Should I confess

happy_blue_apple said:
Do NOT do this!!

Imagine your wife finding out you had a little clandestine meeting with your ex about keeping quiet and you called her a nut job in the process.
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Er, if the ex doesn't say ANYTHING to his wife, how will she know, unless the guy tells her?

This way the ex isn't going to, inadvertently, let on to him in a familiar way and he gets to live his life in peace!
 
Damned if you do tell her, damned if you don't.

As someone said, ride it out and if she twigs just say..."oh, she's aged badly, i didnt recognise her." and move on.

My Wife refuses to go to certain countries/ places as I visited them before we met with other women.

"Oh, Malta is nice."
"No thanks, you went there with your ex."

It's batshit, they are batshit...but what can you do?

Oh...pics.
 
Bigga said:
Er, if the ex doesn't say ANYTHING to his wife, how will she know, unless the guy tells her?

This way the ex isn't going to, inadvertently, let on to him in a familiar way and he gets to live his life in peace!
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Why would it prevent her telling? There's no certainty of that. If she's fancies being a trouble maker, then telling her your wife is crazy might be music to her ears
 
I think I'm gonna keep quiet for the time being and hope she does the same,
The irony being is we moved here for a quieter life.
 
Tell her as quickly as possible. If she finds out any other way, you're screwed. Having to explain why you didnt tell her and all the accusations that could create is a lot tougher than whatever reaction you get to telling her now.

Your ex might tell your wife, her partner if she has one could, perhaps visiting friends or family on either side might recognise you/her and let the cat out of the bag.

If you don't fancy coming clean yet, you could always test the waters and say you just briefly saw the new neighbour and she looked like an ex. Likely not going to be a pleasant conversation for you but it banks you some plausible deniability for later.
 
Lavinda Past said:
You've had it mate. Lose the nutter or suffer the consequences. It'll be worse than Beirut when she finds out.... And she definitely will.
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Tbh she's a brilliant wife and mother and the only time I've bullshited her is at the start of the relationship
Her.."what you do for a living"
Me.. "I'm a chef at a 5 star hotel"
I was actually the kitchen porter.
Her.."how many girls have you slept with"
Me.."erm about 10"
Her.."your a male slag"
If only you knew sweetheart.
 
Picture the scene...the morning after bin emptying day, city5189 goes out to work at the same time as his current missus. He drags his wheelie bin up the path just as next door opens and his ex comes out in a dressing gown that accentuates her amble bosom. His current missus office ready with heels and stockings. Hair tied back. She's going for a few drinks with colleagues after work so has made an effort. Crisp white blouse and her best lacey bra under. She likes the attention of the men in that bar her and her workmates go into sometimes.

Ex in pink dressing gown isn't long out of the shower and her hair is still wet.

"Excuse me, is that my black bin you're taking in?"
"No, it's definitely our bin"
"Well can you tell me where mine is please?"
"I have no idea. I've just come out and honestly, this was the only one there and it's our bin."

"Honestly? Honestly? And tell me, what the fuck do you know about honesty? Were you honest with me when you were skulking around behind my back with my best friend? Were you honest when you told me you were going to watch the match with your mates when in fact you were in a Premier Inn in town with that little tramp. Was she better than me? Did she excite you more? Had you had enough of this?"

Ex unties her dressing gown to expose herself in the street. Current missus shakes her head.

"You two clearly have unfinished business and I'm better off out of it."

Gets in her car, drives away and is never seen again. Ex graffities his car and puts the house windows through. Ex's current bloke knocks fuck out of him on his return to work. city5189 is left on his own - a shell of a man. Turns to drink first and then inevitably drugs.

In a moment of clarity one cold morning in Piccadilly Gardens, he wonders what might've happened had he just been honest in the first place.
 
Cellarite said:
Picture the scene...the morning after bin emptying day, city5189 goes out to work at the same time as his current missus. He drags his wheelie bin up the path just as next door opens and his ex comes out in a dressing gown that accentuates her amble bosom. His current missus office ready with heels and stockings. Hair tied back. She's going for a few drinks with colleagues after work so has made an effort. Crisp white blouse and her best lacey bra under. She likes the attention of the men in that bar her and her workmates go into sometimes.

Ex in pink dressing gown isn't long out of the shower and her hair is still wet.

"Excuse me, is that my black bin you're taking in?"
"No, it's definitely our bin"
"Well can you tell me where mine is please?"
"I have no idea. I've just come out and honestly, this was the only one there and it's our bin."

"Honestly? Honestly? And tell me, what the fuck do you know about honesty? Were you honest with me when you were skulking around behind my back with my best friend? Were you honest when you told me you were going to watch the match with your mates when in fact you were in a Premier Inn in town with that little tramp. Was she better than me? Did she excite you more? Had you had enough of this?"

Ex unties her dressing gown to expose herself in the street. Current missus shakes her head.

"You two clearly have unfinished business and I'm better off out of it."

Gets in her car, drives away and is never seen again. Ex graffities his car and puts the house windows through. Ex's current bloke knocks fuck out of him on his return to work. city5189 is left on his own - a shell of a man. Turns to drink first and then inevitably drugs.

In a moment of clarity one cold morning in Piccadilly Gardens, he wonders what might've happened had he just been honest in the first place.
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Welcome, Blythe Spirit.
 
city5189 said:
So basically we've recently moved house to a lovely area.wife and kids love it,
Not seen any neighbours yet but wife has spoke to them, anyway putting the bins out last night spotted next door neighbour and it's only a girl I dated back just before I got with currant wife,
This wouldn't be a problem but we split up after she discovered I cheated with her mate,I know but I twas young and dumb.
At this point I should add wife is batshit crazy about ex girlfriends of mine, ( you all know what woman are like)
Should I tell her and have to deal with ear ache for next god knows how long or keep quiet and hope ex keeps her mouth shut.
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you're fucked either way, suggest you torch the house and buy a new one with the insurance
 
BimboBob said:
Damned if you do tell her, damned if you don't.

As someone said, ride it out and if she twigs just say..."oh, she's aged badly, i didnt recognise her." and move on.

My Wife refuses to go to certain countries/ places as I visited them before we met with other women.

"Oh, Malta is nice."
"No thanks, you went there with your ex."

It's batshit, they are batshit...but what can you do?

Oh...pics.
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Are you allowed back in Idaho ?
Just asking
 
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