Cannot believe this

[DelToro]

I've always been overweight - sometimes a little, sometimes a lot - and I've never had any problem punching.....errrrr........above my weight with women. Mainly because I'm unusually self-confident and can usually make them laugh. Being smart doesn't do any harm in that regard either.

Moreover I adore women's company on a purely platonic level, have many close female friends and really look up to my mum who is a strong woman who also had a successful career in medicine.

Not all fatties are misogynists.

Blue Bear Boots wants to know how tall you are, how wide you are, how old you are and what is your monthly play please.

She has high standards but is prepared to compromise on certain criteria.

My monthly play? I'm not prepared to reveal how often I masturbate until at least the second date.

Was that a Freudian slip?

I need a therapist.

 

[gordondaviesmoustache]

You could be a well put together hunk like me but without confidence its useless

;)

Confidence is key. Too much, however, is as unattractive to a woman as not enough.

 

[BoyBlue_1985]

You could be a well put together hunk like me but without confidence its useless

;)

Confidence is key. Too much, however, is as unattractive to a woman as not enough.

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

 

[JoeMercer'sWay]

this of all threads provoking a half decent discussion.

 

[roaminblue]

That's fair comment but it was Damo who elected to equate being chubby with harbouring chronic insecurities, especially when it comes to women. I've had my share of heartache btw, most of it, ultimately, self-inflicted, but I've broadly retained my same reserves of self-belief with regards to women. Not saying that for any reason other than to point out that what Damo has posted is palpably wrong as far as I'm concerned.

I have a feeling Damocles' quip was more a swipe at the threads silver-tongued lothario than a commentary of societal norms as a whole ;-)

 

[gordondaviesmoustache]

You could be a well put together hunk like me but without confidence its useless

;)

Confidence is key. Too much, however, is as unattractive to a woman as not enough.

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self-confidence if it's displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

 

[The Flash]

I'm sick and tired of the village idiot tarring all fat ugly blokes with the same brush.
Not all of us are immature misogynistic half-wits.
Some of us are also compulsive gamblers, functioning alcoholics or drug users. We have feelings too.
Cut us, and we bleed.
And we are a safe catch, because you will never have to worry about us straying, as no other woman would have us.
Ok, so we might blow the housekeeping money on the 2-30 at Haydock, but rest assure we will never hump 'n' dump.

Fixed.

 

[DelToro]

Confidence is key. Too much, however, is as unattractive to a woman as not enough.

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

 

[BoyBlue_1985]

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

Antiunited is pumping and dumping anyone you deflect off

 

[gordondaviesmoustache]

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

I'm generalising, obviously. Which I realise makes me as bad as Damo ;-)

Some women, plenty in fact, like a quiet, shy type that they can order around ;-)