Came out...

[paphos-mcfc]

The bloke knows his wife loves him, their sex life has been good just lately so now he has said this he knows his wife will do probably anything to keep him.

He will soon be asking her for anal treats and she may well say yes. Thats safer than him wandering around in a naive way on the gay scene and she will feel better as no chance of catching out. She would know where he has been.

I suspect there may be a little more to being gay, than just liking anal...

Dressing up as a sailor?

 

[mayo31]

The bloke knows his wife loves him, their sex life has been good just lately so now he has said this he knows his wife will do probably anything to keep him.

He will soon be asking her for anal treats and she may well say yes. Thats safer than him wandering around in a naive way on the gay scene and she will feel better as no chance of catching out. She would know where he has been.

I suspect there may be a little more to being gay, than just liking anal...

Dressing up as a sailor?

Sorry I am naive

 

[LittleStan]

My mate's (and I do mean my mate, not me!) husband 'came out' to her yesterday.
He claims he's always been attracted to men, but has never acted on it. But he'd like to discuss the possibility of an 'Open Marriage' sometime in the future
He wants to stay married to her and loves her deeply and their sex life is better than it has been for ages.

She's obviously devastated, but still loves him, they have been a couple for years and have two children. She has no desire to be with anyone else.

What should she do? Stay and trust that he won't experiment/ cheat on her?
Or leave?

Ammy,

In all seriousness unless we have come out to our partners or have had our partners come out to us we have no chance of offering anything to you.

However, I used to volunteer with a bloke who knew he was female from the age of 6 and told his wife and kids in her (his) 50's. they are still together and Peter is now Pam.

OK, sex change and being gay are totally different but I imagine some of Pam's wifes emotions might be similar to your mates.

A genuine offer, I can ask if she would be willing to have a chat with you mate.

Is this the same Pam from upstairs? It would explain a lot.

ha ha,I see what you mean but no, well, I don't think she is a football fan at all.

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

Is the OPs mate married to Jamie Foxx?

 

[paphos-mcfc]

I suspect there may be a little more to being gay, than just liking anal...

Dressing up as a sailor?

Sorry I am native

Ok, just for you, dressing up as a red Indian.

 

[LittleStan]

So the cheeky sod wants his cake and eat it too, kick his Arse out I say ! .i'd be furious that he only wanted to stay so that he could keep up the pretence to his kids and the outside world. I feel sorry for you're friend because it seems like he's pissing on her from a very great height.

I don't normally agree with women because they're usually wrong but girlbob is spot on. She should kick the cheeky twat out as soon as possible.

There is going to be the right guy out there for her so No way should she let this pisspot take up anymore of her time when she has the chance to be happy and spend the rest of her life with someone who really loves her.

I an actually surprised at how quickly people can turn to the "kick him out" option. going from what we have been told they love each other and their kids.

Could he have told her because he trusts and loves her and does not want to lie?

It's so easy to quit families.

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

I don't normally agree with women because they're usually wrong but girlbob is spot on. She should kick the cheeky twat out as soon as possible.

There is going to be the right guy out there for her so No way should she let this pisspot take up anymore of her time when she has the chance to be happy and spend the rest of her life with someone who really loves her.

I an actually surprised at how quickly people can turn to the "kick him out" option. going from what we have been told they love each other and their kids.

Could he have told her because he trusts and loves her and does not want to lie?

It's so easy to quit families.

He could have saved her the hassle and admitted he was lying before they got married. Or before they had one kid. Or before they had another.

It's pretty harsh to take a woman's entire life and use it solely as your beard so no one knows you're gay.

I can understand a gay fella not wanting to spread the news as society can be cruel but that's no excuse for stringing someone along for a lifetime or creating children born of bullshit and deceit.

Not to mention the killer blow of knowing your loved one can never ever really be sexually attracted to you.

He fucked up and if her walking away shows anything its that she's got too much dignity to carry on being a beard.

Sisters unite!

 

[Timmmmahhhh]

What seemed to have potential has turned into a disappointing thread, highlights for me being:

"inner queer" & "sisters unite!!"

 

[Blumers Bloomers]

Bloody hell. Trying to put myself in your friends shoes, that is some harsh situation.

I would advise not doing anything straight away. News like that must take some time to sink in and deal with. If it was me, I'd have so many questions for my husband..........what does he want to do and who with? Is he still attracted to other women? How long has he felt like this?

I know she says she still loves him, but does this change the way she feels about him other ways......does she still fancy him after this revelation?

 

[Rascal]

Bloody hell. Trying to put myself in your friends shoes, that is some harsh situation.

I would advise not doing anything straight away. News like that must take some time to sink in and deal with. If it was me, I'd have so many questions for my husband..........what does he want to do and who with? Is he still attracted to other women? How long has he felt like this?

I know she says she still loves him, but does this change the way she feels about him other ways......does she still fancy him after this revelation?

Wise words BB