Dementia

[BlueMonkey79]

My nanna is 94 and in a secure unit now as she gets nasty and violent. Shes unrecognisable of the woman she was 5 years ago. A total shadow of her former self.
She has a vague recognition that im something to do with her but doesnt really know why or who.

When ‘the phone call’ comes there will be a sense of relief and peace with me. I want her suffering over now. She isnt ‘nanna’ anymore.

My Nan is 88 and is exactly the same. When I walked in and you can see her trying to work out who I am is awful.

Luckily my dad lives next door. He is fully retired now so looks after her 24/7. Age concern have been excellent. They have got carers coming in a few times a week. Got her one of those electric beds and riser/recliner chairs.

Hope I never get it and cause all the grief, stress and upset to my immediate family.

 

[Bluesince1979]

My Nan is 88 and is exactly the same. When I walked in and you can see her trying to work out who I am is awful.

Luckily my dad lives next door. He is fully retired now so looks after her 24/7. Age concern have been excellent. They have got carers coming in a few times a week. Got her one of those electric beds and riser/recliner chairs.

Hope I never get it and cause all the grief, stress and upset to my immediate family.

Its a fuckin terrible disease.

I did a job in a dementia unit maybe 5 years ago. Poor bastards only in their 50s riddled with it. Awful

 

[Stephen230]

When ‘the phone call’ comes there will be a sense of relief and peace with me. I want her suffering over now. She isnt ‘nanna’ anymore.

I think it’s good you can admit that mate. My family fell out with me a bit when one of them overheard me telling a nurse that I wished my mother would just slip peacefully away in the night before their plans to try and bring her home to see out her days came to fruition.

But they admitted later that it was probably for the best.

Who knows what’s going on in their heads in the latter stages but it clearly isn’t any quality of life.

 

[Bluesince1979]

I think it’s good you can admit that mate. My family fell out with me a bit when one of them overheard me telling a nurse that I wished my mother would just slip peacefully away in the night before their plans to try and bring her home to see out her days came to fruition.

But they admitted later that it was probably for the best.

Who knows what’s going on in their heads in the latter stages but it clearly isn’t any quality of life.

We are all thankfully in agreement , its no life, she is in mental torture.
Shes strong enough really but in very rare moments of clarity she talks of going home. But home to her is back to wythenshawe to her mum and dads. Its awful.

If i showed her a photo 5 years ago when she was still well of what she would become , she would hate it.

Terrible, terrible disease

 

[Withnail]

I took my Mum to Salford Royal today for a Neurologist appointment. We need to go back in a few weeks for the results, I am scared shitless that she may have dementia.

 

[mexico1970]

I took my Mum to Salford Royal today for a Neurologist appointment. We need to go back in a few weeks for the results, I am scared shitless that she may have dementia.

Crossing everything for your mum and your family mate, good luck.

 

[Withnail]

Crossing everything for your mum and your family mate, good luck.

Thanks mate.

 

[Millwallawayveteran1988]

It’s such a terrible illness. My uncle had it and became very violent in his care home. He was a lovely man before the illness took hold. One of my mates mums has been in a care home for 8 years now. Burned through all her life savings and he still goes to visit week in week out despite her not having a clue who he is. It’s so sad. I’m glad in a way that my parents went before this.

 

[kippax123]

My brother was knocked off his bike last February and suffered a massive brain injury. He's only 56 and is now really struggling with the first signs of Dementia. It's so sad and scary to watch a 6ft man looking scared because he can't remember what he's done during the day. He can't manage coming to City anymore but on his last jaunt to A&E he was asked by the Doctor several questions including who is the prime minister. He had absolutely NO idea but when asked about his football team he said it loud and proud MANCHESTER CITY of course.

 

[Damocles]

My Mum died yesterday from dementia.

It wasn't a dignified death.

Wouldn't recommend it.