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Summerbuzz
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When I say, it's time to find a therapist, I mean, I wish I'd said it out loud last time, because I definitely thought it. I mean, this sounded like a pattern back then. A very very expensive pattern.
Good luck, kiddo.
Would love to know your mum. I could say, "I have a feeling she was a gem, but not perfect?" But that describes all women. And all men. Maybe now, you can't easily tell the difference between that sort of love from an emotional woman, and the brief fluttering of the eyelashes from someone covering their own back? Who knows.
It was always the eyelash fluttering for me. Mum generally used that for the good of the world. Some women don't display the same scruples. They just want out of a hole. Then you realise, huh, well, there's nothing much wrong with that. I've been in plenty of holes. What you want is a woman who is too organised and self-respecting for that.
But organised and self-respecting won't touch you unless they truly believe you are able to look after yourself at heart. And it can just make another kind of intolerable partner, who just uses you and doesn't think much about you. It's not easy figuring this stuff out. It really isn't.
Good luck, kiddo.
Would love to know your mum. I could say, "I have a feeling she was a gem, but not perfect?" But that describes all women. And all men. Maybe now, you can't easily tell the difference between that sort of love from an emotional woman, and the brief fluttering of the eyelashes from someone covering their own back? Who knows.
It was always the eyelash fluttering for me. Mum generally used that for the good of the world. Some women don't display the same scruples. They just want out of a hole. Then you realise, huh, well, there's nothing much wrong with that. I've been in plenty of holes. What you want is a woman who is too organised and self-respecting for that.
But organised and self-respecting won't touch you unless they truly believe you are able to look after yourself at heart. And it can just make another kind of intolerable partner, who just uses you and doesn't think much about you. It's not easy figuring this stuff out. It really isn't.