how do you get over a long term relationship?

It takes time mate and proper turns your life upside down, she'll be feeling exactly the same though cos everything of you did for the past 8 yrs had the other in mind. I'd expect her to be in touch within a few days and you're really gonna have to be strong, stay with your mates they'll see you straight!
 
keep your chin up. Get out of the house. Spend time in the company of friends and family. I wouldn't recommend going on a bender but the quicker you shag someone else the better!

It will take time, I know from experience! I take it there are no kids involved ? If that is correct then make a clean brake. Get all the "thats mine thats yours" stuff done as soon as possible.

All the best mate. I know what your going through!
 
Any of us can say to you "time is a great healer" and that is true.

Won't be of any use to you right now though. The short term solution of going out and "enjoying " yoiurself with all your mates,getting larrupsed,nailing fit or fat available women whilst she is still forefront in your mind won't be fair to yourself or anyone you meet.

Some time to reflect on what has happened is good, I'm not saying shut yourself away and down vodka til 3 in the morning ,pestering the ex with tearful phone calls and threats/declarations of love etc etc like some people do.

Perhaps,as already posted, taking up an old abndoned hobby or a new pastime which went on the back burner would be one step forward for you?

stay strong and you'll be fine mate.
 
realistically there is fuck all you can do my friend. do whatever it is you do when you are down in the dumps. if you want to be alone, be alone. Don't dither on it too much or you will fuck your head right up. If she has her mind made up that is it. Nothing you can do. Take her word for it and move on. Cut your ties. Get your life back on track ASAP, don't let her see she's had an effect on you. Whatever you do don't go looking for her back.If she comes back well and good, but don't go snivelling. Summation. Accept and move on.
 
go on a spending spree. When i got dumped a couple of years ago. I completley cut contact with the ex, bought a new computer, new tele and upgraded the car.
Try get stuff that will make you feel proud of yourself, itl pick you up, and youl be more confident going out with ur mates.
Oh and 1year later she came back begging me to take her back. I ignored her solid for a year.
 
I've never got these people who break up but stay friends. Unless there are kids involved I wouldn't want to have anything remotely to do with an ex. Whenever I've been in a relationship that's broken up I've cut all ties to that person as much as possible (one ex is a friend of my sister-in-law so I unfortunately have to see her at the occasional party or trip to the pub).
 
Matty said:
I've never got these people who break up but stay friends. Unless there are kids involved I wouldn't want to have anything remotely to do with an ex. Whenever I've been in a relationship that's broken up I've cut all ties to that person as much as possible (one ex is a friend of my sister-in-law so I unfortunately have to see her at the occasional party or trip to the pub).
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ever had another go on it for old times sake?
 
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