york away to this!
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Have you and your Mrs been to counselling sessions mate?
We have, yes - we even had what I thought would be the last one this morning (happy valentine's day). It has been helping us both without question. Trouble is, these sessions can only widen your eyes to your joint behaviour, they cannot stop you doing the things that you do or change characteristics that are at the very core of your being. We are living in separate houses with our separate nippers already so I suppose at least that bit is done.
We have also been getting along swimmingly for the past few months, though have continued to fall out due to different versions of the clash that we always fall out about. Me taking an informed, logical decision or action - her disagreeing with that and trying to dictate what I do to suit her idea of what I should be doing, saying or thinking - which then escalates in to increasing tensions, gnashing of teeth and stamping of feet. In a nutshell this is what is driving us apart, although we both are saying we love each other completely and are trying to get to the heart of these matters so we can act and react in a more reasonable manner and learn how to head these off at the pass.
Not sure whether the best thing to do is just let it go and crack on with my life or carry on with this. We're booked in for the next session for the moment, though not sure if it's just prolonging the agony. The Mrs is beautiful, sexy, great with my children, drinks pints and watches city so is definitely a keeper (obviously if she could just understand that I'm always right...)
Let's see what happens...