General / Mental Health Support Thread

wattle said:
Thank you! Yeh I’m definitely going to need some help. I’ve been barrelling on through my parents death and being practical but this I’d different. Maybe it’s the straw that breaks the camels back and I think that having to make the decision ourselves makes it even harder. I’m autistic so have been looking at appropriate councillors to talk to. Hopefully that’ll help. I have an anxiety disorder and have had since my mum became really ill with dementia 3/4 years ago. And I’m lucky to be very aware what’s happening to my mind, but, probably because I’m autistic I’ve never let death of friends, work colleagues affect me that much - I’ve just been very practical about it. This last year though, especially with my dad and now my dog, has broken me.
Sorry to ramble - it’s just quite useful to write it down :(
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It seems to me mate that your feelings are absolutely normal, it’s dealing with them that’s the problem. As we go through life, death of dear ones, pain and suffering hits us all, my Dad died in 1993, my mother in 2005 and you just about cope with the heartbreak, but when things happen over a short space of time it can be overwhelming- I’ve seen it with friends etc. You’re doing absolutely the right thing : get it off your chest, talk about it, seek help - as you’re doing. Most if not all of us have the same feelings and anxieties as you, some conceal it very well, with some it’s apparent - but it’s contained just below the surface and with others, it gets out of control for a while. That’s when we need help. Good luck and take care.
 
PinkFinal said:
You're right it's better than walking.
I still have a bike.
Something to consider definitely.
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Hope you’re ok mate. Noticed you haven’t posted since Thursday morning. Noticed you liked a few comments so thats a relief ;)
An old work college of mine was on the edge a few years ago after retiring and feeling worthless. He managed to get on to Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) on the National Health which doesn’t have the memory loss side effect that ECT has. He’s in London now and I understand it depends where in the country you are, but I’m sure there are places in Manchester that do it. He reckons it’s changed and saved his life. Might be worth looking into.
Edit. Just checked and there is at least one place (Tranquil TMS) that takes NHS referrals)
 
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wattle said:
Hope you’re ok mate. Noticed you haven’t posted since Thursday morning. Noticed you liked a few comments so thats a relief ;)
An old work college of mine was on the edge a few years ago after retiring and feeling worthless. He managed to get on to Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) on the National Health which doesn’t have the memory loss side effect that ECT has. He’s in London now and I understand it depends where in the country you are, but I’m sure there are places in Manchester that do it. He reckons it’s changed and saved his life. Might be worth looking into.
Edit. Just checked and there is at least one place (Tranquil TMS) that takes NHS referrals)
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Thanks. I've decided I won't be sharing as much on here.
 
Kirkstall Blue said:
Try it BrianW they have drop in centres all over the Greater Manchester area, let us know what happens even if you don’t find it helpful come back and tell us what it was like :)
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I had quite a good session and will go again in March.

I was surprised by how helpful it was to talk it out. I actually found myself laughing. Feel better for it, though it was against my instinct to go. It took (a sort of) courage to ring the bell, but I'm glad I did.
 
PinkFinal said:
Anyone ever used a sauna?
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Good shout , I’ve been going to the sauna for over 40 years now and find it de stresses me .
Don’t want to go into it too much but when I was struggling rather than laze around and sit at the end of the bar I threw myself into getting fit .
I started jogging , played 5 a side , went to the gym 3 times a week and even joined a yoga class ( good way to meet new people ) and went sauna and swimming every Saturday morning , not only did I look good ( I use that term loosely ) but it did my mental health the world of good .
I felt so much healthier and mentally stronger . I know motivation can be an obstacle but the results are worth it .
You’ve got the Tameside sports centre on your doorstep in Denton give it a try .
 
Seen a "senior mental health practitioner" today.
They told me that they considered my request for electro convulsive therapy at a meeting and rejected it.
I said "If I don't get it I'm going to kill myself".

I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I've said it and that's that.
The practitioner said that she would ask for it to be considered again.

I am not doing this , day after day , year after year.
It's f*****g agony and unacceptable to be living with a mental burden that's so very unbearable. It's a fate worse than death.
 
PinkFinal said:
Seen a "senior mental health practitioner" today.
They told me that they considered my request for electro convulsive therapy at a meeting and rejected it.
I said "If I don't get it I'm going to kill myself".

I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I've said it and that's that.
The practitioner said that she would ask for it to be considered again.
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A long shot, maybe, but consider either putting the place's contact details on here (if mods would allow) or message it to a few of the BM people locally who know your struggles so that they can phone the practitioner and speak on your behalf to say they know you're on the brink. Just somehow get others to back you up. Even a few calls on her number can make her think again.
Meanwhile, hold on.
 
PinkFinal said:
Seen a "senior mental health practitioner" today.
They told me that they considered my request for electro convulsive therapy at a meeting and rejected it.
I said "If I don't get it I'm going to kill myself".

I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I've said it and that's that.
The practitioner said that she would ask for it to be considered again.

I am not doing this , day after day , year after year.
It's f*****g agony and unacceptable to be living with a mental burden that's so very unbearable. It's a fate worse than death.
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Fuck me!

Makes you wonder what does make someone eligible for ECT.

At least you’re being reconsidered for it.

Hope you can hang in there a bit longer and that the outcome is favourable.
 
I knew they'd reject me. I fuckin' knew it.
I'm going to the gym, I'm going for long walks, I'm going for counselling , I'm on a high dose of antidepressants. What more do they expect me to do ???
This has been going on years.

They don't like using ECT . That's not a secret.
Why ? They don't like the optics of statistical high usage or increasing usage and what it says about the country??
I know the risks and I don't care. I'm 58 not 28.

I have just asked (by email ) a relative to come and stay with me for a few weeks.
If they say no god knows what I'll do.
 
PinkFinal said:
I knew they'd reject me. I fuckin' knew it.
I'm going to the gym, I'm going for long walks, I'm going for counselling , I'm on a high dose of antidepressants. What more do they expect me to do ???
This has been going on years.

They don't like using ECT . That's not a secret.
Why ? They don't like the optics of statistical high usage or increasing usage and what it says about the country??
I know the risks and I don't care. I'm 58 not 28.

I have just asked (by email ) a relative to come and stay with me for a few weeks.
If they say no god knows what I'll do.
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I hope they reconsider your situation. Seems like you have done all the self help keeping active and trying to occupy your mind . Hope you get some support from your relative.Take care Pink .
 
PinkFinal said:
Thanks.
I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy it's truly horrific.
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We all know how hard you’ve tried with everything we thought might help, music, walking, drop in centres doctor AE if only you could let one of the mods know the name of who told you “you can’t be considered for ECT”
Quite a few health workers on Bluemoon might step in for you sometimes you need friends in high places

The system is broken and everyone has to jump through hoops to get seen by a doctor, it’s all about saving Money everything is rationed. You’ve researched ECT and feel it’s an option, the least they could do is find an alternative that TENs ? sounds a possibility it works by stimulating the nerve endings

Keep on posting PF we all want you to find peace and wish we could help.
 
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