Bullying at work

Cake said:
Just after a bit of advice please folks.

My Mrs works in the NHS and is really suffering at the moment, we have a lot going on at the moment so we are both a bit stressed out but what is going on at her work is making it massively worse for her and we don't know best way to approach it.

Basically her boss is a complete woman who is incompetent at her job but manages to pass down her failings to make it look like my Mrs fault. She is a shit manager, has no people skills and is abismal at her job. If it was the private sector she would have been shipped out ages ago!

Example - my Mrs did a presentation infron of her boss and 12 others last week, is was done exactly as per her boss instructions (she emailed her what to do). At the end of this presentation the head of department said it wasn't really what she wanted so my Mrs boss jumps up, walks over to her and infront of everyone starts banging and jabbing her finger on the table and asking why she did it wrong, if she didn't understand the instructions to ask, if she wasn't competent at job somebody else wil have to do these in future. My Mrs replied that it was done as per the emailed instructions and was talked down to again and told that she was basically not clever enough to understand the instruction. She said she felt completely humiliated infront of 12 other people, even the others in the room couldnt beleive what had just happened. I have read both and it is done exactly as it should be.

The boss constantly talks down to her, berates & humiliates her infront of colleagues when somthing is done 'incorrectly' yet it is generally her instructions that are incorrect, makes it awkward for her to have holiday (she is the only full timer in dept - the other 2 women do part time), makes it difficult for doctors & dentist appts.

The final straw (which I only found out a couple days ago) when my Dad died in June, my Mrs phoned in to work from my parents house the next day to say she wouldn't be in and why. Her boss then said to her 'have you seen the body - I've never been in that position before, was it cold?'

Because this woman is her boss we don't really know what to do as we fear that it could make her working life even more difficult. She loves her job, the dept she works in and is very good at what she does, but is hating working for this woman. The issue has already been raised with the head of department in May this year but it was seemingly brushed under the carpet as it would cause her hassle.

How should we approach this?
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re:- your wifes bullying manager. usually these people are so stupidly arrogant as to leave a e.mail or in fact a paper trail. build up evidence before you do anything else.
 
has it turned up? it's sitting in my outbox but not in the sent items if that makes sense. It's pretty long so not sure if there is a word limit on pms
 
southaustralianblue said:
has it turned up? it's sitting in my outbox but not in the sent items if that makes sense. It's pretty long so not sure if there is a word limit on pms
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it stays in your outbox till its read
 
southaustralianblue said:
has it turned up? it's sitting in my outbox but not in the sent items if that makes sense. It's pretty long so not sure if there is a word limit on pms
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Have it and replied mate.
 
Documentation of everything this woman does to your Mrs is the key mate, voice recording on a moby and get your Mrs to write every incidence down time dates ect and witnesses if poss, doesn't matter what issues then NHS have at the moment this totally totally unacceptable and this woman needs sacking g now

Good luck and best wishes to you both
 
cut and dried case for any self respecting union rep this

there will be a formal grievance procedure ,she must invoke it
enough here to have her boss disciplined
12 witnesses to her bullying are they prepared to come forward ?
hopefully demoted
 
kronkonite said:
cut and dried case for any self respecting union rep this

there will be a formal grievance procedure ,she must invoke it
enough here to have her boss disciplined
12 witnesses to her bullying are they prepared to come forward ?
hopefully demoted
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I would hope at least one of them would speak up.Most of them are also part of her department and they don't like rocking the boat - they have pretty much said that much. Piss poor behaviour when one of their colleagues is putting up with shit like that IMO
 
Shame none of Mrs Cake's colleagues are prepared to make a complaint. How was it left with he head of department in the May meeting? Did they say they would deal with it by "having a word"? Was this before or after the presentation issue that the head of department witnessed?
 
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