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How Do You Respond To Stress?
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metalblue said:ctidcarl said:Stress from work - I've recently been promoted and can empathise with you as my "learning curve" is very steep!!
What I've found helpful is prioritising things, so you then get some sort of structure as opposed to everything seeming to be one big muddled heap.
Offload as much as you can (if possible) it isn't fair if you are stressing and others seem to be having the life of riley.
If possible, take a step back - when you're staring at the coal face, you see very little, if you can take a step backwards and see a bigger picture, the picture can be clearer.
As other have said, just talking about it can help - even taking ten minutes to have a coffee with someone, sometimes something is said in passing and you then realise it is good advice.
Hope this is some of that good advice you're after!!
(If not, sack it off!!)
Just remember everyone eventually gets promoted to a job they are incompetent at
That happened years ago - I've just blagged it since!!
EalingBlue2
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A couple of times in the past work has got me pretty stressed - normally driven by me feeling responsible for something that has gone wrong. Work wise I deal with it by trying to get to gym and just tackling the issue head in in manageable chunks. The main manifestation would be a stress cough and being a but withdrawn and switched off in the evening. 18 months ago work was tough!
Two things have changed me a bit both about 18 months ago. One a very senior colleague who is the last person you would expect to be stressed got very tired and stressed and had a panic attack. At the time all the symptoms were of a heart attack and waiting for 30 mins whilst paramedics were battling peak hour traffic trying to deal with it was awful.
Around the same time my 4 year old got an acute burst appendix which was mis diagnosed by a few doctors ( very very rare in young kids and identical pretty much to gastro) fortunately on the 3rd visit in 3 days the most worried doctor we know kicked us off to the kids hospital. Seeing her in intensive care for a few days and sleeping with her on drips and tubes having stomach drained etc was mind numbing. It actually put me in a calm focused zone when I was there with her , but the nights at home when my wife was with her were murder - didn't help that my wife was 32 weeks preggers with an SUA that meant risk of smaller and earlier baby.
In the end everything went well, a week in hospital and then she came home a few weeks later she was 100%, baby came fashionably late and all ok and things calmed down. It changed me a lot though and put things in perspective and as bizarre as it sounds I have been virtually stress free since and if I get stressed I go to the gym and have a think about what happened, how everything turned out ok, try to focus on what really matters in life.
The key is though that sometimes stress or anxiety is situational and you can deal with it like this, sometimes it is medical and this needs to be addressed.
As for work the only advice I can give is speak up ASAP, whether bad news, whether an issue or concern, whether it is something bothering you speak up. Putting things off, going and froing can eat you up and hard conversations are never as hard in reality as in your mind beforehand
Two things have changed me a bit both about 18 months ago. One a very senior colleague who is the last person you would expect to be stressed got very tired and stressed and had a panic attack. At the time all the symptoms were of a heart attack and waiting for 30 mins whilst paramedics were battling peak hour traffic trying to deal with it was awful.
Around the same time my 4 year old got an acute burst appendix which was mis diagnosed by a few doctors ( very very rare in young kids and identical pretty much to gastro) fortunately on the 3rd visit in 3 days the most worried doctor we know kicked us off to the kids hospital. Seeing her in intensive care for a few days and sleeping with her on drips and tubes having stomach drained etc was mind numbing. It actually put me in a calm focused zone when I was there with her , but the nights at home when my wife was with her were murder - didn't help that my wife was 32 weeks preggers with an SUA that meant risk of smaller and earlier baby.
In the end everything went well, a week in hospital and then she came home a few weeks later she was 100%, baby came fashionably late and all ok and things calmed down. It changed me a lot though and put things in perspective and as bizarre as it sounds I have been virtually stress free since and if I get stressed I go to the gym and have a think about what happened, how everything turned out ok, try to focus on what really matters in life.
The key is though that sometimes stress or anxiety is situational and you can deal with it like this, sometimes it is medical and this needs to be addressed.
As for work the only advice I can give is speak up ASAP, whether bad news, whether an issue or concern, whether it is something bothering you speak up. Putting things off, going and froing can eat you up and hard conversations are never as hard in reality as in your mind beforehand
BigJimLittleJim
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EalingBlue2 said:A couple of times in the past work has got me pretty stressed - normally driven by me feeling responsible for something that has gone wrong. Work wise I deal with it by trying to get to gym and just tackling the issue head in in manageable chunks. The main manifestation would be a stress cough and being a but withdrawn and switched off in the evening. 18 months ago work was tough!
Two things have changed me a bit both about 18 months ago. One a very senior colleague who is the last person you would expect to be stressed got very tired and stressed and had a panic attack. At the time all the symptoms were of a heart attack and waiting for 30 mins whilst paramedics were battling peak hour traffic trying to deal with it was awful.
Around the same time my 4 year old got an acute burst appendix which was mis diagnosed by a few doctors ( very very rare in young kids and identical pretty much to gastro) fortunately on the 3rd visit in 3 days the most worried doctor we know kicked us off to the kids hospital. Seeing her in intensive care for a few days and sleeping with her on drips and tubes having stomach drained etc was mind numbing. It actually put me in a calm focused zone when I was there with her , but the nights at home when my wife was with her were murder - didn't help that my wife was 32 weeks preggers with an SUA that meant risk of smaller and earlier baby.
In the end everything went well, a week in hospital and then she came home a few weeks later she was 100%, baby came fashionably late and all ok and things calmed down. It changed me a lot though and put things in perspective and as bizarre as it sounds I have been virtually stress free since and if I get stressed I go to the gym and have a think about what happened, how everything turned out ok, try to focus on what really matters in life.
The key is though that sometimes stress or anxiety is situational and you can deal with it like this, sometimes it is medical and this needs to be addressed.
As for work the only advice I can give is speak up ASAP, whether bad news, whether an issue or concern, whether it is something bothering you speak up. Putting things off, going and froing can eat you up and hard conversations are never as hard in reality as in your mind beforehand
Great post, thanks for sharing Blue.
TheMightyQuinn
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I imagine my child getting bullied and then imagine battering the kid doing it, curb stomping him til his milk teeth are all over the road.
ChesterRdBlue
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I don't really get affected by stress, I guess I don't give enough of a fuck about most things to let them worry me or I may just be lucky and live a pretty stress free existence. I once read that book from Dale Carnegie out of interest, stop worrying and enjoy life it was called, I think. That had some good points, to me at least, he said to think about whatever it is that is worrying you, envisage the worst case scenario and come to terms with it and try to improve that situation, something like that anyway. However, as someone who hasn't suffered with stress, I couldn't say if it would help or is a load of bollocks.
One thing is for sure though we're not here for too long, certainly not long enough to be fretting over things which when you draw your last will mean absolutely fuck all.
One thing is for sure though we're not here for too long, certainly not long enough to be fretting over things which when you draw your last will mean absolutely fuck all.
Bluemanc100
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I'm feeling pretty stressed at work... Too many projects to look after and too much time spent on business travel where I have been unable to catch up...
I did 22 years in the mob and till recently felt bulletproof in respect of coping with stress....
I feel like my batteries are flat though currently as we're in June and I've only had a couple of long weekends this year so far... Three weeks till I have a first break with the folks in Devon ahead of a US trip in October....
My boss has asked a couple of times if I'm ok and I've only just plucked up course to go against my usual stoic attitude and say "no, I'm not great"
Speak out.... It has made me feel better being open... Still knackered but at least I'm being honest
I need to get out on my push bike more and switch off.... It's that or take up whoosh fuck again...
(Golf)
I did 22 years in the mob and till recently felt bulletproof in respect of coping with stress....
I feel like my batteries are flat though currently as we're in June and I've only had a couple of long weekends this year so far... Three weeks till I have a first break with the folks in Devon ahead of a US trip in October....
My boss has asked a couple of times if I'm ok and I've only just plucked up course to go against my usual stoic attitude and say "no, I'm not great"
Speak out.... It has made me feel better being open... Still knackered but at least I'm being honest
I need to get out on my push bike more and switch off.... It's that or take up whoosh fuck again...
(Golf)
Bluemanc100 said:I'm feeling pretty stressed at work... Too many projects to look after and too much time spent on business travel where I have been unable to catch up...
I did 22 years in the mob and till recently felt bulletproof in respect of coping with stress....
I feel like my batteries are flat though currently as we're in June and I've only had a couple of long weekends this year so far... Three weeks till I have a first break with the folks in Devon ahead of a US trip in October....
My boss has asked a couple of times if I'm ok and I've only just plucked up course to go against my usual stoic attitude and say "no, I'm not great"
Speak out.... It has made me feel better being open... Still knackered but at least I'm being honest
I need to get out on my push bike more and switch off.... It's that or take up whoosh fuck again...
(Golf)
22 years in the mob?
Are you onthe witness protection scheme now?
No wonder you're stressed.
On a serious note well done for telling your boss you are stressed.
Phil Meup
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Glad we're all still in one piece.
At least it's Friday tomorrow & it could be worse - could be living in Iraq....
At least it's Friday tomorrow & it could be worse - could be living in Iraq....
Bluemanc100
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chabal said:Bluemanc100 said:I'm feeling pretty stressed at work... Too many projects to look after and too much time spent on business travel where I have been unable to catch up...
I did 22 years in the mob and till recently felt bulletproof in respect of coping with stress....
I feel like my batteries are flat though currently as we're in June and I've only had a couple of long weekends this year so far... Three weeks till I have a first break with the folks in Devon ahead of a US trip in October....
My boss has asked a couple of times if I'm ok and I've only just plucked up course to go against my usual stoic attitude and say "no, I'm not great"
Speak out.... It has made me feel better being open... Still knackered but at least I'm being honest
I need to get out on my push bike more and switch off.... It's that or take up whoosh fuck again...
(Golf)
22 years in the mob?
Are you onthe witness protection scheme now?
No wonder you're stressed.
On a serious note well done for telling your boss you are stressed.
I'm getting paranoid now!!! i got a call from one of the directors today, been offered an Account Manager's job for a busy project....... I've been involved with it for over a year anyway.
The earlier post about promoting deadheads then f****** them off got me worried ;-)
The 22 years in the mob were also 22 years of "undetected crime" got up to allsorts but never got charged once!!! fuck knows how