Thanks, Mate. I appreciate what you are saying. I agree with you and I too don't consider it an illness. It is more a habit that can be broken. In my case, a very big habit. You do have to want to stop. I never did want to stop.It looks like you reached your tipping point and have decided to swim ,I can relate to all that ,I'm at about 9 years now and when we go out the lad says have the odd pint but I don't want the taste in my mouth again as I ain't going back there again ,have thought of trying zero % lager but don't think that's a good idea ,one big advantage is being able to drive 24 /7 didn't realize how much I was restricting myself from .
Just want to do it ,YOU are in control here ,I don't subscribe to it being an illness myself
Good luck
If you ever want a natter on pm feel free to ,I think the fact you were in control on work days like myself shows your not an out of control alcoholic but a functioning one .I think you will find it easier than you think I set myself a target of stopping for a day which went to a week which went to a month etc and it's ended up at 9 + yearsThanks, Mate. I appreciate what you are saying. I agree with you and I too don't consider it an illness. It is more a habit that can be broken. In my case, a very big habit. You do have to want to stop. I never did want to stop.
Now I need to. Thing is, need and want are different.
Alas no. Someone with the same nameAm I being a dick - the comedian?
Very good way of wording it............
you don’t drink you don’t smoke what do you do goody too goody too goody goody too shoes:)I set myself a target of stopping for a day which went to a week which went to a month etc and it's ended up at 9 + years
Cheers BH - didn't seem an obvious fit..........Nope, not the comedian. this guy does a lot of books about addiction
I read his gambling one which was very good.
Hahayou don’t drink you don’t smoke what do you do goody too goody too goody goody too shoes:)
We have to be honest with ourselves, don't we? No excuses so we can have another drink....it's about facing reality.Of course you can do it if you want to ,my doctor said to me I'm not even going to waste my time telling you to stop ,you no what your doing is wrong ,he said you will hit a tipping point soon where you will either have to sink or swim ,make the right decision .
As a recovering alcoholic myself I drank to feel normal and my tolerance just grew and grew so at say 8 pints I was sober ,were you drinking to cope or drinking to get pissed ?
So you KNOW it's the time to get alcohol out of your life.I just drank everyday because I always did. My job meant I couldn't get pissed everyday as I have very strict limits on what can be in my system when at work so I would drink as much as I could get away with each day. When I had days off, it was mayhem.
Tolerance grew, as you know. So the amount in my system never felt over the limit but it must have been on many occasions. I was lucky at work.
Just trying to remember exactly how much I'd consumed the day before was frightening.
This couldn't go on.
It was also wrecking my marriage and health (and bank balance).
Lots of reasons to quit.
Drink tea like a fuckin trouper! I still like a joint.you don’t drink you don’t smoke what do you do goody too goody too goody goody too shoes:)
I missed out on so much through being pissed nearly every day. Kids, footie, music...normal things. Those years are just a blur. I gave up when both my kids were still in school, so I managed to enjoy their graduations and things like that.Haha
I'm back in control of my life ,and debt still own my own house still have my job ,still have 2 kids that love me and managed to do 99 % of city games home and away for the last 4 years ,
So wasn't a bad lifestyle change :+)
We’re all allowed a wobble mate, stay strong when you can and remember how shit it can make you feel.Well I nursed a very sore head this morning and had a really shitty sleep last night which can only mean I shouldn't have drank 12 punk ipa.
Never missed these stinking hangovers
Back on detox at turn of the year!
Well done, Mate. Keep it going. It is worth it. I was skeptical about the 'worth it' bit, but it seems to be paying off. Even managed to avoid drinking over Christmas. Sleeping great, looking slim, saving money and not pissing people off by being drunk all the time!Managed to go 71 days sober so far. Extremely surprised managed to do this as used alcohol to cope with mental health issues drinking at least 4 times a week heavily. Not been easy but determined to continue I am fed up with panic attacks. Have also been prescribed fluoxetine hoping that helps. Would love nothing more than to be able to take my son to a city game again. Feel so guilty I can’t do it when he asks to go.
Brilliant, mate. I was the same...I couldn't get out. too many panic attacks. i just wanted to take my son to the footy too.Managed to go 71 days sober so far. Extremely surprised managed to do this as used alcohol to cope with mental health issues drinking at least 4 times a week heavily. Not been easy but determined to continue I am fed up with panic attacks. Have also been prescribed fluoxetine hoping that helps. Would love nothing more than to be able to take my son to a city game again. Feel so guilty I can’t do it when he asks to go.
They have been pretty bad still to be honest but I am starting the medication today so fingers crossed that helps. Either way I won’t drink anymore I’ve come to accept it just doesn’t agree with me and life is better without it.Brilliant, mate. I was the same...I couldn't get out. too many panic attacks. i just wanted to take my son to the footy too.
How have the panic attacks been since ?
I don't get panic attacks any more, mate. I was put on Citalopram (same class of anti-depressants as fluoxetine) when coming off alcohol and I believe that helped me so much. They may take about a week for them to kick in.They have been pretty bad still to be honest but I am starting the medication today so fingers crossed that helps. Either way I won’t drink anymore I’ve come to accept it just doesn’t agree with me and life is better without it.
How are your panic attacks mate ? Gives me hope to see someone in the same boast as me flourishing tbh!
Yeah I get anxious frequently throughout the day mainly health related. Have this huge fear about having a heart attack and then of course you start feeling the symptoms and before you know it your having a full panic attack. Also suffer with social aniexty where the drink really helped. Either way I will be sure to check out some YouTube videos, desperate for anything to help.I don't get panic attacks any more, mate. I was put on Citalopram (same class of anti-depressants as fluoxetine) when coming off alcohol and I believe that helped me so much. They may take about a week for them to kick in.
Do you have a general anxious feeling during the day? It's just your brain remembering that there was something....some kind of threat/fear. Something that you used alcohol for. It's the brain's auto response. Like it's subconsciously aware of something. Don't fear anxiety or panic attacks..they're just a natural response to a threat. A THREAT THAT ISN'T REALLY THERE, SO THE IMAGINATION TAKES OVER...OOPS CAPS..Once you realise there is no threat and that nothing bad will happen, the brain starts to let go, and you'll feel less anxious until eventually you'll feel confident again. There are some great self help vids on YouTube that explain it so well....and how to deal with them.
Take each day at a time and deal with each hurdle when you get to them. It gets easier, mate. Fuck that shit off out of your life for good...you'll get there, mate.