I've been building houses for 30 years mate. I won't claim to know anything about the building regs over there and we build houses very differently over here. Having said that, the vapour barrier is there to stop the warm air inside the house and the cold air on the other side of the drywall coming into contact with each other. Insulation alone will not cut it.
I'm not sure what PIR insulation is but we have used nothing but spray foam insulation for close to ten years now as it doesn't need a vapour barrier. It's expensive and if it's not done right can cause a shitload of problems.
Now, my house is an older, double brick house (I'm what you call a cavity wall), and the inside of the windows are dripping all winter long. I do my best to deal with it but it's mostly a dehumidifier and a lot of paper towels.
The reason it's doing this is because I framed and insulated/vapour the basement (no condensation down there) and not the main floor (bungalow).
It's not the end of the world mate but I feel your pain.