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Dont Marry a Foreigner
- Thread starter Blue Mist
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MichaelBBack
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As someone who is married to a foreigner, I can relate to this, albeit from a different angle.
I was engaged to a French girl for a while and lived in France for a number of years pre-Brexit, and even with the stupidly cheap flights and pleasant lifestyle, I got homesick often and me and my partner would spend hours on end discussing "Where are we gonna settle? How are we gonna please everyone?" and so on.
Now, I'm married to a Russian woman and just found out a couple of weeks back that we're pregnant. Currently in Russia, putting reams of documents together to apply for her spouse visa so we can hopefully settle in the UK and have the baby with the NHS, but we're both torn about what to do in the future and how we're going to live our lives in a way that not only makes us happy but allows both sets of grandparents the chance to see their grandchild on at least a semi-regular basis. And I can already see and hear the fear in her parents when they visit us and ask those questions about what we're planning and when we'll be able to come back.
It's not nice. I'd never necessarily tell anyone "Don't marry a foreigner" because I've personally found international, cross-cultural relationships like my own to be so fulfilling and interesting, and it's so fun and eye opening to be able to share parts of your own culture with someone from another part of the world and find out more about their way of life, too. But from a plain old logistical and practical point of view, it's an absolute bugger. And that's putting it mildly.
Very glad for you OP that you're able to get over there and visit for an extended period. Hope I'll be able to make similar arrangements possible for my own child's grandparents in the future.
I was engaged to a French girl for a while and lived in France for a number of years pre-Brexit, and even with the stupidly cheap flights and pleasant lifestyle, I got homesick often and me and my partner would spend hours on end discussing "Where are we gonna settle? How are we gonna please everyone?" and so on.
Now, I'm married to a Russian woman and just found out a couple of weeks back that we're pregnant. Currently in Russia, putting reams of documents together to apply for her spouse visa so we can hopefully settle in the UK and have the baby with the NHS, but we're both torn about what to do in the future and how we're going to live our lives in a way that not only makes us happy but allows both sets of grandparents the chance to see their grandchild on at least a semi-regular basis. And I can already see and hear the fear in her parents when they visit us and ask those questions about what we're planning and when we'll be able to come back.
It's not nice. I'd never necessarily tell anyone "Don't marry a foreigner" because I've personally found international, cross-cultural relationships like my own to be so fulfilling and interesting, and it's so fun and eye opening to be able to share parts of your own culture with someone from another part of the world and find out more about their way of life, too. But from a plain old logistical and practical point of view, it's an absolute bugger. And that's putting it mildly.
Very glad for you OP that you're able to get over there and visit for an extended period. Hope I'll be able to make similar arrangements possible for my own child's grandparents in the future.
hilts
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There’s a bad type?Oh, and I married a slut, but not the good type :)
hilts
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That’s great news fella, being a grandparent is emotionally hard sometimes.Bump. Sooooooooo, as my grandson cannot come to me I/we, are going to him, for........ 3 months !!!!!! :-)
Early September until early December.
Late yesterday the lady who has previously minded our dog came back to us to agree to have him. Very shortly I will be on Etihads website sorting dates out and ordering 'teach yourself Oz' from DuoLingo.
Absolutely buzzin', sadly I will miss a lot of games but, sorry City, not even Alfies lad can stop me going.
Mr Kobayashi
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Who is covering your paper round?
Pounds or dollars?
Further to the above, we looked to see if we could live there. The short answer is yes if you get a Parent Visa.
It costs £3,500. They are currently processing visa applications submitted in 2012.
If you cant wait 20 years you can fast track the system, you simply pay £25,000 dollars. Visas submitted in 2018 are currently being processed!!
Oh and you have to prove you have a minimum of 50k cash and that you have more children in Australia than England...... so that's us done for as we have 2 here.
Pounds or dollars?
Saddleworth2
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Yeah, you can understand that. Think Canada is just as tough these days.The simple fact is they don't want any drain on their welfare system.
Magicpole
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My heart goes out to you and Mrs Mist. I have three sons who I love dearly and who I must get DNA tested, because they are too cool to be mine. I have two Grand kids and another on the way, but here’s the thing. Because I stay on not the other side of the world, but country, with work and such I don’t see them as much as I would like either. Your situation is worse obviously, but your son is happy. Your grandson is happy. I would focus on that. So many have kids who aren’t happy, I know that would do me in more and I’m sure you too.No it's not a Farage rant.. if you do marry a foreigner, live in this country, if you live elsewhere - don't have children. Please don't have children.
One of my sons travelled the world, not a problem. He met and fell in love with an aussie, again not a problem. Not even when he settled there.....
I have just had a video call with my 2 year old grandson and I am so fed up ? Upset ? Heartbroken.. yes. He is so gorgeous and growing up so fast and I'm not there. How Mrs Mist copes I don't know. I know they are brilliant parents so I shouldn't moan but I miss him so much.
I don't show my feelings normally to anyone so I've posted on here.
Back when we were that age, going to Australia meant only letters and phone calls. Now you can see them on screen, talk to them, and they can see you and your wife. It isn’t great but it’s better than a letter. Your grandson can grow and talk to you, know what you look like and have a relationship with you.
Hold onto how happy your boy is. He’s found someone who he loves and who loves him, your grandson is loved and happy and at the end of the day that’s our first wish. But, I know it’s tough. Have you been able to go and see them?
My original post was a bit of a joke. My lad was not happy in the uk and fucked off travelling for that reason. When he met and settled in Oz me and my missus agreed it was the best thing to happen to him. Yes I miss my grandchild like crazy BUT he will have a good life with 2 brilliant parents so we are both happy for them.As someone who is married to a foreigner, I can relate to this, albeit from a different angle.
I was engaged to a French girl for a while and lived in France for a number of years pre-Brexit, and even with the stupidly cheap flights and pleasant lifestyle, I got homesick often and me and my partner would spend hours on end discussing "Where are we gonna settle? How are we gonna please everyone?" and so on.
Now, I'm married to a Russian woman and just found out a couple of weeks back that we're pregnant. Currently in Russia, putting reams of documents together to apply for her spouse visa so we can hopefully settle in the UK and have the baby with the NHS, but we're both torn about what to do in the future and how we're going to live our lives in a way that not only makes us happy but allows both sets of grandparents the chance to see their grandchild on at least a semi-regular basis. And I can already see and hear the fear in her parents when they visit us and ask those questions about what we're planning and when we'll be able to come back.
It's not nice. I'd never necessarily tell anyone "Don't marry a foreigner" because I've personally found international, cross-cultural relationships like my own to be so fulfilling and interesting, and it's so fun and eye opening to be able to share parts of your own culture with someone from another part of the world and find out more about their way of life, too. But from a plain old logistical and practical point of view, it's an absolute bugger. And that's putting it mildly.
Very glad for you OP that you're able to get over there and visit for an extended period. Hope I'll be able to make similar arrangements possible for my own child's grandparents in the future.
Do what you believe is right not what you think will please others as that will not work.
Your child is your main priority not your parents.
Just bring him up a Blue
Pounds, they quote in dollars I did a quick conversion but a stupid post sorry just seen it. Pounds englishWho is covering your paper round?
Pounds or dollars?
Cheers you golden haired god. It was a joke post because yes my lads happiness, his wife and now my grandsons happiness is what counts.My heart goes out to you and Mrs Mist. I have three sons who I love dearly and who I must get DNA tested, because they are too cool to be mine. I have two Grand kids and another on the way, but here’s the thing. Because I stay on not the other side of the world, but country, with work and such I don’t see them as much as I would like either. Your situation is worse obviously, but your son is happy. Your grandson is happy. I would focus on that. So many have kids who aren’t happy, I know that would do me in more and I’m sure you too.
Back when we were that age, going to Australia meant only letters and phone calls. Now you can see them on screen, talk to them, and they can see you and your wife. It isn’t great but it’s better than a letter. Your grandson can grow and talk to you, know what you look like and have a relationship with you.
Hold onto how happy your boy is. He’s found someone who he loves and who loves him, your grandson is loved and happy and at the end of the day that’s our first wish. But, I know it’s tough. Have you been able to go and see them?
The laugh is he hated Oz and had no intention of going there. He'd wandered central America and then Indonesia and all round. He was working as a dive instructor on an island called Tiamen, Tiamon ? When this Brazilian captured his heart. It turned out she was a naturalised aussie and the rest is history.