Been loads of posts about me and my ex
I had smoked a few joints before moving to London more out of thinking it was cool and joining in more than the high or buzz. She told me when I moved over that her 2 sons 15 and 19 smoked cannabis (skunk). She didn't say to what extent.
The youngest had been hooked by his father at 13 and hadn't been to school since 13. Due to divorce and moving house 3 times got lost in the system and it wasn't chased up.
Not sure if physical or psychological but he was addicted (both were). The youngest didn't leave home for 2 years. I mean didn't even go out the front gate. We had a little English terrier and if the dog went further than the gate the boy (Tom) rang his mum to say the dog was out and she left work came home, got dog in then went back to work.
He never ate, stayed at home playing playstation etc 24 7, we had rows and once pulled knife on me, when I didn't back down rang his father to get me shot.
Him and older brother both admitted they had anger management issues and they needed help, the younger even going to a counsellor when he was 19.
Came home from work loads of times to find windows smashed, doors with holes punched and kicked holes in. Once after few days away even had car wrecked - eldest had driven it with no license or insurance (she just sold it for scrap rather than get him into trouble).
Eldest was caught with some and had to appear on Croydon court, I went with him rather than being on his own, he asked me to hold his shit in case he got searched on way in (told him to fuck off).
All they did all day was smoke at home, got so bad that the neighbours of our semi detached house knocked and complained that the smell was going through the roofspace from ours to theirs.
These are just a few of the stories every one true and loads more.
All part of her debt and us splitting up is in my opinion down to that and her being too weak to stand up to them.
After 12 years I had had enough and we split up as I couldn't handle it anymore. I still love her and always will, we still meet for coffee but until she is free of them we will never be together.
