Cannot believe this

[DelToro]

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

Antiunited is pumping and dumping anyone you deflect off

He's in for a treat.

I've been deflecting women for years.

 

[nijinsky's fetlocks]

Confidence not arrogance is the way forward

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

I read that as 'self-defecating'.
If that were the case, then I'd say that even with confidence not arrogance your options would be severely curtailed.

 

[DelToro]

Perception is reality. I'm sure lots of arrogant men would describe themselves as "confident". You see them when you're out on the town, like preening peacocks. It's deeply unattractive to anything other than a certain type of woman, which is fair enough, as everyone's different.

Intelligent women, who are the only ones I'm interested in, hate that alpha male aggression, but still love a man who exudes self- confidence displayed in a genuine, measured manner.

So where does that leave us self deprecating, shy types who have a mastered the art of deflecting conversation away from themselves as a defensive mechanism?

In the corner?

In the kitchen?

At the altar?

I'm generalising, obviously. Which I realise makes me as bad as Damo ;-)

Some women, plenty in fact, like a quiet, shy type that they can order around ;-)

So you know Mrs Chabal too then?

 

[Damocles]

Really? Is there any other type apart from self-defecating? Do you employ people to shit for you?

 

[DelToro]

Really? Is there any other type apart from self-defecating? Do you employ people to shit for you?

Doesn't GDM?

 

[nijinsky's fetlocks]

Really? Is there any other type apart from self-defecating? Do you employ people to shit for you?

Check out the Urban Dictionary definition.
It's a play on words - to take it literally would be simply anal.

 

[Damocles]

I was halfway through that until I realised that you've essentially got me Googling people shitting themselves.

Well played

 

[chris85mcfc]

I'm sick and tired of the village idiot tarring all fat ugly blokes with the same brush.
Not all of us are immature misogynistic half-wits.
Some of us are compulsive gamblers, functioning alcoholics or drug users. We have feelings too.
Cut us, and we bleed.
And we are a safe catch, because you will never have to worry about us straying, as no other woman would have us.
Ok, so we might blow the housekeeping money on the 2-30 at Haydock, but rest assure we will never hump 'n' dump.

I think you will find that the term used is 'pump 'n' dump'. Keep up.

 

[BlueBearBoots]

Pros and cons re the quiet shy types you can order around - they generally are looking for a new mum in their partners. Someone who will organise all the finances, arrange holidays generally look after them totally. Arrogance is a def no no but confidence is always attractive if it goes arm in arm with intelligence and responsibility

 

[Timmmmahhhh]

Not readt the last 20 or so pages, quick summary anyone?