another generation
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Is this the 'complete life' decided on by society at large?TangerineSteve17 said:
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Is life better with or without kids?
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dronefromsector7g
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TangerineSteve17
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another generation said:Is this the 'complete life' decided on by society at large?TangerineSteve17 said:I can understand people choosing not to have kids. But in my opinion, you can not live a complete life without having them.
Nope, just my irrelevant opinion. Just an experience I wouldn't want to miss, being a dad.
another generation
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What constitutes a 'complete' life, though? When someone passes away and the family meet with the officiant to discuss the eulogy, do we want to be someone who fits in with the norm, or someone who really has lived a full life?TangerineSteve17 said:Nope, just my irrelevant opinion. Just an experience I wouldn't want to miss, being a dad.another generation said:Is this the 'complete life' decided on by society at large?TangerineSteve17 said:I can understand people choosing not to have kids. But in my opinion, you can not live a complete life without having them.
DiscoSteve
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if you've never had kids you will never comprehend or understand the bond that a parent has with their children
this absolutely overrides ANY and I do mean ANY possible negative angle that a non-parent could present as a reason not to have kids
this absolutely overrides ANY and I do mean ANY possible negative angle that a non-parent could present as a reason not to have kids
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worsleyweb
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BlueHammer85 said:worsleyweb said:BlueHammer85 said:Been raising a kid last few years - never really appreciated how lucky I was. Cant describe the heart ache once you don't see them for a few months.
Hard work but precious and the best part of living.
Have you no rights mate? How many years did you raise him or her for?
Raised my ex girlfriends baby girl pretty much from birth for 3 and half years - the kid isn't mine.
She's now met another fella and moved away - it was my choice to cut all ties as it won't work. She has a new guy in her life and her real dad has come back on the scene. Don't want anymore hurt to be honest, and it's to confusing for the kid ,Toughest choice I've made and one that kills me every day but did it for the little ones sake.
Wow that is tough! Maybe you are young enough to have your own again one day? Or you could get in touch in a few years? Via letter at first or maybe via social media? good luck fella.
another generation
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Well, that's us childless ones damned to eternity.DiscoSteve said:if you've never had kids you will never comprehend or understand the bond that a parent has with their children.
TangerineSteve17
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another generation said:What constitutes a 'complete' life, though? When someone passes away and the family meet with the officiant to discuss the eulogy, do we want to be someone who fits in with the norm, or someone who really has lived a full life?TangerineSteve17 said:Nope, just my irrelevant opinion. Just an experience I wouldn't want to miss, being a dad.another generation said:Is this the 'complete life' decided on by society at large?
Experience I would have thought.
Reading what I said again "You can not have a complete life without having them" - that does sound like an arrogant sentence. In fact it is.
Everyone is different. I have no judgement whatsoever of someone who doesn't want to reproduce. In fact, me being the complete fuck up I am, it might've been better if I didn't have any kids.
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dronefromsector7g
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He's not saying that AG. Before my daughter was born I was happy enough but now she's here I feel like the jigsaw is complete and I could never have believed how strong the bond is. Your kids literally become a part of you, the down side is the worrying about them so much.another generation said:Well, that's us childless ones damned to eternity.DiscoSteve said:if you've never had kids you will never comprehend or understand the bond that a parent has with their children.
another generation
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It's an interesting debate, and one definitely assisted by the imbibing of vast quantities of malt whisky...TangerineSteve17 said:Experience I would have thought.another generation said:What constitutes a 'complete' life, though? When someone passes away and the family meet with the officiant to discuss the eulogy, do we want to be someone who fits in with the norm, or someone who really has lived a full life?TangerineSteve17 said:Nope, just my irrelevant opinion. Just an experience I wouldn't want to miss, being a dad.
Everyone is different. I have no judgement whatsoever of someone who doesn't want to reproduce. In fact, me being the complete fuck up I am, it might've been better if I didn't have any kids.
I go through periods where I feel that I am absolutely worthless on this planet, that I have no use to anyone. This is despite me having a real purpose to many. (At the end of the day, it's all a matter of self-belief.) Would I feel as if I had a purpose if I had children who were dependent on my feeding them, changing them, providing for them, paying them, etc? Is this one of the reasons why some people have children - to give themselves a purpose?
(Time for bed, I'm afraid. Not stirring, just enjoying a good discussion.)