Bullying at work

[Clubber]

Don't run, fight.

All companies have a code of conduct. Bullying in the work place should be on it.

My advice...

It's all in the detail. Dates and times that the abuse/ bullying has happened. Witness statements from people (like in that meeting). She will have a line manager. Once you have got some evidence then put in a formal complaint to HER line manager. They are duty bound by law to investigate.

Only this.

As long as your misses is playing by the rules/ working correctly, she should take notes and save emails, especially the ones which were sent about the original grievance about her boss, if they are seen to be doing nothing about a complaint, they will get bollocked from upon high, even more so if you have proof.

Your word against theirs isn't enough though, so evidence, witnesses and emails are a must.

 

[FuZzY]

Don't run, fight.

All companies have a code of conduct. Bullying in the work place should be on it.

My advice...

It's all in the detail. Dates and times that the abuse/ bullying has happened. Witness statements from people (like in that meeting). She will have a line manager. Once you have got some evidence then put in a formal complaint to HER line manager. They are duty bound by law to investigate.

This ^

Nobody should go through this. I know how she feels as this happened to me with a previous Company I worked for and I can tell you it was very stressful for me at the time.

Read direct.gov website which gives you plenty of advice:

<a class="postlink" href="http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/ResolvingWorkplaceDisputes/DiscriminationAtWork/DG_10026670" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/ ... G_10026670</a>

Acas also offer free advice:

Monday-Friday, 8am-8pm and Saturday, 9am-1pm: 08457 47 47 47.

If it can't be resolved in work, then I would advise her to see a Solicitor, or Union if she is in one. Some areas do have Employment Law Centres where they also give free advice and will also represent you as well.

 

[Cake]

It depends wether your wife want's to go formal or informal with her complaint. Quite often an individual does not realise that the behaviour they are adopting in the workplace is unacceptable. One suggestion would be to ask her union rep to draw the managers attention to the NHS policy relating to Dignity At Work and Behaviour and explain how the actions they are showing are affecting your wife and what the implications to her own job would be if she chooses to ignore the advice.
By what you descibe your wife would also be fully justified in going formal with her complaint. Once again her union would help with this, but more often than not individuals want resolution without going down this route.
I would definately suggest that your wife makes a note of any events that take place times, witnesses etc.
Alternatively, if all this fails your wife could consider waiting for her boss after work, dragging her head to the floor and kicking the living shite out of her.

Thanks everyone.

She has a log of some of the stuff that has happened and she has been for chats with her GP twice about it, most recently this morning which is how I got to find out about what her bos said about my Dad.

It has been raised with her managers line manager (that make sense) who mediated a meeting where my Mrs said how she felt and what the probs were. her managers response for the next couple weeks was ''oooh i don't know if I can say this to you incase I upset you' 'I have to be careful about talking to you now incase I upset you' etc but never modified her behaviour.

She won't quit the job because she likes it and is good at it. Plus she won't be forced out of it by a complete twat of a boss.

She has collected the Union membership forms today to join up to get their support.

 

[malg]

Above all else, get your wife to keep a diary with exactly what is going on. If it eventually comes down to a tribunal you'll find the diary invaluable.

 

[Captain Kompany]

Find our where she lives and put the bitches window through.

 

[Anonymous]

make a diary/journal of all the things going on i would say.

whatever you decide to do in the end, this could help. If not you could just get rid of it.<br /><br />-- Thu Aug 11, 2011 1:28 pm --<br /><br />

Above all else, get your wife to keep a diary with exactly what is going on. If it eventually comes down to a tribunal you'll find the diary invaluable.

sorry didn't see this ^

 

[FuZzY]

She has collected the Union membership forms today to join up to get their support.

Not 100% sure on this but she might not be able to get assistance for things that have happened before she becomes a member.

I know when I joined one, they weren't so keen on helping me as the problems I had with work had already started beforehand. They also mentioned a time-span from the time of joining until the time they could really help me properly. Not sure if it was 3 months, could be wrong. Then again it could've been the Union Rep bull shitting me because he couldn't be arsed?

Fortunately for me my circumstances in work changed so I didn't need them.

 

[Cake]

She has collected the Union membership forms today to join up to get their support.

Not 100% sure on this but she might not be able to get assistance for things that have happened before she becomes a member.

I know when I joined one, they weren't so keen on helping me as the problems I had with work had already started beforehand. They also mentioned a time-span from the time of joining until the time they could really help me properly. Not sure if it was 3 months, could be wrong. Then again it could've been the Union Rep bull shitting me because he couldn't be arsed?

Fortunately for me my circumstances in work changed so I didn't need them.

Thanks for that info, she is going to see her Union rep next week I think. As it seems to be ongoing behaviour she is joining incase it gets worse and she does need a proffesional body on her side.

 

[billy_big_spuds]

She needs to have a meeting with her boss, and explain she's being an absolute grotbag, and if she doesn't sort it out, she'll get her done for bullying and victimisation.
If it carries on, go over her head.

 

[AntonDonJuan]

I'd suggest watching the film "Horrible Bosses" and then finding yourself a Jamie Foxx

Seriously though, get a book and make notes of every time, date, detailed report of the bullying and get people as witnesses to back her up