Biggest regret and why.

[bluethrunthru]

collapse of first marriage. I wasn't to blame but I did think that was it. Turns out it wasn't - happy now with wife and two kids but you know relationships are important and faliures are not good.

Not bothered at all about all the cunts I worked with was friends with went to City with and cricket with who as I moved around the country with work the "friendships" depended on me contacting them not them contacting me - once that penny dropped more than happy to drop them

 

[city2]

collapse of first marriage. I wasn't to blame but I did think that was it. Turns out it wasn't - happy now with wife and two kids but you know relationships are important and faliures are not good.

Not bothered at all about all the cunts I worked with was friends with went to City with and cricket with who as I moved around the country with work the "friendships" depended on me contacting them not them contacting me - once that penny dropped more than happy to drop them

I’ve always said work colleagues are exactly that and not true friends as you find out when you leave somewhere. Fuck em your better off without the back stabbing fuckers anyway haha

 

[crublue1]

At work mid 90's i got secunded to another department and ended up working for them for a couple of years on different sites.

Mass redundancies rolled around and i got selected based on the fact that i hadn't done any work for my old department during this time, and my boss thought it would force the hand of my current department to take me on their books (which turned out they couldn't).

My old boss then offered if that i worked my notice (13 weeks) he'd train me up on a fancy CAD system and at least he'd get a couple more months work out of me.

Couldn't be arsed commuting over to Knutsford (old department had relocated there from Trafford Park), plus i would of been taxed, NI'd on my earnings rather than getting it as a lump sum as redundancy.

Therefore told them to stick it.
Nowadays, agency rates for people proficient in that CAD package are £40-50ph locally and a hell of a lot more down south or up in Scotland, plus theres never a shortage of job offers around.

You can self teach yourself in cad nowadays if you know the basics.
Many cad programs that were state of the art 20 years ago are now free.
I'm shit with tech, but I can draw a 3d cad model from scratch, stick it through a post processor that I wrote, generate code and machine the part.
It's not that difficult

 

[Dirty Harry]

Reading this back, some six years later has made me smile. Whilst I’ll always be sad about the failure of my marriage, I no longer regret it, as I’ve since met the most amazing woman who I love even more than I did my ex-wife - something I never thought possible. Strong, intelligent, funny and kind with a great moral compass. Regularly takes the piss out of me too, which I absolutely need to keep my ego in check.

I am determined not to make the same mistakes as before though, and so far, after a year, I’ve kept to that.

So, I was definitely wrong about always regretting it, as I wouldn’t have found what I have.

Really pleased for you mate and long may it continue, I genuinely remember those times back then, those conversations we had when you were trying to piece things together again, pretty much your life in some respects, the sadness behind the laughs etc, I knew you’d turn it around though ;-).

My only regret (well I have two really, but …) is actually spending my time and putting in the effort to rescue relationships with people who deep down didn’t really give a fuck, I’ve learnt a lot reading (and dating various counsellor’s lol) that people don’t make these decisions to end relationships on the spur of the moment, they’ve been thinking about it for a good while ( at the very least 3 weeks), and they’ve decided they’re happy to continue their life, without you playing any further part, your only real option is to say “sorry you feel that way and I wish you the best”, and absolutely forget about them, make the most of your own life and move on, as Morrissey said “in my life, why do I give valuable time, to people who don’t care if I, live or die” !

 

[Bluesince1979]

Biggest regret by a mile is not looking after my finances better.
Ive never had debt but i also never had one eye on the future.
A divorce set me back and it took me until 47 to get back on the mortgage ladder with my second wife.

Ive always and still do spend if i fancy it, not recklessly at all, just living life.
But i WISH so much years ago i paid more attention to pensions years ago.

So in marriage it took me 2 go’s and ive never been happier now.
Career wise i got there in the end and all is fine

But i ram home to my kids that when youre in your 20s, retirement seems a million miles away , but time flies.

I dont regret living life, but i regret big time not being a bit more savvy when it comes to later life and finances

 

[Onholiday(somemightsay)]

Reading this back, some six years later has made me smile. Whilst I’ll always be sad about the failure of my marriage, I no longer regret it, as I’ve since met the most amazing woman who I love even more than I did my ex-wife - something I never thought possible. Strong, intelligent, funny and kind with a great moral compass. Regularly takes the piss out of me too, which I absolutely need to keep my ego in check.

I am determined not to make the same mistakes as before though, and so far, after a year, I’ve kept to that.

So, I was definitely wrong about always regretting it, as I wouldn’t have found what I have.

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[Blue Maverick]

I’ve always said work colleagues are exactly that and not true friends as you find out when you leave somewhere. Fuck em your better off without the back stabbing fuckers anyway haha

I think it depends on your job, I have fiends form the RAF I still talk to and I left 23 years ago and a couple from the brigade I’m close with. I know what you mean there are many who have gone by the wayside.

 

[ob]

Sorry for your loss mate mums are irreplaceable, you made a great choice flying over bet she was made up to see you.

This thread is biggest regret but that was best decision I ever made.

 

[Ghandi's Flip Flops]

You can self teach yourself in cad nowadays if you know the basics.
Many cad programs that were state of the art 20 years ago are now free.
I'm shit with tech, but I can draw a 3d cad model from scratch, stick it through a post processor that I wrote, generate code and machine the part.
It's not that difficult

Yeah, I pretty much taught myself Autocad, but PDMS isnt your typical cad package.
I've known guys pay thousands for 3 week training courses, and employers still wont consider them unless they've used it in a project environment for a minimum of 6 months, because of its complexity etc

 

[talkativesprout]

You can self teach yourself in cad nowadays if you know the basics.
Many cad programs that were state of the art 20 years ago are now free.
I'm shit with tech, but I can draw a 3d cad model from scratch, stick it through a post processor that I wrote, generate code and machine the part.
It's not that difficult

If you come across a free copy of FabCad i'll get you a pint ;)