Getting old

He’s a plus from getting old. Just had annual car insurance renewal. £276, I’m all for that.
 
Fordyboy46 said:
I'm the same as you mate, mid fifties was fine until a few days ago when my life was turned upside down when me and my wife of 33 years decided on a trial separation( my mistakes). I'm now at my mum and dad's who are both in their 80's, and I'm feeling as though my world has come crashing right down. I can't see a future without her at the minute and that is playing on my mind constantly. Any advice from anyone would be much appreciated
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Cant give direct advice on this situation, but having just gone through a rough time myself in the last few months, I can probably give you some generic advice

Some days will be good, some will be shit, just accept the feelings you have and dont question them

Its often 2 steps forward, and 1 back, so dont see the 1 step back as a setback

Get a routine, just get out for a walk for 30 minutes every single day, and know that youll enjoy some, and hate others

Try and join a club of some sort ideally outdoors, youll be amazed how many people are on similar paths to you

Don't drink

Don't eat shite

Read a book and start listening to chilled music, it'll relax your mind

Just know that in a few months youll feel better no matter what direction things end up going
 
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chris85mcfc said:
Cant give direct advice on this situation, but having just gone through a rough time myself in the last few months, I can probably give you some generic advice

Some days will be good, some will be shit, just accept the feelings you have and dont question them

Its often 2 steps forward, and 1 back, so dont see the 1 step back as a setback

Get a routine, just get out for a walk for 30 minutes every single day, and know that youll enjoy some, and hate others

Try and join a club or some sort ideally outdoors, youll be amazed how many people are on similar paths to you

Don't drink

Don't eat shite

Read a book and start listening to chilled music, it'll relax your mind

Just know that in a few months youll feel better know matter what direction things end up going
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Cheers mate, sounds great advice
 
Eaststander1 said:
It was exactly the same with me .... we used to do karaoke together in pubs etc, and we took the kids to amusement parks etc, we went shopping, and visiting relatives, going on holidays etc, i loved it .... and then suddenly I was alone with only memories for comfort, and the life I loved had gone .... I had a few beers at Queens Road Irish centre one sunday evening and found myself in tears, walking aimlessly on a deserted road in the pouring rain at midnight on the way back ... but I just knew i couldn't go on like that, it was destroying me.

It hit me hard for quite a few years, and I still think back even now ..... but I will never pester, pressurise or harass someone into being with me, no matter how much I think of them, or how much it hurts ... so I just looked forwards, and handled the following years the best way I could.

So although it may feel like it's the end of your world right now, take it all in your stride, maintain your dignity, and don't do anything rash .... you never know, she may just have a re-think and give you the phone call you're longing to hear.
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Thanks mate, lovely to hear. Sadly, I think it's over as I've messed up so nobody else to blame. Go to get myself together crack on with work and be with friends
 
It’s not the end of the world Fordy. Shit happens and it’s never really just one persons fault. My ex wife had an affair but looking back I can see the part I played in it getting to that stage and I would actually the say the reason we split was 50/50.

27 years later and we still get on fine, we co parented fine and it’s all hunky dory.

Feels like shit at the time but time is a healer.
 
ctidcarl said:
I'm 56 and I hate it and the thought of getting even oldder.

Yes I know some people don't even make it to 56, so I should be grateful, but it really depresses me.

I hate the fact I've probably got about 20-25 summers left (at that)

I hate how I ache all the time and every movement I do, results in a noise - standing up, sitting down, putting on my socks, climbing the stairs, etc.

I hate the fact how I didn't appreciate time - where do all the years go??
I remember being a young, strapping 18 year old with all of my life ahead of me and I wish I'd appreciated my time better.

I hate that I won't see how it all pans out for my kids, my grandkids, for City.

I know I'm not exclusive to all of this and it comes to us all, but I really struggle with it at times.......it's all a bit shit!!
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That’s the scariest thing for me I’m 57 this year and realistically maybe have 25 summers left as well, hopefully a damn sight more. Yesterday I had to go with the wife to help with the mother in law (cant stand her) she’s 66 looks 96 absolute fucking mess, had to get her into hospital no way she can look after herself anymore, a lot of it self inflicted. If I ended up like that in 9 years I’d be going to Switzerland one way trip.
The biggest thing for me us this weather, I’d fuck off to Thailand or something for winter if I could buy a young family that’s just never going to happen.
 
Blue Maverick said:
That’s the scariest thing for me I’m 57 this year and realistically maybe have 25 summers left as well, hopefully a damn sight more. Yesterday I had to go with the wife to help with the mother in law (cant stand her) she’s 66 looks 96 absolute fucking mess, had to get her into hospital no way she can look after herself anymore, a lot of it self inflicted. If I ended up like that in 9 years I’d be going to Switzerland one way trip.
The biggest thing for me us this weather, I’d fuck off to Thailand or something for winter if I could buy a young family that’s just never going to happen.
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My cousin is in Thailand right now. He’s ten years my junior and insists he is going to retire there when he can. He’s absolutely loving life over there.
 
Ffs, I had a medical at work today, I am 3cm shorter than I was this time last year. My hearing has deteriorated which I knew anyway. I know also my eyes are starting to go, can't read small print. On the good side my BP and lungs are still that of a younger man. I have back ache, sore right shoulder and left Elbow.
It sure ain't fun getting old, but it's better than the alternative.
 
Dicko69 said:
Ffs, I had a medical at work today, I am 3cm shorter than I was this time last year. My hearing has deteriorated which I knew anyway. I know also my eyes are starting to go, can't read small print. On the good side my BP and lungs are still that of a younger man. I have back ache, sore right shoulder and left Elbow.
It sure ain't fun getting old, but it's better than the alternative.
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I’d be wounded if that happened to my cock. No wonder you feel like shit.
 
Blue Maverick said:
That’s the scariest thing for me I’m 57 this year and realistically maybe have 25 summers left as well, hopefully a damn sight more. Yesterday I had to go with the wife to help with the mother in law (cant stand her) she’s 66 looks 96 absolute fucking mess, had to get her into hospital no way she can look after herself anymore, a lot of it self inflicted. If I ended up like that in 9 years I’d be going to Switzerland one way trip.
The biggest thing for me us this weather, I’d fuck off to Thailand or something for winter if I could buy a young family that’s just never going to happen.
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You’d have no problem buying a young family in Thailand tbf.
 
Dicko69 said:
Ffs, I had a medical at work today, I am 3cm shorter than I was this time last year. My hearing has deteriorated which I knew anyway. I know also my eyes are starting to go, can't read small print. On the good side my BP and lungs are still that of a younger man. I have back ache, sore right shoulder and left Elbow.
It sure ain't fun getting old, but it's better than the alternative.
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Known to his friends as “Lucky.”
 
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Dicko69 said:
Ffs, I had a medical at work today, I am 3cm shorter than I was this time last year. My hearing has deteriorated which I knew anyway. I know also my eyes are starting to go, can't read small print. On the good side my BP and lungs are still that of a younger man. I have back ache, sore right shoulder and left Elbow.
It sure ain't fun getting old, but it's better than the alternative.
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I hope your doctor is going to follow up your 3cm height loss in 1year ?
 
Dicko69 said:
Ffs, I had a medical at work today, I am 3cm shorter than I was this time last year. My hearing has deteriorated which I knew anyway. I know also my eyes are starting to go, can't read small print. On the good side my BP and lungs are still that of a younger man. I have back ache, sore right shoulder and left Elbow.
It sure ain't fun getting old, but it's better than the alternative.
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