The point you seem to be missing is that we all react different. Some of us aren't so mentally strong in the first place, for whatever reason
I was in a shitty relationship and my nerves had become on edge. I became paranoid and thought people were after me. Random people in the street. Even worse things.. i was a mental wreck. I was having panic attacks in public places.
And THAT is where medical intervention was not only warranted, but necessary.
But, it dudn’t, it just created a different, often even more difficult problem to solve.
And down a slippery slope i fell. I didn't feel the help was there for me back then. looking back...i just can't see where I COULD have made the right decision.
I’m glad you’re doing well now and understand where you’re coming from, but I feel like you are actually making my point for me.
You made a choice, which was a wrong choice, but it thankfully did not end the same way. For that, everyone can be thankful. But, if intervention had occurred at the right place, and instead of turning to drink you had had the wherewithal to get the intervention, it may have been much less painful.
However, even in your case, you make the point that “you can’t see where you COULD have made the right decision,” but it appears you were experiencing severe clinical mental issues that were not in the story discussed. Again, I’m glad you got the help you needed, because it’s impossible for one to understand how badly paranoia can affect one without experiencing the fear.
As you rightly stated, we DO all react differently, which is why
in the example given I said to “get a grip” instead of going to the pub every night, to which the original poster gave a free pass!
Here is the paragraph I responded to that is causing all the heartache:
This now makes the Father even worse and for consolation he starts going to the pub every night, (who could sit at home every night alone ?) for some company and he finds that the booze relieves a lot of the way he is suffering mentally with depression. He starts drinking at home, result, alcoholism brought on by mental illness.
Explaining my thoughts, ONLY from what was posted…
“For consolation” doesn’t sound like he was driven by an addiction, but made an easy choice instead of a harder one.
“Who could fit at home every night alone?” is a big fat excuse given to him by the OP! I don’t think anyone expects anyone to be a lock in and turn their back on the world, but is sociability lost when something bad happens to you? All semblance of “enough” thrown out of the window?
But, before that sentence is even complete, the big excuse is rolled out, albeit COMPLETELY UNDIAGNOSED OR INDICATED, when we read “relieves a lot of the way he is suffering mentally with depression.”
THAT is where I drew the line. We jumped from “bad thing happened” to “he had to go drown his sorrows every night (and who wouldn’t?)” to a full blown diagnosis of “mental suffering due to depression!”
It reads as one big excuse for taking a path that not only do millions of people NOT choose every day, but one that is so much easier to take and
then blame illness or others for you being forced into making.
For what little it is worth at this point, I hope everyone who needs mental health counseling or assistance gets it. Everyone. But, you have to seek THAT out rather than simply doing what’s easy and drinking yourself stupid. THAT IS THE CHOICE.
Now, as I’ve said before, IF there had been an identification of ANY
ACTUAL MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS of mental illness
BEFORE he chose the bottle, I probably wouldn’t have even said a thing about the post and thought it was unfortunate that he didn’t get the help he needed WHEN HE NEEDED IT!
Anyway, it’s all moot now. I am apparently a **** and a dickhead and the mob has spoken (and even that was corrupted into something unseemly
after giving the definition!) and that’s what really matters, right?
Thank you for sharing your personal experience and I’m glad you’re doing well after getting the assistance you needed.
Be well.
