Great post, and really it can be boiled down to just this one line. I don't know what it is about this particular saga that's caused people to absolutely lose their minds.
While I would categorize Bayern's conduct in the media as distasteful I don't consider the basic behind the scenes recruitment/contact with agents as miles away from our own work in the transfer market, nor is it wrong. We don't own these guys, we don't own their careers. It's our job as a club to make people want to be here, not to force people. Clubs reach out to intermediaries and agents all the time to gauge interest around moves, how happy they are, etc. How, exactly, do you think we convinced Rodri to come last summer? He was a player under contract at Atleti, right? Did we just show up at the La Liga offices and pay the fee without "tapping him up"? Just make the deal and move on.