Charging kids board

[Mad Eyed Screamer]

years ago there was no "I wont charge my kids a penny", you worked, you paid into the home.

Just shows how far the standard of living has improved in the last 40 years

Exactly. You arent charging them rent, but asking them to contribute to the day to day costs of food, utilities and the roof over their head.
Prior to your kids working you are entitled to child benefits and tax benefits which helps cover such expenditure. The kids now working and paying into the pot covers for the loss of benefits no longer being given

 

[Ribchester]

All I ask for is a bit of respect, like make the bed(=straighten duvet), put pots in sink, put dirty cloths in washing basket, straighten towel after use, not a lot to ask, after several years nagging ......Lady Ribchester got me to do all this so I know it is a pain but does help her.

 

[Cheesy]

So many on here feel their kids owe them for their living. So sad.

It's more about teaching your kids some financial responsibility. That nothing comes for free in life.

So many youngsters seem to think they're entitled to stuff nowadays and the attitude you and others have is, in my opinion, just one of the reasons why this is the case. Your kids may be precious to you (of course they are) but they aren't precious to the rest of the world.

 

[mayo31]

Their house is my home. And their home. And always will be. I’m their dad, not their landlord. Not one penny will I ever charge.

So many on here feel their kids owe them for their living. So sad.

No one has said anything of the sort.

I can only speak for myself. I charge mine as in my view they get a really good deal and they should contribute. People also need to learn nothing is for free.

Now I love my kids but I my life does not revolve around them either.

Others need them around which again is a choice.

I do see it as sometimes having created part of the snowflake society we now have where youngsters run back to mummy and daddy.

However I can see the reasoning behind that also when some people only have family as their 'community'.

 

[daztrueblue91]

I got my first proper job at 17, left home at 19 and not lived with my parents since.

For those two years I paid £200 a month for keep and never once complained about it. However, they did try upping it to a third of my wage at one point.

Then soon retracted it when I told them that as an equal tenant, I’ll be having friends over as and when I want.

 

[johnnytapia]

No one has said anything of the sort.

I can only speak for myself. I charge mine as in my view they get a really good deal and they should contribute. People also need to learn nothing is for free.

Now I love my kids but I my life does not revolve around them either.

Others need them around which again is a choice.

I do see it as sometimes having created part of the snowflake society we now have where youngsters run back to mummy and daddy.

However I can see the reasoning behind that also when some people only have family as their 'community'.

I think it’s preternatural to look to your parents for help when things get tricky. I still look to my mum for a bit of sage advice / words of comfort and always feel the better for it. Does that mean I’m ‘soft’? Maybe. Do I care? No. If people feel comfortable asking their kids for a bit of £ towards living costs, fine. Most families find a reasonable agreement. Not something I’ll be doing though.

 

[Indaparkside]

I think it’s preternatural to look to your parents for help when things get tricky. I still look to my mum for a bit of sage advice / words of comfort and always feel the better for it. Does that mean I’m ‘soft’? Maybe. Do I care? No. If people feel comfortable asking their kids for a bit of £ towards living costs, fine. Most families find a reasonable agreement. Not something I’ll be doing though.

Some families may have to do it for financial reasons, we only have one at home she goes to college and has no income but I bet we spend close on £250 a month on her phone contract ,fares,dinners, etc etc their your responsibility till the day you die she’s just asked me now for £40 for Superdrug:(

 

[mayo31]

I think it’s preternatural to look to your parents for help when things get tricky. I still look to my mum for a bit of sage advice / words of comfort and always feel the better for it. Does that mean I’m ‘soft’? Maybe. Do I care? No. If people feel comfortable asking their kids for a bit of £ towards living costs, fine. Most families find a reasonable agreement. Not something I’ll be doing though.

Good for you but you actually called people sad.

Could be argued you buy your kids through giving them everything for free

Not something I am saying. Just a passing thought

 

[johnnytapia]

Good for you but you actually called people sad.

Could be argued you buy your kids through giving them everything for free

Not something I am saying. Just a passing thought

Yes, that could be argued. And it would be wrong. But, it’s a lovely day so I’ll leave this, as I said, just my take, not a penny would I charge. Others do, that’s fine. And it’s not sad.

 

[johnnytapia]

Some families may have to do it for financial reasons, we only have one at home she goes to college and has no income but I bet we spend close on £250 a month on her phone contract ,fares,dinners, etc etc their your responsibility till the day you die she’s just asked me now for £40 for Superdrug:(

Forty quid? You got off lightly!