how do you get over a long term relationship?

[Blue Streak]

cheers lads, thanks for all the advice and its reassuring to hear other peoples stories.

What i have decided to do is, buy a cat, start cycling, shag her best friend and a fat bird(same thing), give it time and i am going away this weekend.

seriously though, you are all gents(except macenzie, obviously)

Just be with your mates - in time they will help you snap out of it - but it does take time I'm afraid!

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

cheers lads, thanks for all the advice and its reassuring to hear other peoples stories.

What i have decided to do is, buy a cat, start cycling, shag her best friend and a fat bird(same thing), give it time and i am going away this weekend.

seriously though, you are all gents(except macenzie, obviously)

Just be with your mates - in time they will help you snap out of it - but it does take time I'm afraid!

He's right mate. Spend time with your mates and try to enjoy the fact you have more free time to yourself. Indulge in your hobbies and try to keep a cool head.

Your emotions will change every 5 seconds for a while but try to let coolness prevail and give your ex some time and space, dont slag her or call her a **** even if you really want to lol cos you dont want to alienate her further just try to keep a cool head and you will get better.

It's hard to say anything without sounding like a cliched agony aunt but I promise you that the cliches are all true regarding time being a healer etc.

 

[barryo]

cheers lads, thanks for all the advice and its reassuring to hear other peoples stories.

What i have decided to do is, buy a cat, start cycling, shag her best friend and a fat bird(same thing), give it time and i am going away this weekend.

seriously though, you are all gents(except macenzie, obviously)

Just be with your mates - in time they will help you snap out of it - but it does take time I'm afraid!

I had that experience many moons ago.

It took me fooking ages to get my head straight and I threw myself into work, booze and slappers.

The thing that pulled me out of it was a good friend told me that I was worthy of being happy. I thought my chance of happiness was wrapped up in another person ie the ex which was not the case.

When it finally sunk in, and I finally believed that I was worthy of happiness, i was free from the pain.

I hope that makes sense......you are worthy of happiness as is everyone.

 

[Corky]

Slowly, and lots of exercise.

 

[blueandy1mac]

Mackenze is the only person on here who is capable of giving you the comfort and help you need at this moment, does she offer ? not a chance.

Seriously mate, it is just time, time and more time. Do'nt do the bender it makes things worse. Does'nt mean do'nt have a beer, just get out with friends cos they wont mind listening and try things they want to do cos it will keep your mind off your own situation.
We've all been there, we're all still here, you will be too. Good luck mate.


Sorry Mac it was just levity, unless you can find it in your heart....

 

[goat boy]

cheers lads, thanks for all the advice and its reassuring to hear other peoples stories.

What i have decided to do is, buy a cat, start cycling, shag her best friend and a fat bird(same thing), give it time and i am going away this weekend.

seriously though, you are all gents(except macenzie, obviously)

good to see your sense of humour is still intact :) and by that i meant your synopsis of the thread, not your assertion that theres anything at all gentlemanly about bluemooners ;)

in my personal experience the first 6 weeks are the worst, where you're adapting to the culture shock and you can easily find yourself stuck for something to do. after that, you start to adapt, and you can go on from there.

a friend of mine, on the cusp of his divorce, said if he thought that if you totted up the number of months you were with someone, thats how many weeks you'll need to get over breaking up. fortunately i think that would be a big over-estimate- but of course, these things take time, try to be patient.

Keep your chin up fella. throw yourself into something positive to occupy your time and your mind, that was good advice. Try and see the opportunities in it, the silver lining n that- do everything you've wanted to do for the last 8 years but couldnt because you were seeing someone. You'll be alright.

 

[Dave H]

Hard to add anything really apart from this song.

I find it uplifting, and it helped me through a split once, many years back.

It might not be your type of music, but....

They are a fucking cool band... i have about 7 or 8 of their albums.

They are The Descendents.

Sorry.... i'm waffling now.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rAiJwCkgX0

 

[bluemoonrising]

spend all the money shes just saved you on yourself quick smart or move it offshore, there might be a trawler departing....somewhere.

 

[stonerblue]

Lots of hot chocolate...

 

[DT King of all Geordies]

Is there something that you were stopped from doing by your ex. If so, then do that. I am not sure that this would have any benefit but you never now.

I am not allowed to have a big telly but Mrs DT knows I am straight down Argos should we part.