TheMightyQuinn
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Timmmmahhhh said:
Oprah would approve.
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Oprah would approve.
Blumers Bloomers said:Bloody hell. Trying to put myself in your friends shoes, that is some harsh situation.
I would advise not doing anything straight away. News like that must take some time to sink in and deal with. If it was me, I'd have so many questions for my husband..........what does he want to do and who with? Is he still attracted to other women? How long has he felt like this?
I know she says she still loves him, but does this change the way she feels about him other ways......does she still fancy him after this revelation?
I think she's trying to be very logical and calm about the whole situation.
It's all such a mess I feel so sorry for both of them
LittleStan
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TheMightyQuinn said:He could have saved her the hassle and admitted he was lying before they got married. Or before they had one kid. Or before they had another.
It's pretty harsh to take a woman's entire life and use it solely as your beard so no one knows you're gay.
I can understand a gay fella not wanting to spread the news as society can be cruel but that's no excuse for stringing someone along for a lifetime or creating children born of bullshit and deceit.
Not to mention the killer blow of knowing your loved one can never ever really be sexually attracted to you.
He fucked up and if her walking away shows anything its that she's got too much dignity to carry on being a beard.
Sisters unite!
I somehow don't think it is that straight forward.
When my mate announced he was a woman I had the opportunity to talk with her and because of my position in the charity, many people were asking questions through me.
She 'knew' from the age of 6 but pressures of being a 'boy' pushed her into a certain life. She was an off road instructor, many years in the army and typical manly stuff.
I suspect there are lots of reasons why this bloke has kept it a secret and has probably been hurting with the lie he was living.
I, you and probably very few on the site can have any real empathy for Ammy's mate or her husband. Hence my offer.
Hamann Pineapple
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♫ Lipstick on you collar told a tale on you-hoo
Sweetcorn on your penis said you were untrue
Bet your bottom dollar you and I are through
Cuz sweetcorn on your member told a tale on you, yeah ♫
Sweetcorn on your penis said you were untrue
Bet your bottom dollar you and I are through
Cuz sweetcorn on your member told a tale on you, yeah ♫
Bigga
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Just had a quick look on here and there are some things that come to mind.
Your mate's husband is using her as a 'safety net' and is also afraid to lose the family he has created with her. To suggest an 'open marriage' would easily be a one way ticket and not for her to discover herself until he is sure where he's at, sexually. That way, if he does decide that the gay side of him makes him happy, he will 'allow' her to find someone new citing that he expected it all along. Lots of selfish things going on.
Any sort of 'decent' Human Being would just call time on the relationship and discover what they want, instead of stringing along the partner out of fear of the unknown.
I know it's a shock for her, but to have him casting sly looks and smiles to attractive men will do her head in, eventually. Thus, the being 'cheated on' by the same sex as her partner will emasculate her embodiment as a woman.
She cannot enable this behaviour. She must not.
She should tell him to do what he must, but without her there to be second prize.
In my opinion.
Your mate's husband is using her as a 'safety net' and is also afraid to lose the family he has created with her. To suggest an 'open marriage' would easily be a one way ticket and not for her to discover herself until he is sure where he's at, sexually. That way, if he does decide that the gay side of him makes him happy, he will 'allow' her to find someone new citing that he expected it all along. Lots of selfish things going on.
Any sort of 'decent' Human Being would just call time on the relationship and discover what they want, instead of stringing along the partner out of fear of the unknown.
I know it's a shock for her, but to have him casting sly looks and smiles to attractive men will do her head in, eventually. Thus, the being 'cheated on' by the same sex as her partner will emasculate her embodiment as a woman.
She cannot enable this behaviour. She must not.
She should tell him to do what he must, but without her there to be second prize.
In my opinion.
TCIB
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TheMightyQuinn
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LittleStan said:TheMightyQuinn said:He could have saved her the hassle and admitted he was lying before they got married. Or before they had one kid. Or before they had another.
It's pretty harsh to take a woman's entire life and use it solely as your beard so no one knows you're gay.
I can understand a gay fella not wanting to spread the news as society can be cruel but that's no excuse for stringing someone along for a lifetime or creating children born of bullshit and deceit.
Not to mention the killer blow of knowing your loved one can never ever really be sexually attracted to you.
He fucked up and if her walking away shows anything its that she's got too much dignity to carry on being a beard.
Sisters unite!
I somehow don't think it is that straight forward.
When my mate announced he was a woman I had the opportunity to talk with her and because of my position in the charity, many people were asking questions through me.
She 'knew' from the age of 6 but pressures of being a 'boy' pushed her into a certain life. She was an off road instructor, many years in the army and typical manly stuff.
I suspect there are lots of reasons why this bloke has kept it a secret and has probably been hurting with the lie he was living.
I, you and probably very few on the site can have any real empathy for Ammy's mate or her husband. Hence my offer.
I get that it's not easy but you don't need to go as far as marriage and kids to hide your sexuality.
If you wish to keep it to yourself then that's absolutely fine but why ruin others lives in the process of protecting your own?
You can pretend to be straight without going quite so far.
andyhinch
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That's as helpfull as fuck, it's a serious question that's hard to answer unless you've been there your self, how would you take it if your other half opened up and said, well actually I've always wanted to lick the velvet. Not sure how I'd take itHamann Pineapple said:♫ Lipstick on you collar told a tale on you-hoo
Sweetcorn on your penis said you were untrue
Bet your bottom dollar you and I are through
Cuz sweetcorn on your member told a tale on you, yeah ♫
LittleStan
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andyhinch said:That's as helpfull as fuck, it's a serious question that's hard to answer unless you've been there your self, how would you take it if your other half opened up and said, well actually I've always wanted to lick the velvet. Not sure how I'd take itHamann Pineapple said:♫ Lipstick on you collar told a tale on you-hoo
Sweetcorn on your penis said you were untrue
Bet your bottom dollar you and I are through
Cuz sweetcorn on your member told a tale on you, yeah ♫
That's a bit serious for you is it not Andy?
Anyway, what are you doing on here, don't you have some deer to cull?