Supporting a friend who’s gone to prison

taleofbluehalves said:
A good friend of mine went to prison this week. He probably deserved it to be honest within the parameters of what the judge had.

It was still sad still that a moment of madness at a time of some significant problems, led to prison.

I’m determined to help as much as I can. He’ll be punished enough.

Anyone had experience of this?
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Yeah been banged up twice for shall we say fighting while under the influence in my wild days but thankfully grew out of it,like others have said just try and keep in touch as it really helps,what jail down south is he in? I finished my 1st sentence in wormwood scrubs and believe me what a fucking shithole that place was.
 
Good on the taleofbluehalves for sticking with a mate who has done something stupid, probably in anger or frustration, this is when he will find out who his true mates are.

Good luck to him.
 
cleavers said:
Good on the taleofbluehalves for sticking with a mate who has done something stupid, probably in anger or frustration, this is when he will find out who his true mates are.

Good luck to him.
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Cheers mate. He had issues, was sorting himself out.

If you met him you’d think he was a nice guy. Totally out of character.

Fuelled by a couple very difficult things went out drinking and did something stupid in a moment of madness. He’s written his apology to the victim and apologised in court.

It’s frustrating he didn’t pick up the phone and talk to his friends instead of
going out. It is what it is unfortunately.
 
davek1808 said:
Yeah been banged up twice for shall we say fighting while under the influence in my wild days but thankfully grew out of it,like others have said just try and keep in touch as it really helps,what jail down south is he in? I finished my 1st sentence in wormwood scrubs and believe me what a fucking shithole that place was.
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I hope he won’t end up there!
 
Things have changed regarding prison and written communication but my mate spent most of his 40's inside, the most precious thing for him were the letters, at first I found it difficult because I didn't want to write about anything good that was happening as it seemed cruel but eventually I got into it, just tell him how your life is going, good or bad, make sure he knows he can ask you if he needs anything sending in, not mobiles & spice though:).
Sounds like visiting will be difficult if he's miles away but if you think you're able then ask him for a VO once he's settled in.
 
Kinkladze 1 said:
Did he GBH a woman?... You're being very evasive.
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Doesn't matter If it’s a man or women he clobbered. Sounds from the sentence like some poor bastard took a battering because he could not control his temper. My sympathies lie with the victim.
 
halfmist said:
Doesn't matter If it’s a man or women he clobbered. Sounds from the sentence like some poor bastard took a battering because he could not control his temper. My sympathies lie with the victim.
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Correct don’t get 7 years for a slap
 
He must be a very good friend for the OP to want to maintain relations after pulverising someone.
 
Kinkladze 1 said:
He must be a very good friend for the OP to want to maintain relations after pulverising someone.
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Obviously he is a close friend or the lad wouldn't be asking for advice, like he said the thread's about helping a mate, not judging him, busy fucker.
 
All depends on what the offence is , had a mate who got sent down for fraud from the company he worked for , never showed any remorse afterwards and he drifted away into a life of booze and bookies .
 
Kinkladze 1 said:
Did he GBH a woman?... You're being very evasive.
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No it was a bloke. Like I say it’s not good and I was more interested in anyone who’s knows someone who’s gone inside and how they helped really. I don’t want to identify who or what, just my choice.
 
nw42 said:
Things have changed regarding prison and written communication but my mate spent most of his 40's inside, the most precious thing for him were the letters, at first I found it difficult because I didn't want to write about anything good that was happening as it seemed cruel but eventually I got into it, just tell him how your life is going, good or bad, make sure he knows he can ask you if he needs anything sending in, not mobiles & spice though:).
Sounds like visiting will be difficult if he's miles away but if you think you're able then ask him for a VO once he's settled in.
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Cheers mate that’s helpful. Once we’ve got his prisoner number we can write/ email. We will visit but his mum
and dad will clearly take priority there.
 
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