boy as just that. I am thankful she has because otherwise it would be a big crease to steam out right away. The idea of a totally new direction really appeals with her, really appeals !
This feels like a clean slate with a woman as you do can say or do anything with. There will be no secrets between us on any level.
Thanks for that post it gave me some clarity, a rarity on bm hehe.