She'll just move on to a Jag or Merc, just wanting to appear posh and well off at the private school her kid attends seems to be her main motivation. Personally (and I've told her husband) I'd be happy with the RAV 4. But I know he will end up blowing the $80k.
Update.
Yesterday, I saw him, he'd been checking out servicing costs;
BMW $899 plus consumables, so over a grand.
RAV 4 capped at $250 for 5 years, no extra charge for consumables.
Insurance also way higher on the Beamer.
He's not happy about that. And of course I couldn't resist saying "Jesus, you'd have to be mad to pay that"
His missus will end up hating me :)